Activities for autistic children

lj2707
lj2707 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited October 2019 in Families and carers
Hi. I have recently been given custody of my 12 year old nephew. He has been through some very traumatic events and I’m working hard to provide him with stability. He won’t allow me to play with him and I feel I’m failing him by always allowing him to play alone. Does anyone please have any advice on how I can interact with him?

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  • April2018mom
    April2018mom Posts: 2,863 Championing
    Hello @lj2707! Welcome to the forums. 

    Here are some activities for autistic kiddos https://harkla.co/blogs/special-needs/therapeutic-activities-autism
  • vysvader
    vysvader Online Community Member Posts: 130 Contributor
    edited October 2019
    Hi,

    Look at the methodology of Greta's parents, how Swedes/parents behave (she didn't have to... but she publicly disclosed and often repeats that is with Asperger's to help such as your nephew and once, it's gonna really help your nephew). See where it leads to. In fact, she could socially integrate between other kids (or to play with top world leaders) because she had been getting equal approach in school, or anything else as others so she'd been seen equal. Just she got a bit more freedom to develop/enjoy her special interests. In her 15-16 (3 years older), she's already playing politic games with the whole Europarlamt, takes personal meetings with prime ministers, and nicely socializes with kids around the planet when/if their interests are once met (when they do what she wants). She got there because of her freedom. When/if she comes back from meetings with ex-presidents and prime ministers from America to the UK in a transatlantic swim on her small eggshell (ship) in the hurricane season, you can ask her. She's very talkative and if you come with something that really interests her, something that she likes... then even Greta, either Greta or your nephew accepts you.



    Best regards
  • poppy123456
    poppy123456 Online Community Member Posts: 62,454 Championing
    Hi,

    It's nice for children to have some activities in life but Autistic children very often like to be alone because that's part of Autism.

    I asked this exact same question to my daughters psychologist when she was diagnosed and her reply was " this is one question that comes up a lot with parents of Autistic children" don't force them to do anything they don't want to do.

    Your Nephew will have his own routine and breaking that routine can be very difficult for him. Changing his routine could potentially make him worse. For this reason, i just let my daughter do her own thing. If she wants to do something she will ask me but then it will usually be something she has an interest in.

    It maybe worth ringing the National Autistic Society and asking for some advice. https://www.autism.org.uk/


  • lj2707
    lj2707 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, it means a lot. It’s a huge learning curve and I’m determined to do my best for him.
  • Firefly123
    Firefly123 Online Community Member Posts: 526 Empowering
    I have 3 young adults with autism and I agree with poppy there routines are very important to them and they take a while to let others in. For one of my kids we visited graveyards he liked the dates on the stones. My other son it was history so we visited museums. My daughter it's her dog she can talk about him all day. Find out what your nephews interests are and go from there. Give him time to settle in. The worst thing my boys hated was forced friendships as wanted to be doing their own things. Wishing you and your nephew all the best ☺