Self harm

trash36

Hi I'm looking for techniques to reduce my harming please x

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Markmywords

Hello @trash36

I suggest you also take a look at the Mind and SelfharmUK websites as they specialise in such matters.

If I had something better to offer I would. Don't feel alone as you clearly aren't.

Good luck.

trash36

Thank you x

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will22

HI @trash36 ;,


That's a really tricky question to answer without a lot more info. People can cause harm to themselves for lots of different reasons, - trying to express something, a response to stress or anger - working out why it's happening is key to finding the best way of managing it and moving to a place where it doesn't happen any more. 

Without knowing more about you I can't give you a specific answer, but I would encourage you to try and understand why it happens and either make a plan yourself or access some help to help you understand and make a plan for managing it.

The websites that Markmywords has suggested are a good place to start. Mind  is a great resource for accessing direct support and learning about what affects others. 

other than this, as others have suggested, exercise, breathing exercises things like this can be helpful. Follow the links on the MIND website to get some more info on these techniques. 

HFALaura52

hi there, i know exactly how you feel, i have attempted suicide multiple times and had multiple admissions to psychiatric wards, i only managed to stop self harming after 2 years, in december 2016, one thing i found that helped, is when i was diagnosed with autism last august (2016) at the age of almost 17, before that i had been going to CAMHS, child and adolescent mental health services, and seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist, and had tried multiple different medications... but when i was diagnosed with autism i knew what i was deaing with (because it all built up when i started secondary school) i would lock myself in the toliets, i was badly bullied, i changed 7 secondary schools and was only at college for a week, and when i learnt that i had autism it made me feel like i was vallidated rather than having labels like "social anxiety" and "generalised anxiety" and "depression" which came about because of my autism, also things like ice packs, if you feel the need to self harm put an ice pack on that area, or flicking a hairband/elastic band against the area, also soothing things help, like having a bath with a bath bomb, or having scented candles, putting on fluffy socks and a onesie, cuddling up with my dogs and my mum and eating junk food helps, and reminding yourself of the positives in your life, i know its hard but write down all the positive things there are in your life in a book/notepad and decorate it nicely so you can look at it and remind yourself! start a positive scrapbook maybe, also talk to someone you can trust about how you feel, like your partner, mum, dad, friend, cousin, nan, grandad, friends, anyone, even going to a quiet cafe near you and letting it all out to someone you trust is good! or if you dont feel you can talk to them, write it down/text it to them, its all going to be ok i hope i helped... laura xxx

Sam_Alumni

Though this is aimed at young people, there is some great advice on the Childline website.