Help with extra care days, spitting, and being violent

harmonybubbles

Hi there my daughters name is Harmony and she has autism I need help with extra care days please. 

harmonybubbles

I've been feeling under a lot of stress lately she's been spitting more than usual getting angry and violent all the time

harmonybubbles

And I'm new this page as well just hoping I am able to get help on this site

Roma_Fletcher

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It can be very difficult to live how you are living at the moment. I've been on this site for about a week now. A lot of good advice is given here. I'm sorry that I can't give you advice, I can only listen. Someone should get in touch with you soon. Bless you and take care @harmonybubbles ❤️❤️

Lasian_Alumni

Hi @harmonybubbles, welcome to the community!

It sounds like going through a really tough time, I'm sorry to hear it and I hope we can give you some useful advice and support.

How old is your daughter? Please do have a look at our information about available support for parents, and you might also find our page for managing challenging behaviour useful.

JennysDad

Just saying hello and welcome, @harmonybubbles. Lasian_Scope has already pointed you in the best direction, so all I can add is that we're here and listening, should there be anything else.
Don't hesitate to be in touch.
Warmest best wishes,
Richard

debbiedo49

Welcome and hope you get some pointers from folks on here

janejr

Hello @harmonybubbles I'm sorry to hear you are struggling and not having support. I used to work teaching autistic teens who had learning disabilities and challenging behaviour so I know how hard this must be for you. Do you know what triggers your daughter's behaviour and then we could try to find strategies in dealing with it. The lads I used to work with were wonderful but would lash out in frustration when they could not express themselves. They were big lads and it could be quiet frightening I got hurt a lot but never gave up and it was so worth it when things went well and they were able to make progress. I loved my job. Is your daughter an adult or a child. Does she have any support from any care agencies. 

janejr

Forgot to say welcome to scope @harmonybubbles. This is a lovely site with friendly helpful people I sure someone here will be able to help. 

Sam_Alumni

@Jean_Scope can you help at all?

Jean_OT

Hi @harmonybubbles

Welcome to the community.

So, from what you have written it sounds as if you feel that your daughter’s behaviour has become increasingly challenging and as a result you need additional support to care for her.

Increasing her care package – if her needs have changed you need to contact the local authority and ask for a reassessment of her care needs. If you have already tried this and there isn’t agreement between yourselves and the local authority you may need to seek local advice/advocacy to contest their decision. The Scope Directory may assist you with identifying a local disability information service: https://www.scope.org.uk/Support/Service-directory#panel-map Alternatively, the National Autistic Society may be able to signpost you to sources of specialist advice: http://www.autism.org.uk/get-involved/about-us/contact-us.aspx

 

Supporting your daughter with her behaviour- Understanding why your daughter’s behaviour has changed will be the key to trying to address the issues. Do talk to her GP and request appropriate referrals to health professional that can work with you to explore what is going on and try to devise strategies to improve things. The Challenging Behaviour Foundation may also be an appropriate source of advice and support for you: http://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk/supporting-you/for-families/for-families.html

Best Wishes

Jean

debbiedo49

Does your daughter have other help coming in from school etc?