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Sholay09
Sholay09 Member Posts: 94 Courageous
Hello I am 20 nearly 21 years old and I am thinking about trying online dating again to find an older guy in the new year but something has put me off now from wanting to try online dating again like when someone said that dating sites should have a minimum age of 25 instead of 18 and ever since reading something like that it has made me feel quite paranoid and angry now that I think that everyone is saying things about young people who are aged 18-24 on dating sites or trying them when no one should be saying anything like that at all and also no one should be saying that dating sites should have a minimum age of 25 rather than 18 because 25 would be too high and also because at age 18 someone should be allowed to do everything they want and also make their own decisions and mistakes and no age restrictions should apply to people over 18 or 21 because they are adults now and that age restrictions should only apply to children and teenagers. I just want everyone to accept with everything like dating sites, being allowed to smoke, drink, watch or buy porn and many others having a minimum age of 18 or 21 because those are adult ages and they are not children.
S.York
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  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,673 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Sholay09
    Who said that dating sites should have an age limit?
    Scope
    Senior online community officer
  • Sholay09
    Sholay09 Member Posts: 94 Courageous
    It was just some person who I don't know Sam. It was just when that person said that dating sites should have a minimum age of 25.
    S.York
  • Sholay09
    Sholay09 Member Posts: 94 Courageous
    Ok thank you Sam for being helpful and I did read that a lot of people in the 18-24 age group like I am in the age group because I am now 20 nearly 21 in April are on dating sites looking for like a relationship like maybe a serious one usually I think.
    S.York
  • CockneyRebel
    CockneyRebel Member Posts: 5,212 Disability Gamechanger
    I wish you well with your search for love, everyone deserves to find happiness where ever they can. As an old geezer I know little about dating sites or any other social media, I am sure that you don't need me to tell you to keep your sensible head on
    Be all you can be, make  every day count. Namaste
  • Panda70
    Panda70 Member Posts: 23 Courageous
    I met my fella whilst battling crohns in hospital, we are still together 9 years on  I'm from North of England and he is from down South and we hit it off straight away, good luck but also be careful x
  • Becky270
    Becky270 Member Posts: 5 Connected
    Hi @Sholay09

    As long as you are careful and sensible, why not give online dating a go?! I'd recommend Bumble, which is where I met my partner. If you have a look at my blog website, there are articles where I talk about dating and disabilities. 
    https://headoverwheelsx.com

    Stay safe and good luck! 

    Becky
  • TheArrow
    TheArrow Member Posts: 27 Connected
    When dating you could meet someone who’s 25 and immature or you can also meet someone who’s 25 who’s mature. Depends what you want in a relationship, good luck to you finding someone.
  • Whishour44
    Whishour44 Member Posts: 2 Listener
    I'm not really sure where you read about the Age limit of 25 because what I have heard and have been using from quite a while, the majority of dating platforms allow people with age rule of 18. Even Tinder allows People with Minimum age of 18yrs to use their platform https://www.csmonitor.com/Technology/2016/0609/Why-dating-site-Tinder-is-restricting-use-to-those-over-age-18

    Though there are some Adult and Hookup related platforms like AdultFriendFinder, BeNaughty https://www.theabsolutedater.com/hook-up-sites/ which follows little strict rules.
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Member Posts: 242 Pioneering
    I've been off and on dating sites for the past two years and not so much as as a chance of meeting up with anyone for a cup of coffee! 
    Online dating is a minefield.  
    1. Too many people looking for totally unrealistic matches. (Half their age)! 

    2.False profiles. 

    3. Distance. Not how far away but how near you are!  It  seems the closer you live to potential people the less likely that they will look at your profile.  

    Good luck to anyone who does find someone online,on dating sites! 
  • Roddy
    Roddy Member Posts: 406 Pioneering
    Most online dating sites seem to fall into the same kind of criterion. They can cost you the Earth whilst getting you nowhere, and are riddled with false hopes & promises. Many are not properly moderated AND of course there are those ready to dupe the unwary. 

    It's truly a shame, as there are many deserving and lonely people out there who are loveable, reliable and genuinely in need of a likeminded soul.   
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Member Posts: 242 Pioneering
    Have tried yet another dating site for the over50s.???? Saga. Most of the Ladies on there are in their 30s and 40s. And looking for same age or much younger fit and handsome and well educated and well off. The site questionere you fill in is very comprehensive but thought that it could be a bit more comprehensive about a few things. Has anyone else tried the  Saga dating site and your experience of it? 
  • AndyDurham
    AndyDurham Member Posts: 16 Connected
    I'm 40 and I'm on them my friend good luck in your hunt
  • Roddy
    Roddy Member Posts: 406 Pioneering
    gaz1960 said:
    Have tried yet another dating site for the over50s.???? Saga. Most of the Ladies on there are in their 30s and 40s. And looking for same age or much younger fit and handsome and well educated and well off. The site questionere you fill in is very comprehensive but thought that it could be a bit more comprehensive about a few things. Has anyone else tried the  Saga dating site and your experience of it? 

    It's always the same, isn't it. Many people on these so-called dating sites, never look outside of the box and they set their hearts & minds on their own little fantasy world. Education, fitness and/or handsome/prettiness are not what it takes to have a true loving heart & soul coupled with honesty and commitment. Sure, we may all want to be another Tom Cruise or a Beyoncé perhaps, and have six-packs and/or a body to die for, but I say 'live in the real world' if you want to get yourself a life with another person being a part of that life... and don't live in a dream world.  
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Member Posts: 242 Pioneering
    Surely honesty,truthfulness and personality and shared interests should count for something;rather than shallowness of looks ? 

    Maybe I'm being too pragmatic?  Or just expecting real life to be like it's portrayed in the movies and fairy stories!  

    That the ugly ogre gets the the beautiful Princess!  

    Or just someone who is normal? 
  • Roddy
    Roddy Member Posts: 406 Pioneering
    @gaz1960 I totally agree.

    Furthermore, many of the so-called  online dating services are a scam. Having trawled through the introduction pages/forms you are then directed towards a previously unmentioned payment options which without you basically get no further. If however you part with your cash, you then (if you are lucky) find what is considered to be your ideal match. Your ideal match will then more often than not be located hundreds of miles away.

    Being disabled is also a huge stumbling block and not necessarily due to 'looks' but the inability to meet, travel or to accommodate.  

  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Member Posts: 242 Pioneering
    Lol. :)
    It must be nearly Easter. 

    Views of my profile on the dating sites always seems to peak just before any and all holiday times. 

    Anybody else noticed that happens with their own profile? 


  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Member Posts: 242 Pioneering
  • Roddy
    Roddy Member Posts: 406 Pioneering
    gaz1960 said:
    I give up! 
    Don't... ;-)


  • April2018mom
    April2018mom Posts: 2,872 Connected
    Don’t give up on love. Be careful with dating apps and sites as people do lie online. A better way to make new friends is to attend activity classes for disabled people where you can make friends.
    What’s available in your area? 

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