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Ronni
Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
I am dyslexic. 
My reading are bad. 
I always wanted to be a writer / journalist  and cartoonist.

What's your dream?
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  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 6,614 Disability Gamechanger
    Nice thread idea.

    I always wanted to be a pilot.

    I suffer from obsessive thoughts that I am going to lose control and do something I don't want to do. That would be a laugh wouldn't it? "Hello and welcome aboard, just to warn you I sometimes have thoughts about crashing the plane, other than that have a nice journey." :D
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    edited June 2020
     :) I'm already terrified of planes. @66Mustang
    But you could try those simulators.

    Thinking about
    Losing control is not the problem but how we lose control.

    I dont Have control over every thing in life. Choas spinning in my head  alot of the time.

    Trying to find calmness in chaotic world is becoming harder.

    But looking back on the dreams I had
     Is giving me focus for the future.

    Not sure mine involves flying.?

  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 8,572

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    I've always had dreams of becoming a writer, but self-confidence among other things has become a bit of an obstacle to that. I also really fancied the idea of becoming a pilot, but at this stage I'll settle for balloonist (although the requirements for this are more than likely a bit beyond me!)
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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,297 Disability Gamechanger
    I don't dream about it but I would always have liked to own and run a b&b in the lake district, so I suppose it is a dream of kind as it will never happen with the property prices in that area.

    So now I am focusing on hopefully buying property abroad in the next 10 years ready for when my partner retires
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @Adrian_Scope
    Douglas Bader  led the way for many disabled pilots. Theres  always
    gliding.

    I'm dozy with a power chair. So no driving or flying for me.

    @janer1967
    Like your future plans.

    That what dreams are. Looking future. And you want to be. 
    Set the goal and enjoy the journey.

  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,557 Disability Gamechanger
    When I was younger I wanted to be an air hostess! Although, with my lack of balance I don't think that ever would have been a good idea!

    An author has always been up there. I guess I'll settle for a subpar crazy cat lady!  :D  
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  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @Chloe_Scope
    The crazy cat lady... theres  a story.

    What is it about airplanes you all want to be up there.

    Never flown before  thought of doing so gives me the shivers.

    But it on one  of list. The get over it list... lots of phobias.
    Gonna have to wait a while for flying.
    Thought of sitting in those planes for hours with loads of peopl even without virus is bad enough.

    Getting   over my people is first on list.




  • M_Anthony
    M_Anthony Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 309 Pioneering
    Speaking of pilots, I wanted to be a RAF fighter pilot, or maybe a Navy fighter pilot I love the old sea harrier jets.
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    edited June 2020
    Flying  and writing seem to be popular  themes on here.

    May be  we should star our air line
    ... a virtual one .... the wouldn't have to worry  about all they other things. Like balance and losing  control. Or actually flying...?‍✈️?‍✈️??
  • M_Anthony
    M_Anthony Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 309 Pioneering
    There are lots of flight simulator software you can buy, I believe Microsoft does flight simulator software which gives you a realistic virtual flying experience on various planes.
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    Thanks @M_Anthony
    See guys you could fly .  Never say never.

  • IanHaines
    IanHaines Member Posts: 27 Courageous
    edited June 2020
    My dream is to be happy and content/ed with what I have, but online penfriends would be nice, too, although very few people have a clue how to do decent sized E Mails.  My lone, overnight walks from last year will not be expanded on, this year, because of the C19, so that's out....that would've been a great dream to realise.  I'm awake all night long and that makes things worse.  But, yes...I want to be content/ed...able to settle for what I have.
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @IanHaines

    I dont realy anything but dreams, and elderly mother.

    Which I'm trying change my life.
    To actually having.

    I dont become a writer or anything remotely close.

    I content with the journey.

    Online course, assistance dog. Sorting communications.

    And once some form of normality resumes I see was else is out there. Meet people.

    Be a part of it.

    It's easier than done.  Not got very far yet a lot things on hold. But not giving up.

    My dream is just about writing. 
    But  living.  Instead  of just existing.

    It all online  at moment. Nothing seems real. But I'm not ready to give up.

    I dont a future thats thesame as my present.


  • WestHam06
    WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,396 Pioneering
    Great question @Ronni
    I don't really have dreams as I just aspire to be happy and contented and to achieve goals I set for myself. I have small, medium and large goals and work towards them based on achievability and circumstance. However, when I was younger my dream job would have been to serve in the army. Thank you.  
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @WestHam06

    Thanks for tips. Both of my brothers were in the army
    Late 80s through the 90s.

    One always wanted  to join. But it turn out to be what he expected.  The other joined because there was nothing else. He fitted in and settled In pretty.

    Sometimes if we what  we want it not always we expect.

    Il settle for contentment. Which I've yet  to find.


