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Loose Lips cost PIPs

With many of the invisible disabilities that we have to put up with, outsiders are often suspicious or resentful that we are getting money for nothing, that we are scoungers if not outright fraudsters.
For sure they would not want to be in our position but unless absolutly nessecary why discuss your problems and benefits with people that don't need to know ?
To claim PIP your condition needs to affect you for the majority of time. If an outsider only sees you when you have a good day then it can easily lead to misunderstanding
Be all you can be, make every day count. Namaste
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Best wishes.
DLTBGYD
Senior online community officer
It's not until I try to do these things that I find out I can't.
I do not like to be negative so anyone would believe I can do everything.
I hope this makes sense.
I learned the hard way about 15 years ago when I began to receive DLA and a friend I told about it became moody towards me.
She went around telling people things about it behind my back, and our friendship ended around a year and a half later as I could not take many more of her unkind comments and rumour spreading.
I dont tell anyone about it now as a self care measure.
People seem to get wild if they believe someone has something easy and they don’t.
They just don’t know.
At a pip change over assessment recently, the assessment letter told me that I did not qualify for many reasons, though relevant to this topic were: ‘ you looked well, clean, appropriately dressed, and an appropriate weight for your height’.
If you are applying for pip you have to look a certain way to qualify?
Give me a break 😄.
What do they want us to do, turn up in fancy dress?
Chockies.
Taking all the different experiences posted into account, it seems like one of those damned if you do, damned if you don’t situations.
Whilst there certainly are plenty of kind people in the world who will consider what you’ve told them, -already know or will learn a bit about what you are going through, there are an equal amount of people who will not, people who will discount what you say, or could not give a flying cheeseburger what you are struggling with.
Chockies 🍫.