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Aspergers and PDA

Hi I am a single parent of a 6 year old with suspected Aspergers and PDA.
We are going through the assessment process with our first appointment with the paediatrician in a few weeks after the doctor send an urgent letter.
I struggle mostly with my sons violent meltdowns.
I am at a loss with how to actually keep myself from being hurt. I cannot leave him alone during a meltdown, I have tried shielding myself with a cushion, positioning myself side on. When he is in a meltdown there is obviously no calming or talking to him, it needs to run its course then he is absolutely shattered and has sweated through all of his clothes.
The surge in adrenalin in this fight or flight mode makes his punches and kicks even worse.
I am aware of his triggers and sometimes even that isnt enough to stop a meltdown as certain things are out of my control. He doesnt transition well between activities and is happiest in his bubble at home being in control to help his anxiety.
He does not respond well to visual aids and actively destroys them.
I am able to stay calm, I can see the meltdown is due to high anxiety and fear, its heartbreaking to see. Any advice on how best to support him during a violent meltdown would be great.
We have a calm down space in his room also.
We now homeschool due to his awful depression and anxiety at school.
We are going through the assessment process with our first appointment with the paediatrician in a few weeks after the doctor send an urgent letter.
I struggle mostly with my sons violent meltdowns.
I am at a loss with how to actually keep myself from being hurt. I cannot leave him alone during a meltdown, I have tried shielding myself with a cushion, positioning myself side on. When he is in a meltdown there is obviously no calming or talking to him, it needs to run its course then he is absolutely shattered and has sweated through all of his clothes.
The surge in adrenalin in this fight or flight mode makes his punches and kicks even worse.
I am aware of his triggers and sometimes even that isnt enough to stop a meltdown as certain things are out of my control. He doesnt transition well between activities and is happiest in his bubble at home being in control to help his anxiety.
He does not respond well to visual aids and actively destroys them.
I am able to stay calm, I can see the meltdown is due to high anxiety and fear, its heartbreaking to see. Any advice on how best to support him during a violent meltdown would be great.
We have a calm down space in his room also.
We now homeschool due to his awful depression and anxiety at school.
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It also might be worth you taking a look at Autism support charities local to you in case they offer any services that might help. In addition, there's also the Child Autism Helpline who might be able to recommend some avenues of support. You can call them on 01344 882248.
I'm going to tag in @SparkleSheffieldAutismAdvisors too in case they're able to make any suggestions.
Scope
If you have a few minutes to spare, we'd appreciate your feedback on our online community.
I cannot leave my son alone during a meltdown as he has hurt himself before during an episode. The violence isnt limited to home it can happen when we are out and about like near a busy road, or in a supermarket.
I have tried discussing with him how he can use pillows to hit, he has a sensory den, we have discussed it with my dad around also saying it makes us sad when he hurts mummy.
When he is out of the meltdown he is distraught he has hurt me.
We have yet to see CAMHS our first appointment which I have had to fight for is with the child paediatrician.
I have signed up for the 6 week service with Scope but I couldn't get through today to confirm a start date. I will try again tomorrow.