Sex with a disabled person

Ami2301

Totally agree with you @CockneyRebel I actually hated my partner way before we became a couple, we started off as friends and it blossomed.

@RANDY1 I understand that from past experience this would cause you to think this way but I can assure you we are not all the same.

james4

As a man , having that role of provider, father and handy man of your family when they are taken away can't work, can't play with kids , can't do anything in the house at all and the only thing that you still can do the women don't wan't not from you anyway then yes it is a big thing

thespiceman

Hello @RANDY1 Thank you for sharing with the community . The problems you seem to be having.

One of the problems is that all relationships are not all based on Sex and you need to understand that. Also many ladies who may like the following qualities in  a man.

Being supportive, kind, loving thinking how best to be a partner a friend someone to confide in to.

Trust and respect.  Being honest and open. Regardless of having a disability or not.

One thing I did and have learnt is to have abroad range of lifestyle and social education knowledge.  

Not all about looks.

I would advise first start to concentrate and making and forming friendships. Have a range of activities that you do meet other people.

Through other people never know where or what happens.

Maybe to change the attitudes that you have, start to seek some help.

Understand  have concerns.  You have this disability. You need maybe to find and be honest with your self, have acceptance.

Through acceptance things can change. 

Wish you well and hope and pray you find your soul less troubled.  In the new year.

@thespiceman

Becky270

@RANDY1

Sorry to hear you've had some negative experiences. However, I would urge you not to have that attitude towards women. Also, maybe lose some of the focus on sex? Most women probably want to build a relationship and trust before sleeping with someone, and I think that's perfectly reasonable. What a woman chooses to do with her own body is her business. And if you see women not wanting to have sex with you as selfish, I think that maybe that your demeanour and that view isn't helping. Women are allowed to be selfish when it comes to who they have sex with. Women do not have to be selfless and do anything that they don't want to do. 

With regards to the disability... I am an 'able-bodied' person, and I am in a relationship with a wheelchair user. We met in April last year and are now living together. My partner is a kind, funny, honest, genuine and hardworking person- all of that makes his disability irrelevant to me. 

Maybe it would help if you sought some counselling? I understand that your opinions have been formed based on your personal experiences, but I think before you look for a relationship, it would be beneficial to change your attitude towards women? And just to show that not all women wouldn't want to be with someone who has a disability... take a look at my blog. https://headoverwheelsx.com

Good luck, I hope things change for you.

Becky

RANDY1

Hey,Ive said nothing wrong toward woman i just tell the truth,if you dont like that its not my problam.

Faybe_girl

RANDY1 said:

Hey,Ive said nothing wrong toward woman i just tell the truth,if you dont like that its not my problam.

Hi @RANDY1 my name is Faye. I found this thread looking for ways to make sex easier for my boyfriend. He was crippled in an accident at work that snapped his spinal cord. He is paralysed below the waist.
I loved him 6 years ago and I still love him today.
Its bee  hard.
He has struggled with depression and addiction but sex has never been a turning point in our relationship.
I feel personally that the type of relationship you want to have with women isnt based on love and caring, but from reading these comments, a sexual one.
You dismiss any woman who speaks contrary to your statement and wish only to validate your opinions on the 'bad, selfish women'. 
Just like men - some are ****. But not all of us are.
If sex is that big a deal for you then hire a prostitute because from youre attitude I can tell this forum will not help.
Love and light my friend x

Adrian_Scope

Thanks for chiming in and sharing @Faybe_girl. I hope you'll stick around on our community.

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Derbymduck

RANDY1 said:

Well you both must have a good relationship i am single male & is allot different because plenty of woman have abused me & be nasty & call me names because all the woman that i have come accross so far have been very nasty to me because they all they want is a man to give them a good seeing to & if you are disabled then you are not up to the job,this is why most woman are very much selfish & the world would be a better place without them

I'm sorry but I've got to say it. It's not the walking stick that's the problem it's your attitude.