being A lesbian with a disability

jody_sensitive_soul
jody_sensitive_soul Community member Posts: 1 Listener
Finding it hard to find love, I  live in England, I don’t know where I’d find a girl that would accept me for me?!

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  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Community member Posts: 6,283 Championing
    Hello @jody_sensitive_soul   Pleased to meet you .

    Thank you for joining and sharing.

    I am one of the team of community champions. We guide, advise and help members of our community.

    Please can I suggest have a look at Stonewalls Information service and website on LGBT issues.

    https://www.stonewall.org.uk.
    Helpline 08000 50 20 20

    Please take care.

    @thespiceman
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,331 Championing
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul - Welcome to this friendly & supportive community. I hope the above link helps; there will be somewhere out there just looking for someone like yourself. Sometimes 'tho, you find love when you're least expecting it!
  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 11,538 Online Community Programme Lead
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul. Welcome to the community!
    Have you tried many dating sites or apps?
  • Ails
    Ails Community member Posts: 2,240 Championing
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul and welcome to the Community.  It is nice to meet you and thank you for sharing with us.  You have been given some very good advice above and I am sure the lady of your dreams is out there just waiting for you.  I met my husband when I least expected it so never give up!  Please keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on.  I look forward to seeing you again on the forum and if there is anything else we can do to help/support you then please just let us know.  All the best.  :smiley:
  • Waylay
    Waylay Community member, Scope Member Posts: 966 Trailblazing
    edited December 2019
    Hey there,

    I'm bi, poly and disabled, and I met one of my partners on OKCupid. I wrote an extremely honest profile, describing my disabilities as well as all the usual stuff. I got the usual "Sex tonite?" messages, several messages from people who clearly hadn't read my profile, and a couple of unpleasant ableist messages at first. A wrote to me a couple of months in, and we've been together for 3 years. He's also disabled, so he gets it. You can make yourself invisible to men on okc, which is handy if you're a lesbian!

    (I find it easier being poly because my partners have other people they can do stuff with when I can't, but that's not for everyone!)
  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,630 Cerebral Palsy Network
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul It's brilliant to meet you. 

    At some point in life, everybody has that thought that there isn't anybody out there for them. That simply isn't true in my experience!

    A good place to start if you're not quite ready for dating apps would be Outsiders 
    Some use the club as a stepping stone, some to find a partner. Others enjoy being part of a group of people who are there for each other and learn from each other, to help individuals accept and love themselves.
  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,511 Championing
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul and a very warm welcome to the community! I hope the advice from others has been helpful. Just thought I would add a YouTuber who is both a lesbian and disabled. Her and her wife as so sweet! She's called Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, here is her YouTube and Instagram. :)
  • EmmaJane
    EmmaJane Scope Member Posts: 32 Contributor
    Hi @jody_sensitive_soul how are you? I just wanted to say that from my personal experience, what you're seeking is perfectly possible. I'm a wheelchair user and a lesbian and have been in two long term relationships and have had other less serious partners too. I don't know how old you are but I'm 28, and whilst it was very difficult when I was younger, I have found that slightly older women are more understanding and sensitive than, say, teenagers. I hope you find what you're looking for  :)