Do you think people treat you differently because you have a disability /condition?

Tammyjane33

I find some people treat me differently now I am unwell unfortunately,😢but i try not to dwell on this. 

earthchild23

yes @Tammyjane33 its sad 😔 but yes they do or I’ve heard comments like you can see your not too right it’s degrading and not nice, and they say it as if it’s supposed to make you feel better or just watch like they have with my son when we ever go out because of his difficulties he will make noises spin around due to sensory and twirl and act out scenes from games to cope in social situations, some people make it feel like differences are not allowed! It’s awful.

Ross_Scope

That doesn't sound very nice @earthchild23, but sadly it's something that happens  

I think people can be quite patronising sometimes as well, either deliberately or by accident.

Tammyjane33

@earthchild23 I'm so sorry you and your son have experienced that! People can be vile sometimes.
My partner has autism and people are rude and have said "why are you with him, when he has that" my reply was "well I'd choose him any day over a rude individual like yourself. There really is no need.
Sending ❤️

Tammyjane33

Yes @Ross_Scope I agree 

earthchild23

Yes @Ross_Scope and @Tammyjane33 some people are for sure rude and closed minded I think they are intimidated by the confidence we have as people with disabilities to still carry on and be ourselves in society that’s why they do it. I just hope one day the world will get to a place where you don’t have anyone turning the other check and more accepting. And @Tammyjane33 you are entitled to love who ever you choose, you and your partner are worth more than them awful comments 🥰

cupcake88

A lot of people don’t know how I’ll iam as I stay away from people I don’t have any friends . My partner is always worried bout me and so is my Nan . 

But when I have taken really sick In front of people I find some people are nice and some are not nice 

Ross_Scope

The online community is your friend @cupcake88  

cupcake88

Thank you for your kind words 

janer1967

Yes people do treat you differently but some in a positive way. I think people who have visible disabilities are more understood than those with non physical. People dont know how to react or deal with those with behaviour or mental health issues they tend to just turn a blind eye or stare 

Francis_theythem

I have good friends and mentors at my university who don't see/treat me any differently. It's good for some of my conditions - ME, Pots, hypermobility and trauma.

But it is also frustrating for me because I am autistic spectrum, so I mature much slower than 'normal' and it's really difficult being independent the way others my age are. So I wish that my mentors would treat me differently so that I can be a part of the world. I know what i want to do, but it's hard doing it purely on my own and I want them to treat me differently (in a good way obviously) so I can do it.  

Tammyjane33

@earthchild23 Thankyou so much for your lovely reply and kind words. I thought people would be more kind in this day and age and it being 2020 and given things like covid19 around I always expect people to be more kind and supportive and less judgemental.
I hope you are well. 

earthchild23

Yes it’s not a problem @Tammyjane33 it’s a difficult and strange time at the moment I just hope all the changes that we are trying to fight for go for something good for the majority than the closed minded minority. COVID is teaching us to be more together and kinder but unfortunately some people don’t want that lesson. I am ok I’m just awake as usual most nights overthinking in pain and unable to sleep I hope you are ok too 

Tammyjane33

@cupcake88 thank you for your comment,its great you are on the site, maybe you could get to know and talk to people here to make friends, it's totally your choice.
I hope you are okay and have a good day. 
Tammy 

Tammyjane33

@Francis_theythem thank you for your reply. It must be frustrating at times, my partner has autism and too so I sort of have an understanding of where you're coming from. If you ever need to talk, there any many people you can talk to here, that can offer support etc. 
Have a good day. 
Tammy 

66Mustang

I have had people be a bit patronising when they discover I have psychological conditions. They talk to me almost like I am a child. I don’t think they do it maliciously - quite the opposite - they are trying to be helpful. Their heart is in the right place.

There is no point in getting offended in my opinion. I get offended by someone having an intent to offend, not by somebody making a mistake.

In the adult world, I have never had anybody be intentionally nasty to me for having a condition. School was a different story but that is over and done with now, thankfully.

deb74

I tend not to tell people about my mental health problems. I don't think people would understand anyway. Most  people have never heard of hydrocephalus nevermind how it affects my life. I have a friend who is autistic and he is the only person who I can talk to about it because he understands. I have been sacked several time because I find it hard to do things! Even the PIP assessor ignored it when she did my assessment. I work for myself now so I haven't get anyone judging me.

Tori_Scope

That must be hard @deb74, but I'm glad that you have a friend you can talk to. Please also remember that the community is always here if you need to chat with people who can understand what you're going through, at least on some level  

deb74

Thanks Tori_Scope.