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Councilmbot giving permission for mum to move in with me

Hi I'm in temporary housing single mum with 2 children. I fleed DV.
recently my mother had a fall in my brothers house. She broke her hip and went into hospital. Whilst in hospital she told me she didn't want to return to the house due to years of DV and she was afraid of going back.
I bought her into my temporary housing and she is with me now.
Ive asked the council to add her to my housing application as she now has a disabikty and she's very vulnerable .
however they have refused. I don't no what to do as mum doesn't have anywhere else to go. She doesn't want to go to a care home or live alone. She's not a home owner so she is homeless. I want to look after her as I've been through DV too and I know how she feels.
she also has arthritis of the kneck and the knee and can't walk very far. Only with a Zimmer frame she can move but not long lengths until she gets tired.
the council are refusing for her to live with me as they said they don't have a duty towards her but only towards me and my 2 children. Help
recently my mother had a fall in my brothers house. She broke her hip and went into hospital. Whilst in hospital she told me she didn't want to return to the house due to years of DV and she was afraid of going back.
I bought her into my temporary housing and she is with me now.
Ive asked the council to add her to my housing application as she now has a disabikty and she's very vulnerable .
however they have refused. I don't no what to do as mum doesn't have anywhere else to go. She doesn't want to go to a care home or live alone. She's not a home owner so she is homeless. I want to look after her as I've been through DV too and I know how she feels.
she also has arthritis of the kneck and the knee and can't walk very far. Only with a Zimmer frame she can move but not long lengths until she gets tired.
the council are refusing for her to live with me as they said they don't have a duty towards her but only towards me and my 2 children. Help
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If she is assessed and it is decided they do have a duty to house her they may then consider a joint tenancy, on the grounds that it would free up one of the homes.
I'm afraid the news doesn't get any better, if the council consider you to be overcrowded or in breach of your temporary tenancy or conditions they could take the position that you are making yourself deliberately homeless by keeping your mother with you, meaning they would no longer have a duty to you and your children.
You need to get proper housing advice as quickly as possible, I have had a quick look and could not find a specialist housing advisor though @Sam_Scope may know one or if the scope telephone advisers will be able to help, otherwise try your local CAB or Shelter on 0808 800 4444.
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@Debbie_Scope works for our helpline and also helps us out here on the community and has a lot of experience in housing - do you have any advice here Debbie?
Senior online community officer
This is really complex and I mirror everything @Geoark has advised above and would urge you to get in touch with Shelter for some legal advice.
There's also information on Shelter's website about becoming Homeless due to Domestic Violence
Where was your Mum living before she went into hospital? You mention that she fell while at your brother's house but I can't tell from that if this was her usual place of residence or whether she was visiting. Did she have a property of her own?
I think your Mum needs to make a homeless application in her own right. If she is owed a duty the housing department could then consider housing you together for the longer term but I think unless she applies as homeless in her own right she's not going to be able to move forward and I wouldn't want you to jeopardise your temporary accommodation.
Lets us know how you get on with this and whether you're able to get the right help in place.
Best wishes
Debbie
Senior online community officer
You could contact your MP for help. MPs have a lot of power.
If you haven't already done so I think it's worth getting in touch with Women's Aid. It sounds like your mum is going to need lots of support and if the council aren't coming forward with temporary accommodation or taking a homeless application, Women's Aid might be able to provide accommodation or assistance to get this homeless application through.
I don't see any harm in asking for a needs assessment from Adult Social Care. They too have a duty to help and might be able to put pressure on the housing department.
Which Council are you applying to?
The Council can't refuse to take a homeless application. If your Mum is eligible for assistance, homeless and in priority need, there is an immediate duty to provide interim accommodation while they make the rest of their enquiries.
The property your Mum was residing in, was it a joint tenancy? She may have other legal options to look at in terms of her rights of occupation of the home she shared with your Father. This is really complex legal work though and will need a solicitor.
How are you all holding up? This is a really difficult situation to be in, for all of you.
If you need to talk in private let me know and we'll arrange to get your number and I'll give you a call tomorrow.
Best wishes
Debbie
I've sent you an email and I hope to speak to you soon.
Hold off from contacting your local MP at this moment. With the General Election coming up, Parliament has been dissolved and civil servants are now in the 'purdah' period. You might not get a quick response during this period. Hopefully we can talk things through over the phone today and come up with a plan.
Best wishes
Debbie
I'm very grateful for the time you have given me I felt so alone these past few weeks
Thank you