  • WestHam06
    WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,396 Pioneering
    Hi @Ronni
                       Thank you for sharing with us. I have the upmost respect for all members our armed forces  both past and present. I think we still don't look after veterans the way that they deserve but that is just my opinion, I am truly humbled when I think of the sacrifices that they and their families make. You are right when you say that sometimes what we want is not always what we expect or experience. I guess that is part of life, a learning experience. Contentment is always a difficult one and I think it comes with fluidity. As we navigate day to day life, things happen that can affect the way we feel about ourselves and about life more generally, in other words I think we all experience good days and bad days. I know in my teenage years I found my disability really hard to deal with and I bottled this up. It led to me being quite down and I wasn't really being me but I didn't know how to communicate how I was feeling. I've always enjoyed a laugh and am up for giving most things a go but I lost my zest and this continued into my early twenties. I then decided to talk to someone and this really helped but I also started to embrace my disability. It takes time to do this and though I don't think I'll ever feel completely ok about it, I think I will learn to make peace with it and accept it as part of my life. I have also changed my thinking towards things such as the positives that my disability brings such as  making me more determined or allowing me to meet some amazing people who I may not otherwise have met. This is also where my goals system comes from and it really works. For example a small goal is getting out of bed on my own on a good day because when I am having a bad day I find this very difficult and I can think about the good days and that I can do this it's just today I need some help and that's ok. A medium goal is thinking about my next charity event as I like to do fundraising for charities close to my heart and considering the circumstances I face at the time with what is realistically possible. A large goal is something like learning to drive because although I have a provisional driver's licence, there are many complications due to my disability which will make it harder for me to learn. I need to consider lots of things and so though it is not on my immediate list of things to do and I know from assessments it is highly unlikely, they have not said 'No' and with the advances of technology maybe in the future, it is floating away in the background and when I have time I occasionally do a little bit of research. I have lots of small, medium and long term goes and I give each the time attention they need depending on achievability and circumstance. There are days that I just have low points, but it's how we deal with these that count. I think in today's world all the focus is on bigger and better and sometimes we forget the things that count, often the things that get missed. I hope you find contentment wherever and in whatever that may be and please if you ever would like to ask anything then please do. Sorry it's long and thank you for reading, I hope it makes sense. Thank you. 
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @WestHam06
    Thank you for taking the time to add all that. I enjoyed reading it.

    Your right we dont care enough for veterans and those still in milatary and families.

    I have long list of small things to focus.
     Balance whilst transferring. I'm waiting for adaptions ..on hold.
    So focusingon simple things i can adapt and changing the of way doing things.

    rely like what you have shared. I was doing it somewhat choaticaly.  I can solve somthings. But require others to help with parts of my life. But it all hold.

    Thanks again for sharing.

  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 6,614 Disability Gamechanger
    @WestHam06 I really enjoyed reading that too and agree with a lot of what you say. I also have a massive respect for anyone who serves in the armed forces. The way some members of the public treat present and past service people is quite disgusting but I like to think these are just a loud minority and that the majority do respect what they do for us. Doing some kind of service would have been one of my dream jobs as well, maybe being a pilot in one of the services.

    While both of our problems are no doubt very different, I can also strongly relate to what you wrote about "bottling up" your issues in your teenage years and early twenties. I am 26 now and have only just managed to talk about my issues and seek out some specialist treatment to hopefully finally get sorted out. I am lucky in a way in that my issues may be not totally curable but brought down to a manageable level.
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 12,270 Disability Gamechanger
    @WestHam06 - Thank you for your great post. One of my ambitions was to join the Navy in some capacity, the other, which became my overriding ambition, was to become a medical Dr. Unfortunately I was good at English & Geography (altho I liked Human Biology), which didn't exactly help my medical ambitions! I'd even studied Latin at school hoping this would help.
    I applied to be a physio student. How I got in I don't know. In my interview I met the Head of the Physiotherapy School, & her colleague, whom I presumed was also a physio. He kept asking if any of my close relatives were Drs, then why did I want to be a physio? In frustration I said I'd rather be a physio than a GP that sat behind a desk all day. 3 months later, now a physio student, this Dr came into the room, looked me in the eye, & said, 'Contrary to popular belief, not all Drs. sit behind their desks all day, they also teach physiotherapy students'.....he was a Consultant Rheumatologist!
    I hid my physical problems & pain as much as I could (I'd learnt to do so from my mid-teens), but they became apparent. The above-mentioned rheumatologist was actually great in trying to help, but not much was known about my disorder then, so no diagnosis despite several tests he ordered. When I had further injuries, it was a case of 'Well physio student go heal yourself' from A & E staff.
    In my final exams I was asked about a stroke patient, then at the end, one of the Drs asked if I would take such a patient to the pub as part of their rehabilitation. I said I would if they were used to doing this.
    I remembered this, & there were 2 paraplegics I worked with for several months on a Spinal Injuries unit after qualifying. Whilst still on the ward, once they were up in their wheelchairs, myself & another used to take them to a nearby pub when we could in our spare time. They enjoyed that part of their 'rehabilitation'.
    I met a tetraplegic a little later, & we went out socially to a pub. He drove, & whilst it was probably the scariest time I've ever been a passenger, if a tetraplegic can drive, so can you @WestHam06.
    All things are possible, but sometimes if you don't get there, it may not always matter. My physio training has helped me with my family, & much more. I have no regrets. What you go through, shapes you. :)
  • Ronni
    Ronni Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
    @chiarieds
    Now if only you were my physio. 
    It would be tea garden rather than pub. Or beer garden.

    I'm enjoy reading all of these. They all quite inspiring in different ways.

    The term dreams means many different things. 

    I find mine kept me going as a kid. 

    And remembering them now. After years of being reclusive. Having made plans before lockdown. Only to be put on hold again.

    I've  just been thinking about what I realy want. 

    Reading all you guys have written has been inspiring.
    And very helpful.
     

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