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Now its time for me

Hi any one out there for me to talk to as a mum of a beautiful 16 teenage daughter with social anxiety disorder. Or as she puts it not a disorder. I don't like the word too. Spend the last 3 years and more fighting her corner. She in very good hands of CAMHS and hospital education. Now its time for me. After having a public melt down nearly 2 wks ago in front of my friend of 26 years I finally taken to go to the Dr on monday with a letter on how I feeling, what is happening in our family ie. the stresses, how I feel etc. Rang our local mental health service number given by DR. Waiting for telephone assessment I feel angry and frustrated and that has affected me, my health, my family and well everything.
So that's me at the moment ....
So that's me at the moment ....
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Welcome to the community.
Sounds like you've had a really stressful time, you've obviously done an amazing job supporting your daughter, and I hope the local services are able to give you the support you need.
Do you have any other people you can go to for support? I'm sure there are many people on here who had similar experiences.
We put together a few tips a couple of weeks ago about mental health that might me of interest: https://www.scope.org.uk/Support/Tips/Disabled-people/Mental-Health
Will keep you all update on what is happening to me...
Do you have much support from your friends? I find it invaluable to have other parents to talk to, even though they may not have the answer, it is so good to know you arent alone. Sometimes we assume that our friends are perfect parents who arent having issues with their own families but I have always found that once one person speaks honestly, everyone else admits their own struggles too!
Best of luck to you and keep in touch and let us know how it goes on.
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I have a very supportive church family especially some close friends in church. Some people have know me for years 22 years to be exact. I know some people who's son suffered with depression in his teenage years. Now doing very well at college. Other parent one of my closest friends has a grown up daughter with anxiety too. So my church has parents who are not perfect just like me.
I will keep everyone posted.
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I heard something on the radio a while back, it was a woman talking about how through the weeks, she often stuffs her handbag with receipts and lists, letters and other things she needs to do. Each one of the things that needs sorting isnt overwhelming on it's own but by the time she gets to the end of the month, her handbag is jammed full of things that need organising and it feels like too much of a big job to sort it all out.
She was saying that our minds are like this, that we collect so many little things, problems that arise, issues we need to resolve and then we end up overwhelmed by all our problems.
She said we need to be better at dealing with each issue as it arises so we dont stuff our heads (and our handbags!) so full that the task to untangle them feels like too big a job.
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We had another appointment with CAMHS and my daughter's physcharist plus hosptial education. Making a new plan for my daughter's progress into sixth form.
The physcharist has offered me an appointment to see me which I am going to take up the offer. So I will keep you up dated on that.
I done a taster session for my local oxfam shop and will be starting a regular shift on a monday morning. I was told by the staff that even at my trial I was an asset. Still working on benefits need to chase that up feel off my radar due to technical issues with the charity computers etc.
When I feel ill taking it easy and not being to hard on myself.
Sounds great, the Oxfam shop is clearly lucky to have you!