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Potential divorce and disabled
gem_321
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I've been with my husband since I was 19 years old, I'm now 32. Married for 9 of those years. I became disabled around the age of 30. My husband, over the last 2 days, has told me he doesn't think he's in love with me any more, although he does love me. This might end in a split and I'm terrified.
He's the breadwinner, I had to give up work 2 years ago. I receive contributions based ESA and PIP. There is absolutely no way I could survive on my own. I would be homeless. Everything is going through my head right now, I don't know what to do. I've never really known my life without him. It feels much harder with a disability and not being able to work and not being able to support yourself
He's the breadwinner, I had to give up work 2 years ago. I receive contributions based ESA and PIP. There is absolutely no way I could survive on my own. I would be homeless. Everything is going through my head right now, I don't know what to do. I've never really known my life without him. It feels much harder with a disability and not being able to work and not being able to support yourself
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Hi @gem_321 and a very warm welcome to the community. I am really sorry to hear this. I understand that this will be an incredibly difficult and stressful time for you. Have you spoken to your husband about this further? I hope others are able to offer advice. We are all here for you.
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in a marrige there are twp people sadly one can and do change their minds and feel they need to end the marrege but take heart you will not be homeless nor alone as to survieving on your own ohhhh yes you will we all feel like thati in a long term relationship please find a local group you can talk to cry with get strong with?? there is life after breakdowns
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Try and work it out if u been married that long stay and talk about it he should accept u dear if u love him stay with him am sure a carer could help out have u apply for pip try fightback4justicelawyers on Facebook
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Hiya @gem_321 whilst I can't offer any advice I just wanted to let you know you're not alone in your situation or fears. I am currently going through the exact same scenario as of last week. We're still having to live in our rented place at the moment due to financial problems but Mrs a living hell being with someone you still love very much but doesn't even love or even care about you anymore.. I hope that you find the answers you need and the courage to see your possible new life ahead. Take care of you lovey. ?
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