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Are there any links between Cerebral Palsy and an inability to orgasm

JennieGilliesJennieGillies Member Posts: 6 Listener
edited April 2018 in Dating and relationships
My name is Jennie and I am 24 years old. I have mild spastic deplegia. When I have sex and also when I masturbate I am unable to orgasm. There’s always a point where the sex or masturbation feels really good and then it’s like I hit a wall and get super nauseous and then any pleasureable feeling goes away but I never orgasm. 

Does this happen to others and is there any medical explaination linked to my CP that could cause this reaction? 


  • PSHEexpertPSHEexpert Member Posts: 170 Pioneering
    Hi Jennie!

    The short answer to this is: I don't know, but the long answer is: I am going to go and try and find out! 

    I work with lots of people with CP who have very varied experiences of sexual function, enjoyment and orgasm, but your experience - of nausea - is a new one to me.  I wonder if there is a link with sensory processing and whether you have ever had any issues with that?

    Can you park this one with me and I will send some emails?
    - Gill 
  • JennieGilliesJennieGillies Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Of course! Take your time! I’m just happy to have a platform to ask the question. 

    I’m super reactive to touch of any kind and now that I think about it, yeah I guess I am sensitive to sensory processing. I don’t like loud noises, going down hills in cars or swinging high or turbulence on planes makes me tense up. Like I said before, be it sex with another person or masturbation it’s good and good and good and then all of a sudden it’s not good anymore and whatever pleasureable sensation needs to stop because it’s not pleasureable anymore and I’m super nauseous. 

    Are those the kinds of things you’re looking for? 

  • PSHEexpertPSHEexpert Member Posts: 170 Pioneering
    Hello!  Yes that was exactly what I was after - I have circulated the question out with my colleagues from the sex and disability alliance and I have had some interesting responses.  It does seem that it might be A Thing. I had one response in particular from a clinician in Sweden who explained that he had encountered similar issues in female clients with CP and MS and had been advised that there can sometimes be an issue with transference with pleasure and pain receptors where there is extended friction, and suggested looking at different places/ways of stimulation (maybe more indirect, for example).  
    - Gill 
  • JennieGilliesJennieGillies Member Posts: 6 Listener
    Thank you so much!! This is so helpful! 
  • mossycowmossycow Member Posts: 495 Pioneering
    Are you on any medication? 

    "I'm trying to live like a random poem I read that ended 'to bloom where we are planted"

  • JennieGilliesJennieGillies Member Posts: 6 Listener
    @mossycow I am right now but I wasn’t when I first noticed this 
  • mossycowmossycow Member Posts: 495 Pioneering
    I see, Hmmmmm. Sorry, hope that wasn't too personal. I just had similar (possibly?) experience on some medications. Drove me bananas...

    Agree with above suggestion of variation... 

    "I'm trying to live like a random poem I read that ended 'to bloom where we are planted"

  • Lizzy23Lizzy23 Member Posts: 1 Connected
    Hi Jennie & Gill,

    I do not quite have the abrupt reaction of nausea that Jennie described in reaction to heightening pleasure, but everything up to it. For me, it's almost like my body can't process anything more than 'feeling good'. This includes Jennie, how you feel with turbulence and different motions - pretty much identical. I have the addition of learning to sail, however I cannot handle larger boats/ships and feel very seasick. Even when I sailed - I had to spend a couple of minutes just sitting in the boat to take in the motion, and then once started moving I cannot stay still for long as the bobbing in the water is unsettling.

    So thank you for posting the question.
  • mancmissmancmiss Member Posts: 6 Listener
    I thought sex was just the same for anyone  cerebral palsy or not? I’ve been having sex since I was 16/17 and it was fine . But I find dating extremely tough in my 30s. Does anyone else struggle with dating apps? I’m intrigued to hear your experiences 
  • Richard_ScopeRichard_Scope Posts: 2,725

    Scope community team

    Sex and they ways that our bodies respond is different for everybody, CP or non-CP. Dating apps can be a complete minefield. What are your struggles? When I was in the dating game, I found the complete lack of honesty that came with online dating sites a challenge.
    Specialist Information Officer - Cerebral Palsy

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