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Scared about growing up with a disability

Hi guys
I want to share a worry about you. I dream about living a fully independent life where I’m married with kids but I worry that non of this will happen due to my disability. I worry that I might not be able to have kids or get someone to want to spend their life with me. It sometimes frightens me and makes me nervous about the future.
issy
I want to share a worry about you. I dream about living a fully independent life where I’m married with kids but I worry that non of this will happen due to my disability. I worry that I might not be able to have kids or get someone to want to spend their life with me. It sometimes frightens me and makes me nervous about the future.
issy
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Good Afternoon it’s great to meet you today.
I am one of the Community Champion’s here at Scope.
Sorry to hear about your current concerns about your “long term dreams”
Being Disabled doesn’t mean that you won’t for fill your “dreams”
Yes things are different but not “impossible”
You will be able to meet & great many members on the “Community”
Please let me know if you need any further help?????!
@steve51
thank you for replying. My disability stops me from doing certain things like cooking but I’ve recently come up with a way of doing it differently to make it easier for me. I hope that one day I can cook more meals than I can now. And thank you for sharing your story.
Good Morning 😃
Do you use any adaptive kitchenware ????
Yes you will be able to cook again if you have the “right tools”
You need to remain “confident and determined” through the whole process.
I keep challenging myself and it’s strange how my “brain” adapted.
You need to take “small steps” in the “beginning”
Please come back to me if you have any problems????
@steve51
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We all have to have hope I became disabled when I was 50 and had also just become seperated but now 3 years on I have found a new partner who accepts me for who I am and what I can do not what I cant do.
Think positive and I am sure you will have a happy and fullfilled life
thank you for your reply. I think you’re exactly right on thinking positive and that. I’m glad you’ve found someone who accepts you for you it gives me hope that there are people like your partner out there and hopefully I’ll meet one of those people.
These are concerns and worries that I'm sure a lot of us will share. I certainly had the same worries. Part of the problem is that there have been so few positive examples in the media of people with disabilities living their lives. I found that my attitude towards myself and my expectations for my life drastically changed when I filled my media (particularly social media) with examples of people with disabilities who are just plain awesome. There are plenty of them out there, and here too!
It may be that society has convinced you that people with disabilities don't have the lives they want, or that people find success 'despite' having a disability. The reality is that people find success with disabilities and experience the same joys, love, passion and success as any other person. Perhaps more - as @chiarieds says it will probably be your differences that make you more interesting.
If you use Instagram I'd recommend looking up some of the following: @sitting_pretty, @alexwegman, @mylifewithwheels, @mumsonaroll
There is also my absolute favourite couple on YouTube: Squirmy and Grubs. I don't normally watch vloggers, but they're kind of my guilty pleasure because they're such a funny and adorable couple! I'd also recommend Wheels to Walking on YouTube - he gives great advice and is pretty bada**!
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thank you for replying I will search up these Instagram accounts and thank you for sharing them with me.
issy