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Feeling terrible

crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
Feeling really really really miserable

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  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    Hello @cripps. I just found this after seeing your comment on a welcome and introduction post, so I hope you don't mind my responding. I'm a volunteer here and may be missing for bits of this evening but I will be here as much as I can, probably until quite late tonight. Can you talk to me? Can you tell me why you feel so bad just now? I promise I will listen and I will reply to you as quickly as I can.
    Please talk to me, cripps.
    Here and listening, sorry for your pain,
    Richard
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Hi Richard, just can’t seem to get myself out of this very low mood, I’ve been out and about with my so called friends again today but for some reason and not for the first time i always feel like I’m on my own. Is it me feeling paranoid or my depression but i sit there in silence and looking in.
  • janejrjanejr Member Posts: 141 Pioneering
    Hi @cripps sorry your not feeling well . Scope is here to listen there are lots of people who want to help you. Please don't be shy I know it's hard to talk sometimes when your feeling so low. But Richard and myself will do all we can to help even if it's just to listen. There is always a way Cripps , these feelings won't last forever. 
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    I understand what you’re saying but these feelings I’m having do seem to last for every , they always do and i can’t find anybody to talk to about them, i want to be happy but what can i do? I don’t have any friends and i don’t have any family, i live on my own, I’m wheelchair bound and I hate where i live . 
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  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    Hi @cripps. I'm going to have to depart for a little while but I will be back as soon as I can be. In the meantime can you tell us more? I do understand 'aloneness', believe me. Why do you think of these people as 'so-called friends'? Not that you may not have very good reason, I'm just interested to know.
    And perhaps you would tell us about your condition and how it affects you?
    Take care. Back soon,
    Richard
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Thank you it’s nice to have you around
  • yshelemyyshelemy Member Posts: 3 Listener
    Dear Cripps, you do have friends. You went out with them just recently.  I bet they had no idea of how you were feeling. Maybe you could invite one or two of those friends around to share a pizza and a bottle of wine. It is very hard for people who have never had depression to understand what it feels like. That might be a good time to try and explain how it effects you.  Good luck. Xx
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Yes it’s not a bad idea i just need to find someone to talk to and to be told to pull myself together. 
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Depression is a very bad friend to have
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Ok for you I’ll give them a go
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    This one is for you and listening when i needed it most ⭐️
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  • janejrjanejr Member Posts: 141 Pioneering
    Hello again @cripps no one that's had depression would tell you to pull yourself together as they would know it doesn't work like that. Being lonely doesn't help either but now your here on scope and can talk to us. Are you seeing a doctor about your depression.? 
  • debbiedo49debbiedo49 Member Posts: 2,906 Disability Gamechanger
    Hope you get on okay @cripps
    💜🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿
    I am a fibro warrior !💜♏️
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  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    @cripps Still here, friend.
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    I’m here and will be as my friends on the forum are
  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    Are you feeling any better? Is there stuff it might be helpful to you to talk about?
  • janejrjanejr Member Posts: 141 Pioneering
    Hi @cripps do you find putting your thoughts in to words. Maybe it would help if I ask what sort of things you like to do. Have you got any hobbies or interests we could chat about. Favourite movies or music. Anything you really dislike.
  • yshelemyyshelemy Member Posts: 3 Listener
    Hey Cripps, for goodness sake do not listen to or even entertain the thought that you 'have to pull yourself together'  If it was that easy we would all do it.  Just choose one friend at a time to confide in.  You might be surprised to find that they have suffered with depression at one time or another in their lives.  Do not under any circumstances think that you are the only one, or that you are moaning without good cause.  In fact you are not moaning, you are just giving people  information about how you are feeling.  If it feels a lot for them to deal with, ask them how do they think you feel having to live with it.
    I am sorry if I sound a bit aggressive about it, but that saying of 'Pull yourself together' really gets to me.  No-one could seriously think that anyone chooses to feel this way.  I hope you are feeling better today. Remember it is just one moment at a time.  those moments will build into days. x
  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Member Posts: 99 Courageous
    @cripps

    You have done so well by just coming on to the forum and beginning to talk about how you are feeling and what is happening for you. I can hear that things are very difficult for you but you deserve to get help and support. I know that the thought of talking to your GP can be very difficult but your GP is there to help you, to support you and to listen to you. 

