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Children removed by social services due to parents disability

My daughter has just turned 15 she was removed by social services and adopted against my wishes as a baby due to my (at the time diagnosed) disability - I cannot be the only one, here is my story (this video is 6 years old but still mostly up-to-date) :- 

Can anyone else relate? am I the only one?


  • ColourfullColourfull Member Posts: 59 Courageous
    Hi Jean,

    Not the same Situation as yours but S.Services were involved.

    The Only Part I Can Relate to is that my Sister who has Schizophrenia accused my mum who has now died and my husband of S Abuse of my then 4 children.
    So all my Children had to Have a Medical when Small on My Birthday of All Days which Left Me Really Upset and Furious as their was Nothing Wrong with My Children @t all they were very well looked after.
    After the Medicals the Case was Dropped No Proof.
    What I Cannot get over is why my Sister did what she did to me.
    And Could be why I Cannot get over what happened in 1982.
    The Even worst thing was they were accusing my family of above when in fact it was me that was abused as a teenager by my brother but it wasn't about me only my kids so was a double what I had to deal with n still don't know how to deal with the above.
    Any helpfully ideas would be usefully.


  • MilkieMooMilkieMoo Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Hi Jean.
    I know you posted a while ago but I have only just joined. 
    I have a sort of similar thing in a roundabout way. 
    My grandson is in Foster Care atm. I had a viability assessment which was deemed negative by the
    social worker. I complained and wrote a 10 page correction to her assessment.  This was ignored. The main reason was due to my physical and mental health. The trouble is she only put down negatives about my health..
    Basically she saw me as an ill disabled person and not as a person who has disabilities - it' totally different with the first one being in line with disability discrimination.
    I went to court last Tuesday and had to represent myself asking the judge permission to go forward and apply for legal guardianship for my grandson. Thankfully the judge awarded me the chance to apply. I know with the Social Workers anti attitude I have everything going against me but I need to know I have tried everything. 
    It' so hard. I have looked after my grandson a lot for his first 7+ years of his life then for him to be taken away and for me not being able to see him. His want is to live with me.
    It' disgraceful!!! Xx
  • TopkittenTopkitten Member Posts: 1,263 Pioneering
    From my experience with Social Workers I have a very low opinion of them and how well they are trained. Nowadays most of them have spent many years in college and / or university, coming out with a lot of new ideas that are usually completely unworkable in the real world (this problem doesn't just apply to SW's though). People who spend their life teaching often lose touch with real world situations.

    It really is a shame that such people can make life or death judgements about other people when they really aren't capable of doing so. More often such decisions are more to protect some imagined or anonymously informed situation that often turns out to be both untrue and unrealistic. Why anyone would make decisions about children from any anonymous accusation is really laughable as most anonymous accusations are made just out of spite or jealousy.

    For myself \I was treated badly by 2 experienced Social Workers and then was completely screwed over by a trainee Social Worker who simply had no idea what she was supposed to do or how she was supposed to do it. Complaints about them are handled internally so that they can cover up the plethitude of mistakes they make and they are quite capable of lying and putting compete fabrications illegally into people's records to cover up such mistakes (as has happened to me). Such actions can not only make life difficult for people but can actually be dangerous to them (as has also happened to me).

    I feel sorry for anyone that has problems with Social Workers because it can be so damaging to them, often for no reason whatsoever.

    "I'm on the wrong side of heaven and the righteous side of hell" - from Wrong side of heaven by Five Finger Death Punch.
  • clarabelleclarabelle Member Posts: 71 Courageous
    I lost my grandchildren to adoption because I'm physically disabled. 

    If you are in this process tape everything,;including meetings with the cafcass guardian.  

    The bottom line for courts is financial cost,;but they won't admit it. 

    Children's services should class your grandson as a child in need and assess your situation as such and offer support.

    Try to get your doctor and health visitor to write to them, and speak to the family rights group. 

    The recorder, not even a judge,;in my case, wrote in his statement that 'specific legislation does apply' - he was referring to the equality act.

    You should be able to get legal aid for a lawyer to help you with the process. 

    And get 3 references from people that have known you as a parent,  grandparent etc,;as well as an employee to submit to the court. 

    Good luck 
  • mikehughescqmikehughescq Member Posts: 6,606 Disability Gamechanger
    Very easy to criticise social workers without knowing the context in which they operate. Public sector cuts have limited the non-statutory things they can offer and they’re increasing driven into a process driven environment with little time or support from managers who need to tick boxes to survive. Nobody wins.
  • clarabelleclarabelle Member Posts: 71 Courageous
    I'm well aware of the context in which they operate.  Budget cuts are not an excuse to ignore their statutory responsibilities,  tell lies or fail to act according to the ethical standards set by their professional body.   Their own annual conference has said as much. 
    There are plenty of national reports stating that children are ending up in care/adopted not for safeguarding reasons but for lack of appropriate and statutory support. 
    Lower courts and cafcass are often complicit and the head of the family division has repeatedly warned circuit judges about this.with regard to continued direct contact, again the head of the family division has been clear this should be happening and should be based on the relationship between the child and the adult - that the adopters wishes are irrelevant.  
  • mikehughescqmikehughescq Member Posts: 6,606 Disability Gamechanger
    I don’t think it’s especially wise to discuss these sorts of cases on a public forum. Ethically it is very dangerous territory indeed. Was consent given for the above video to be posted for example? 
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