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Caring for husband with learning disabilities - need support
hi everyone I am looking for help and support about adults with learning disabilities, I have been a carer to my husband since the day we married 17 yrs ago. when we met he seemed fine but had said he had dyslexia this was not a problem to me and I understood. he was so different to the day after the wedding the change was rapid and I didn't know the man I was with, he suddenly couldn't function on so many levels he had dropped the guard and finally I saw the reality of who he was. I know this sounds strange but lying is 1 of his talents he has so many issues too many too name after years i couldn't cope and had him tested and dr said he had learning difficulties and saw no hope of improving, so I carried on trying to look after him and have us much as a life as I could looking after him and 3 kids. life rolls on and he appears to get less able to cope and causes a lot of heartache along the way, I know he doesn't mean it but suddenly at 50 i have got so stressed and cry all the time and feel i cant do it on my own anymore. I have been ill for months with a separate issue and knew I had to do it all even then, and thats when it hit me I cant do it and need help. at the moment I do not want to go back to work as i feel deflated and alone on this issue, when I speak to family they say you cant leave he would do something silly just for the attention and he wouldn't cope (faked several heart attacks and endless illnesses resulting going to hospital regular for attention) I feel bad but I am getting older and feel imprisoned and guilty for thinking and feeling this way. any help would be great thanks