I'm a full-time OAP unpaid carer
Tarbatness
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Hello, I`m a full-time OAP unpaid carer, tending to the caring needs of a friend and have been doing this since my friend first became disabled, in 2006, through being attacked at work and shortly after having a massive allergic reaction to a pneumonia injection. The effects of these incidents resulted in my friend being medically retired from work and being diagnosed with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/ME, amongst other illnesses..In 2011, my friend suffered a basilar tip aneurysm (brain aneurysm) which meant several days in Intensive Care, followed by weeks in hospital. Up till then I had been working nights, doing some 50 hours a week and caring for about 60 hours a week during the day. Upon my friends release from hospital, with far more serious mental and physical disabilities, I took early retirement from work, in order to spend more time in my caring role - 100+ hours a week, which I`ve been doing since (2012). In 2014, my friend suffered a stroke and in 2015 was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes.
On call 24/7, I sometimes get called out during the night, but tend to get up around 7 am, take the dogs out, put the washer on, have a coffee or two and check my emails etc. Then each day unfolds differently, no guarantee on what how things will progress, but it usually means I`m kept busy up till midnight, when I finally get to bed !
On call 24/7, I sometimes get called out during the night, but tend to get up around 7 am, take the dogs out, put the washer on, have a coffee or two and check my emails etc. Then each day unfolds differently, no guarantee on what how things will progress, but it usually means I`m kept busy up till midnight, when I finally get to bed !
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Hi @Tarbatness Welcome to the community!
I admire you for all that you do! You must love your role as I can tell how dedicated you are!0 -
Hi @Tarbatness! Welcome to the community you are inspirational and I hope you feel welcomed here and that you can get support from this community0
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Hi @Tarbatness, and a warm welcome to the community! Great to have you here.
Thanks for sharing this with us. It certainly sounds as though you're coping with a lot. Do you have any support from family or social care at the moment?0 -
Thanks, for the welcome.
At present, coping on my own Pippa, though have had Stroke nurses in, in the past, as well as an O/T and speech therapists. Got their phone numbers should I need them. Take my friend to see the Neuropsychologist every 10 weeks. Little or no help from family.
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It sounds like you're doing a great job, @Tarbatness. I'm just wondering if there's any other support or respite you might be eligible for!
It might be worth giving Carers UK a call- they have a brilliant support and information line where you should be able to talk to somebody about anything, and they should be able to advise or make recommendations:You can email us or contact us and we will respond to your enquiries within 5 working days, although it can often be sooner.
Our telephone helpline providing information is open on Mondays and Tuesday between 10am and 4pm - 0808 808 77770 -
Thanks Pippa0
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