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DREAMS
Ronni
Member Posts: 162 Pioneering
I am dyslexic.
My reading are bad.
I always wanted to be a writer / journalist and cartoonist.
What's your dream?
My reading are bad.
I always wanted to be a writer / journalist and cartoonist.
What's your dream?
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I always wanted to be a pilot.
I suffer from obsessive thoughts that I am going to lose control and do something I don't want to do. That would be a laugh wouldn't it? "Hello and welcome aboard, just to warn you I sometimes have thoughts about crashing the plane, other than that have a nice journey."
But you could try those simulators.
Thinking about
Losing control is not the problem but how we lose control.
I dont Have control over every thing in life. Choas spinning in my head alot of the time.
Trying to find calmness in chaotic world is becoming harder.
But looking back on the dreams I had
Is giving me focus for the future.
Not sure mine involves flying.👾
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So now I am focusing on hopefully buying property abroad in the next 10 years ready for when my partner retires
Douglas Bader led the way for many disabled pilots. Theres always
gliding.
I'm dozy with a power chair. So no driving or flying for me.
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Like your future plans.
That what dreams are. Looking future. And you want to be.
Set the goal and enjoy the journey.
An author has always been up there. I guess I'll settle for a subpar crazy cat lady!
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The crazy cat lady... theres a story.
What is it about airplanes you all want to be up there.
Never flown before thought of doing so gives me the shivers.
But it on one of list. The get over it list... lots of phobias.
Gonna have to wait a while for flying.
Thought of sitting in those planes for hours with loads of peopl even without virus is bad enough.
Getting over my people is first on list.
May be we should star our air line
... a virtual one .... the wouldn't have to worry about all they other things. Like balance and losing control. Or actually flying...👨✈️👩✈️👽🙃
See guys you could fly . Never say never.
I dont realy anything but dreams, and elderly mother.
Which I'm trying change my life.
To actually having.
I dont become a writer or anything remotely close.
I content with the journey.
Online course, assistance dog. Sorting communications.
And once some form of normality resumes I see was else is out there. Meet people.
Be a part of it.
It's easier than done. Not got very far yet a lot things on hold. But not giving up.
My dream is just about writing.
But living. Instead of just existing.
It all online at moment. Nothing seems real. But I'm not ready to give up.
I dont a future thats thesame as my present.
I don't really have dreams as I just aspire to be happy and contented and to achieve goals I set for myself. I have small, medium and large goals and work towards them based on achievability and circumstance. However, when I was younger my dream job would have been to serve in the army. Thank you.
Thanks for tips. Both of my brothers were in the army
Late 80s through the 90s.
One always wanted to join. But it turn out to be what he expected. The other joined because there was nothing else. He fitted in and settled In pretty.
Sometimes if we what we want it not always we expect.
Il settle for contentment. Which I've yet to find.
Thank you for sharing with us. I have the upmost respect for all members our armed forces both past and present. I think we still don't look after veterans the way that they deserve but that is just my opinion, I am truly humbled when I think of the sacrifices that they and their families make. You are right when you say that sometimes what we want is not always what we expect or experience. I guess that is part of life, a learning experience. Contentment is always a difficult one and I think it comes with fluidity. As we navigate day to day life, things happen that can affect the way we feel about ourselves and about life more generally, in other words I think we all experience good days and bad days. I know in my teenage years I found my disability really hard to deal with and I bottled this up. It led to me being quite down and I wasn't really being me but I didn't know how to communicate how I was feeling. I've always enjoyed a laugh and am up for giving most things a go but I lost my zest and this continued into my early twenties. I then decided to talk to someone and this really helped but I also started to embrace my disability. It takes time to do this and though I don't think I'll ever feel completely ok about it, I think I will learn to make peace with it and accept it as part of my life. I have also changed my thinking towards things such as the positives that my disability brings such as making me more determined or allowing me to meet some amazing people who I may not otherwise have met. This is also where my goals system comes from and it really works. For example a small goal is getting out of bed on my own on a good day because when I am having a bad day I find this very difficult and I can think about the good days and that I can do this it's just today I need some help and that's ok. A medium goal is thinking about my next charity event as I like to do fundraising for charities close to my heart and considering the circumstances I face at the time with what is realistically possible. A large goal is something like learning to drive because although I have a provisional driver's licence, there are many complications due to my disability which will make it harder for me to learn. I need to consider lots of things and so though it is not on my immediate list of things to do and I know from assessments it is highly unlikely, they have not said 'No' and with the advances of technology maybe in the future, it is floating away in the background and when I have time I occasionally do a little bit of research. I have lots of small, medium and long term goes and I give each the time attention they need depending on achievability and circumstance. There are days that I just have low points, but it's how we deal with these that count. I think in today's world all the focus is on bigger and better and sometimes we forget the things that count, often the things that get missed. I hope you find contentment wherever and in whatever that may be and please if you ever would like to ask anything then please do. Sorry it's long and thank you for reading, I hope it makes sense. Thank you.
Thank you for taking the time to add all that. I enjoyed reading it.
Your right we dont care enough for veterans and those still in milatary and families.
I have long list of small things to focus.
Balance whilst transferring. I'm waiting for adaptions ..on hold.
So focusingon simple things i can adapt and changing the of way doing things.
rely like what you have shared. I was doing it somewhat choaticaly. I can solve somthings. But require others to help with parts of my life. But it all hold.
Thanks again for sharing.
While both of our problems are no doubt very different, I can also strongly relate to what you wrote about "bottling up" your issues in your teenage years and early twenties. I am 26 now and have only just managed to talk about my issues and seek out some specialist treatment to hopefully finally get sorted out. I am lucky in a way in that my issues may be not totally curable but brought down to a manageable level.
