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3-year-old's behaviour, I don't know what to do.

Mtracy18Mtracy18 Member Posts: 2 Listener
Hi my name is makayla my 3 year old son is wiping his feces on my walls and i don't know what to do. he has been doing it a lot so i don't know what to do


  • thespicemanthespiceman Member Posts: 6,408 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @Mtracy18    Pleased to meet you.

    Thank you for joining and sharing.

    Sorry to hear this .

    Please have you spoken to your GP about this given them a call.?

    I would advise this also look on NHS Website lots of information on childhood behaviour.

    Please can I  give you our helpline number

    0808 800 3333

    Speak to a member of our team be able to help you further.

    Please take care and safe.


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  • chiariedschiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 8,066 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Mtracy18 - Welcome to the community. I hope the advise given above is helpful as this must be distressing for you.
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,652 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Mtracy18 and welcome to the community! Is your child seeing a paediatrician at all?

    The NHS website has a piece about how to deal with difficult behaviour.

    Here are the main points:
    • Do what feels right
    • Don't give up
    • Be consistent
    • Try not to overreact
    • Talk to your child
    • Be positive about the good things
    • Offer rewards
    Please do let us know how you get on and if there is anything further we can do to help. :)
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  • neuromum4neuromum4 Member Posts: 67 Courageous
    I have 4 children and one of mine did that when she was around 2 years old ( going back 15 years ago).

    I had to explain to her (sat on floor with her) that she should not that do it. I told her poo is for the toilet and it's not something to play with and it's dirty.

    When I asked her why she said it's fun...I told her lets make fun with flour.

    We mixed flour and water played in it for hours and she never did it again.

    Very good advice given above but try not to over react.

    All the best
  • figspowartfigspowart Member Posts: 15 Connected
    Smearing is distressing isn't it? We went through this with eldest son.

    Might be worth having a chat to your GP or paediatrician about PBS (Positive Behaviour Support). we used this and it really works. There are some really good books out there about it.

    Basically you give a really low reaction to the behaviour you don't want to see, and a really big happy reaction to the stuff you're trying to encourage. Sometimes it was hard to find the positive behaviour with our boy, you have to keep your eye out for even small positive things and praise them heaps.

    Sometimes kids will repeat a behaviour more often if they see a really big reaction from mum or dad.

    I know it's hard not to react though, feel for you and hope you're doing OK.
  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,652 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Mtracy18, just wanted to check in to see how you are. :)
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