How did you meet your partner

CPfighter1990

Hi 

I was just wondering how you and your partner met? I’m currently single and looking for a relationship. I have cerebral palsy online dating doesn’t seem to work. Is your partner disabled or able bodied? 

Ami2301

I first met my fiancé in 2011, we were in separate relationships at the time. Didn’t see each other until 2013, bumped into each other one day and been together since. I became disabled when I was 22 and it did knock our relationship but we got through it together and are very happy Don’t go looking for love, let love find you...it could be right in front of you.

essjay

met my partner in a pub - my daughter introduced us and because of that, he thought I was married, so did nothing. As a divorcee its difficult to go into pubs on your own but Friday nights were great - I didnt drink alcohol, I went for the company and sat with a much older happily married man who I knew wouldnt try to get into my knickers. Phil thought he was my husband, then when I realised we were attracted to each other his friends were very protective of him and would not give me his number!  At the end of the night Phil used to call a taxi home as he wouldnt drink /drive. I went back to my place a couple of doors from the pub, and took the dog for a walk right by where Phil was waiting for the taxi just so I could see him again.   One night the taxi didnt turn up, so I suggested he could use my phone at home to ring for a taxi. We got to my place and Phil asked if I was worried about walking the dog so late at night, (he didnt know then that this was the ONLY time I walked the dog late at night) I said I wasnt worried so he then said we'll put it to the test and he kissed me there and then. OMG it was magic, I swear.  Best dog in the world, he sat down and waited till we let him in the house. It'd only taken us about nine months to finally get together, this was 1999, been together ever since. we were both in our 40's then so he was definitely worth waiting for. Dont force stuff, dont look for it, it will find you when you least expect it to.

CPfighter1990

Is he able or disabled?

essjay

what difference does that make?

essjay

PS I'm the one with a disability

CPfighter1990

I was just wondering as I wish everyone would stop saying it’s better if people with disability should also be with fellow people who have disabilities. I don’t think that should be the case, you can’t help who you fall in love with at the end of the day.

Topkitten

There is a much higher preponderance of physical and mental abuse in relationships where both are disabled but most healthy people will not accept being in a relationship with someone who is disabled unless the relationship starts before the disability. Often, the mere mention of disability on most dating sites will make a person a leper but then secrecy isn't the answer either as someone is unlikely to generate trust with someone who lies about it.

I met my first wife through work and travelling there on the same bus. My second wife through a squash club. My last relationship started by meeting someone through a web site for divorced and separated. Since then I have had a few offers (since I became disabled) through living locally to them or meeting through help groups and I had hoped these would be lasting friendships but instead the idea of dating occurred to them and I lost them.

Now it is more difficult to meet people but always consider going to help groups like those run by MIND or by local charities as this will at least generate friendships and maybe to more, just never appear desperate or over-enthusiastic as this is a negative signal.

TK

Richard_Scope

I met my wife in a pub where she hammered me at pool in front of all of my mates and then downed a pint. I knew then that he was the one for me!  

CPfighter1990

That’s great 

Becky270

Hi! I met my partner Dan on the app Bumble. I wasn't actually looking to get into a relationship, I just wanted to get my confidence back and meet new people after being in an abusive relationship. 8 months on, we're living together and totally in love. Good Luck! PS, I  talk lots about dating and relationships with a disability on my blog: https://headoverwheelsx.com/ 
Becky   
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surfygoose

I met my lovely girlfriend on holiday. It was on an activity holiday for people with disabilities.

Kimmy87

I have long term health problems that I am very very upfront about. I manage a great deal of activity day to day for how poor my health is, but only due to funding it all with a constant cycle of rest, pacing and afternoon naps. 

I was off and on PoF for around 10 years, in January I went on a date and we have been together ever since.

I was then in a car accident the next night, so instead of meeting again for sex at the end of that week we had to wait three weeks to meet up again, until I was healed! 

He is able bodied, apart from an old knee injury that bothers him occasionally. It was a very bad injury so I think recovering from that taught him a lot about disability. 

My health hasn't gotten in the way, he is very attentive and understanding if I express a need.
Occasionally sex positions need to be a little different so I can manage, which he has absolutely no issues with 

Steve_in_The_City

What @Ami2301 said is true. Don't look for love. Love will somehow find you. There is a song "love comes from unexpected places". And love does come from unexpected places.

For myself, I was a deeply troubled type of boy. I was 17. I was in deep trouble with the police. To be honest, if there wasn't a policeman in close proximity it was a rare day. Yet I just struggled and fought, and I fought back. And as the song says "the miller tells his tale".

But as boys go, I was completely and absolutely lost. Just lost. There wasn't a moment in space or time when a boy could have been more lost than me. 

Then I met my partner. It wasn't quite the typical pub pick-up (although pretty close).  He was older than me by 25 years, but that didn't matter. I was just a lost boy living in a lost world, but he made everything good and safe for me and suddenly I wasn't lost anymore, Not being lost is the best thing that can happen to you.

Superbetty

Love everyone's stories:-) But, I am very romantic person:-) I met my prince (that is how I call him) online, and I will always recommend this way to everyone,as I know a lot of peope who will meet online, and they live happily ever after:-) You just need to be patient, I know it is hard, I went through nighmare while being online. But it is like in real life, not everyone is nice and not everyone likes you. That is what I was always telling myself, not everyone is in my type, and I am not in everyone's type, this is completely normal. No need to feel bad about yourself if someone does not like you. This is life. But, I did meet my prince after all:-)All the best to you:-)

Melioraaa

I met my husband in 2016 at a music night - a metal gig at the local rock club.

WelshBlue

Met my wife 31 years ago ... (married 17 years next week) when I carried her through a big puddle walking from one pub to another