Now if only you were my physio.
It would be tea garden rather than pub. Or beer garden.
I'm enjoy reading all of these. They all quite inspiring in different ways.
The term dreams means many different things.
I find mine kept me going as a kid.
And remembering them now. After years of being reclusive. Having made plans before lockdown. Only to be put on hold again.
I've just been thinking about what I realy want.
Reading all you guys have written has been inspiring.
And very helpful.
Thank you for your kind words and I do hope that you are able to get the adaptations you need soon as I am sure this will help you and make your life a little easier. I agree that the word 'dream' means different things to different people and I completely agree some really inspiring posts. Thank you to you for starting this post and sharing your experiences, it has led to some really inspiring and great conversations, thank you
Thank you for your kind words, I greatly appreciate them. I know what you mean when you say how a small minority of the public don't treat veterans with the respect that they deserve but like with most things it is ignorance and a lack of respect. They are individuals and do not represent the majority, we all have a choice of how we view things in this country and I think the majority view veterans as you and I do and most would be disappointed to hear how some are treated after they leave the forces. I too am in my mid twenties and have only just, in the last year, chose to seek professional help but it is one of the most positive decisions I have made. I hope that the help you are receiving continues to support you to manage your issues so you can lead the life you would like to lead. I think it is hard being a teenager anyway but when you have additional struggles such as a disability it can make it harder to navigate. If I may share with you please, that is one of my long term goals, to work with teenagers who have disabilities and to work through feelings or just talking about future worries or what they would like to do in the future. I think one of the problems in mainstream education, is that there are few disabled role models so this can affect how disabled students feel about the future. As I say it is a long term goal and I am doing research here and there, exploring how best to develop this and though it is not an immediate goal, a bit like the driving, it's floating in the background. Thank you.
What an inspiring post, thank you so much for sharing with us and also thank you for you kind words, I greatly appreciate them. Good for you for following you what you would like to do and I imagine you are a fantastic physio as well as a great role model. You are absolutely right, anything is possible but sometimes if you don't achieve it that is ok too. I think it's about how we overcome barriers to the best of our ability and sometimes I think the world forgets that and just focuses on success, my opinion though. I remember once being at a school career's day and another peer said to me "I bet you are so bored as you don't need to worry about careers, you will just live off of benefits your whole life". I didn't even warrant them with a reply and just wheeled off. I have had a part time job for the last 6 years and have been able to progress in this, with many learning opportunities. Thank you for your inspiring post
Wasnt expecting the amazing responses.
The adaptions would likely be another year.
I've lived 15 yrs in a adaptive bungalow. That's adapted somone with full care. Not a semi independent person.
But I have a good imagination and can find things things that were meant for somthing else. But use it for completely different thing. My imagination keeps me going
I do think it's especially hard being a teenager with issues that prevent you from doing what other teenagers can do. For example, watching my peers sitting their exams, meeting up with friends, playing sports, having relationships, etc., but not being able to do the same, was very depressing. I feel like I lost those years of my life, which should be the best years, to my illnesses, and now I only have the downward slope in life to look forward to. I often wish I had had a normal childhood and young adulthood and then became unwell in my mid 20s, then I'd have been able to enjoy my "prime" years. However, there is no point looking back on the past that can't be changed, I am going to just try to look forward at what I can change and hopefully have a better future than past.
I wish you all the best for the future as well and I hope you too are able to lead the life you want to. That is a very great goal to have and a noble thing to want to do. I agree there are not many disabled role models around and it kind of gives the impression that to live a fulfilling life or to be successful you need to be totally able bodied/minded to compete in the world which is not the case. I have found quite the opposite in fact in that in some ways having a big problem to deal with makes you stronger and more resilient than the average person. However I only realised this recently - people need to discover this when they are still in their teenage years otherwise they may just give up during school and will then fall behind. Maybe having more role models would help there.
Sorry for hijacking the thread a little bit!
You are not hijacking. I am enjoying reading all have written. What you say about growing up. I was thinking. Yea I remember that. and i was one of those that gave up on school. I wish I hadn't. Gave up on a lot. It never to late.
Focusing on the future rather the past.
I did two posts same time.
Dreams.
And plans for the future.
This thread has turned out way better than I imagined.
It's not mine.
It belongs to anybody who writes on it.
Thank you for your insightful and inspiring post as well as your kind words. It was really interesting to read your description of your teenage years as I can relate to aspects of what you were saying. I'm sorry to hear that you became unwell and that this affected your teenage years and young adolescent years. I try to look at it like this, different things come to different people at different times and I believe I will have my 'prime' in years to come. It may not be like it would have been as a young adult but it will be just as good and enjoyable. I would love to see more disabled role models in mainstream schools as I think it would support disabled students more to cope emotionally as well as looking to the future. You are right when you say about leading a fulfilling and successful life but I hope we can move towards a better understanding in society that this comes in a variety of ways. Also, when you have a disability or health condition, I do believe you develop attributes such as determination more wholeheartedly compared to peers who perhaps don't have as many barriers to overcome. That said, I think this is true of anyone who has faced adversity in their life. Great to talk to you and I hope to see you around the community. Thank you.
Pleased to hear that you are obviously creative and adaptive in the way that you use things but I hope that they can get the adaptations that meet your needs as quickly as possible. This thread has been amazing and thank you for your kind words regarding that it is everyone's who has commented on it, I am sure that will mean a lot to all who have posted, I know it does to me. I look forward to seeing you around the community, take care. Thank you.
It not so much post about Dreams.
But even better. Sort of about
The Past, Present, and a Future.
Sometimes it's not about how it begins..... but abour the journey and how it ends....
Or continues. 💯
Take care.