    Rebecca
  • 18041804 Member Posts: 30 Connected
    Any one have trouble with Mental health. Suffer from depression. Which does not help pain either. Went to Mind. No help or support. And they suppose to help with Mental Health.
  • 18041804 Member Posts: 30 Connected
    They let me down. I don't want to go there again after my experience 
  • 18041804 Member Posts: 30 Connected
    I found I tried to get help. Where can u go  
  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    Hello @1804. I've commented on two of your posts this evening and your situation seems complicated and threatening to you. I know you're looking for help and I am hoping we'll be able to supply it. I would like @RebeccaMHadvisor to have a chance to look at some of your concerns.
    As I said in the post about bullying, the best thing you can do is to tell us as much as you can about what conditions you have, how your life is affected and how you feel about it all. Doesn't matter if it's a long post - we WILL read it, and gladly.
    Hope you are safely tucked up tonight,
    Here and listening,
    Warmest best wishes,
    Richard
  • 18041804 Member Posts: 30 Connected
    I will do. But must rest today as in agony. Been very stressed just had Mediation fail. I pulled out as was bullied. Need to unwind as the stress has taken its toll since before Christmas. It was a horrible situation going to get help. Then 4 people go and put pressure on. And not even let me take a friend. They said if I did no mediation. But it was too much for my mental health this pressure. I thought it was bad. Seeing one of them was representin me and she runs mind. It's a long story. And need to destroys as my blood pressure. Has been so high because of this. It has made my pain worse. I own 39.1 per cent of house. The family are trying to take control of my life. How to dress. Knock on door when they like. Just turn up. Shout my name through letter box. Lie if I tell anyone what they doing is wrong. They lie to your face and others and believe their own lies. Just to get control. I cut them off have not let them in for 2 years. But why should I be abused. Can't find an Avacacy service. Social Service waste of time narcissus lied and got them on their side. So no proof of been silent bullied. They just get away with this. Can't get socal housing as own part of a house that I can't get out of. And even if I did not enough to buy property  about 100, 000 But if I was given money. Can't have money in bank as on benefits pip and esa. Your not allowed more than 16,000 in bank. Have a deed of trust between us all. It says


  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    A complicated situation @1804. I hope we can find ways to help you out. And sorry this is late but I've been away all day.
    Still here, still listening, will hopefully get back to you soon.
    Warmest best wishes,
    Richard
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
  • JennysDadJennysDad Member Posts: 2,308 Pioneering
    Hi @cripps. Pulling a late-nighter tonight :smile:
  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Just tried to sleep again, I’d give anything to have 8 hours, just can’t sleep. I can sleep in the day when my meds kick in but at night but night time just utterly cr—p!!!!! 
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    I wouldn’t discuss what day it was with my GP . 
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    The problem is is if i don’t take my meds in the morning i can’t stand the pain all day till i take them at night. 
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Ok thanks no problem.
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    It’s ok I’ve been feeling like this for the past 3 years so i sort something out.
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  • crippscripps Member Posts: 411 Pioneering
    Thanks for asking, my cat has just passed out next to me on the couch, can’t believe how much sleep these cats do, i think he’s sleeping for both of us!!!
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  • RebeccaMHadvisorRebeccaMHadvisor Member Posts: 99 Courageous
    Hello @1804

    It's great that you feel that you have been able to open up to the community about what is happening for you at the moment. I can hear that things are very difficult and I understand that finding the right help can be very difficult. 
    It sounds to me that you are in an abusive situation. Abusive relationships take many different forms. I am wondering if you have tried talking to your GP about the situation and that you feel that it is abuse. Your GP might not be able to help directly but should be able to sign post you.

    Rebecca
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