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Old Guidelines from 1965
I don't know if anyone can help me with a really old problem. I was born in the 1950s with mild CP on my right side & a curved spine & spent my childhood going to hospital for physiotherapy etc. I used to see an Orthopaedic Surgeon which I did not like. For some reason he gave me the creeps and I did not like being in the room with him and used to hate it when he examined me. My Mother (who I don't have a good relationship with because of childhood issues) I cannot remember a lot about my childhood & she refuses to talk to me about it. Since I was young I have felt unwanted by my family & even sometimes that my Mother was not my Mother. However a few years ago I decided to apply to to the local hospital for my childhood records but they replied my childhood records had been destroyed in accordance with Department of Health Guidelines of 1965. Does anyone know anything about these. They found a few pieces of correspondence which they sent me copies of. I also applied to my GP for my records but the early records are a bit vague but there is some correspondence in them. One piece of correspondence shows I should have been referred somewhere else but it did not happen. My hospital records date from the late 70s when I fell & broke some vertebrae in my lower back & had to have them fused together with bone & they partially straightened my spine at the same time. This lasted until 12-13 years when I started to get pains & had to have the fusion done again with titanium rods put in. I have arthritis, spondylisis, & deterioration on my right side. I am also puzzled as to why my Mother gave birth in a different hospital further away when as lived & had been attending classes at the maternity unit a few streets away. She was staying at my Grandmothers house which was nearer the hospital when the labour started & my Grandmother went physically down to the ambulance station situated at the bottom of the road & an ambulance came & took my Mother to the other hospital. My Mother will not talk to me about it & will not apply for the records about it. I was physically abused by teachers at school. I was abused by a dentist but I am not sure how far it went. I used to go to the dentist who insisted I needed my teeth constantly filling & used to knock me out with anaesthetic by putting a large rubber mask on my face which covered it (I cannot stand anything covering my face now) & I always felt odd afterwards. My clothes seemed to be messed up. He had a large nurse who would hold you down whilst he put the mask on your face. After a few years my Mother suddenly took me to another Dental Practice. At the first check up the new Dentist was horrified at my mouth. There was nothing wrong with my teeth & the fillings were not done properly. There was only a small amount filling which is why they kept needing to be done. When he mentioned about having to do all the fillings again I remember freaking out & getting hysterical & screaming & would not stop. I had to be taken to a private room & given something which sedated me. It was a much bigger practice & I was passed to a different dentist who specialised in nervous patients who really helped me & over a few weeks I had the fillings re done. It turns out the fillings were not necessary as my teeth were fine. I stayed with him till he retired. I have am still nervous about going to the dentist but can cope better but still get a bit worked up when the fillings have to be replaced but my current Practice know about me. The only fillings I actually needed was two on my front teeth which I broke when I had my fall in the 70s. All this need to find out about my past is because of all the historical sex abuse allegations which have come out over the past few years. A few years ago I had a mental breakdown because of abuse at work & treatment for it has bought my childhood problems to the surface & I have suffered PTSD. I have tried Group Therapy twice but cannot cope with it but I can do 1 to 1. Deep down I feel I need answers from my childhood but cannot get them & feel I will not really improve until I know about my childhood good or bad.
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