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Strugging with my social health - I find it so difficult to talk to people now
nicki1
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Hi I am 53 years old struggling with my health but more so with my social health. I find it so difficult to talk to people I never used to was always chatter box I have a set of friends but all older than me sometimes it would just be nice to have a coffee or maybe a glass of wine!! With someone my own age. Thanks for listening
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XX im home today if yu want chat
some can have progressive communication issues from the late 40s onwards as part of their health issues which may need investigating, it can be.
I have a life long communication problem which causes problems talking to otthers especially those of my own age group, been that way even when at school. I have been running support groups for those who share may disability and some I have come into contact have acquired similar issues as part of the mid life aging process, or as the result of some health problems they have experienced.
Talking to others is not always easy especially if others do not understand why you may have problems communicating as the may expect you to.
I hope you find some answers.
Another symptom is that I have word recall problems not remembering the word i want to or need to use when talking to others or even when writing or typing, it can take days or weeks to recall the word again. When this happens i have to find an alternative more long winded way to explain what i want to say, and even during that process i can have more word recall problems. So i can ramble on for ever trying to discuss sometimes the most simplest of topics.
Which others who do not understand my disability can consider to be boring and annoying.
Which is why in recent years I have become almost house bound to avoid being considered an idiot by others
More a cheap form of support provided medical professionals who are not adequately trained and qualified to understand and provide support for the real issues.
"You have to face your fears" is the common one. I get so angry. They are not in my head! I have met people I know when I'm out and told them to leave me alone if they try and strike up a conversation.
I do try to avoid people and get anxious going to the supermarket in case theres someone there I might know.
Awkward, I'm stuck with the ASD and SA but hope when the depression and anxiety lift it might make life easier.
I might move house. Fresh start.
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I looked last week in my local area but didn't find anything that really fitted me...so I tried to make a local group myself.
The idea was for likeminded people with any sort of anxiety related issues to meet in an informal area (park, seafront promenade, etc) and talk about anything they wanted, come and go as you like etc... But it turned out you had to pay to create the group.
Very disappointing tbh, as a lot of us become even more socially isolated because of the lack of income that comes with our other issues in the first place. As I've mentioned in previous threads, I used to be able to do a lot more when I had some spare income than I can now. It's meant that I've completely drifted away from the last few people that I used to see and message more regularly. I don't see or even message anyone my own age now but don't know how to change that in my current position.