In Search For True Love

amsofly

Hello fellow Scope members, 

I thought to myself and felt I should ask this question on this platform and of course, I might get a genuine and helpful answer here.

My question is this: Where can, or do I find True Love with a Lady, regardless of her age or nature? 

Been lonely for so long and I feel the need to come out of my shell and experience true love. 

I believe True love comes from the inside and not the outward look of a woman.

Looking forward to your positive advice and contributions.

Thanks.
@amsofly. 

Cher_Alumni

Hi @amsofly

I can understand you wanting to find true love and someone to share your life with after feeling lonely for a while.  I hope our community can help you 

It can be particularly difficult to come into contact with potential romantic partners.  I wonder, do you have any hobbies or interests?  You could maybe join a club where like-minded people go so you meet new people  What do you think about that?

Cher_Alumni

Another idea @amsofly is you could sign up with the Outsiders Club https://www.outsiders.org.uk/outsidersclub/  This is a free group for disabled people which you can use for dating or to socialise and meet new friends.  It's something to think about! 

janer1967

HI True love is truly hard to find but not impossible but it may take a few hits and misses before you find the right one

I would say if you can get out and meet people face to face this would be the best option. But there is also online dating sites but there are risks of using them as they are full of a lot of scammers and fakes who target vulnerable to exploit them 

Saying that I used a dating site to meet my now partner so there are some good ones out there

amsofly

Thanks so much @Cher_Scope, I find your information very useful and I will also check out the link provided. Thanks.

amsofly

I'm so grateful @janer1967, for your kind advice. Just like you rightly said, most of these dating site have posses a very high risk, not too good in recent times. 

I believe there are pretty nice people here, who are also looking for love as myself.  Not giving up just yet tho.

@amsofly

janer1967

Yes there are others on here looking for the same but unfortunately we are not a dating site and can give out any personal info 

Have a look at our dating section you may find some useful advice 

amsofly

Thanks so much @janer1967 ,  truly appreciate it.

chiarieds

Hi @amsofly - I've recommended the Outsiders club to other members, as it seems more of a safe environment in which to meet people. I don't know when they'll start up, but they also hold lunches where members can meet, & one of the Scope team said he'd heard those were very good. They also have online chats.

You have absolutely the right idea, that love comes from the inside; that's what matters. I hope you find your 'one.'

Topkitten

I don't envy anyone trying to find true love, the situation is more complicated for us than most but never easy for anyone. Personally I gave up on the idea years ago after I met and married my Soul Mate only to find out that from her point of view I was a convenient blank cheque. I did meet someone else but I got ill before it really got going and she left. I have resisted temptation ever since, lol!

I have tried a few dating sites (disabled and non-) but found the people on them sadly lacking in honesty and even less impressive was the number of people who no longer seemed to use the sites but their profiles remained (presumably to make the numbers look better). Most paid for sites tend to be cheap or free for women but expensive for men but the free sites can be very dodgy indeed.

Realistically it would likely be better to get out with groups of like-minded people and there are many ways to do that. At least that way you know they will look like themselves and not some convenient much better looking photo. You can also get a better idea of the person inside that way too because a lot of people think that anonymity can cover up flaws without considering that they are hoping to see that person f2f at some point. I remember one guy I spoke to telling me he had 4 profiles up on a site all with different ages but the same picture (which was taken younger than any of the profiles) and, from what I discovered either women do the same thing or you get bombarded by foreigners wanting to look after you (presumably expecting their fares paid).

Good luck.

TK

chloeblue04

Hello amsofly

I couldn't help reading your comment about your idea of finding true love. It's hard for me to find true love nowadays due to the fact that I'm lonely and single. I say finding true love takes time for you to find the right companion who would share your interests, feelings and the right person who would want to share your life. 

chloeblue04

Excuse me  amsofly I was just wondering about what you said about true love. 

I like reading books and watching films about finding true love but in real life it is different. 

So I have come to talk to you and to ask how do you find true love in real life. The point is that I'm single and I'm not ready to be in a romantic relationship. 

Can I ask you a small question Do you think finding true love in real life is different than in fairy tales? I had my doubts about it and yet I'm confused. 

chloeblue04

Oh by the way amsofly have you found the right woman to be your true love yet? I can give you good advice if you would allow me. 

Demon006

this is something i have wondered i have been single for four years and have found anytime i think i have found someone they either scammer or 100s of miles away or fain interest in hope i got summit they want or just im interested but they not its only recently i started thinking more about what qualities i should really be looking for and im hoping that now i have honed in and got a better idea what i want and or need in a potential gf that i will be able to find and build up a friendship and hopefully blossom it into a relationship but i will admit i am scared cos i been single so long i have to wonder what i will be able to offer emotionally and physically to someone in the future 

Tori_Scope

I definitely think that thinking about what you're looking for, and what you have to offer, is a good idea @Demon006 What do you think your good qualities are, if you don't mind me asking?

You'll still have things to offer, despite having been single for a while. The physical side of a relationship can come with time and trying different things out, and it can also take some time to build a meaningful emotional connection too. Each relationship is different, as it depends on where both of the people are at and what they want. 

Have you had a think about how you might meet new people?

Demon006

I dont know what to do to try and meet people I'm at a loss

Tori_Scope

It can definitely feel a bit overwhelming at first @Demon006. Do you have any hobbies or interests? Social groups based around things you enjoy can be a great way of meeting likeminded people. 

Demon006

I have interests in many things cars computers films and alot more social groups are another thing I have joined alot of different groups but had no luck meeting or making new friends and maybe more