Do you think people treat you differently because you have a disability /condition?

Tammyjane33

I find some people treat me differently now I am unwell unfortunately,?but i try not to dwell on this. 

Ross_Alumni

That doesn't sound very nice @earthchild23, but sadly it's something that happens  

I think people can be quite patronising sometimes as well, either deliberately or by accident.

Tammyjane33

@earthchild23 I'm so sorry you and your son have experienced that! People can be vile sometimes.
My partner has autism and people are rude and have said "why are you with him, when he has that" my reply was "well I'd choose him any day over a rude individual like yourself. There really is no need.
Sending ❤️

Tammyjane33

Yes @Ross_Scope I agree 

cupcake88

A lot of people don’t know how I’ll iam as I stay away from people I don’t have any friends . My partner is always worried bout me and so is my Nan . 

But when I have taken really sick In front of people I find some people are nice and some are not nice 

Ross_Alumni

The online community is your friend @cupcake88  

cupcake88

Thank you for your kind words 

janer1967

Yes people do treat you differently but some in a positive way. I think people who have visible disabilities are more understood than those with non physical. People dont know how to react or deal with those with behaviour or mental health issues they tend to just turn a blind eye or stare 

Francis_theythem

I have good friends and mentors at my university who don't see/treat me any differently. It's good for some of my conditions - ME, Pots, hypermobility and trauma.

But it is also frustrating for me because I am autistic spectrum, so I mature much slower than 'normal' and it's really difficult being independent the way others my age are. So I wish that my mentors would treat me differently so that I can be a part of the world. I know what i want to do, but it's hard doing it purely on my own and I want them to treat me differently (in a good way obviously) so I can do it.  

Tammyjane33

@earthchild23 Thankyou so much for your lovely reply and kind words. I thought people would be more kind in this day and age and it being 2020 and given things like covid19 around I always expect people to be more kind and supportive and less judgemental.
I hope you are well. 

Tammyjane33

@cupcake88 thank you for your comment,its great you are on the site, maybe you could get to know and talk to people here to make friends, it's totally your choice.
I hope you are okay and have a good day. 
Tammy 

Tammyjane33

@Francis_theythem thank you for your reply. It must be frustrating at times, my partner has autism and too so I sort of have an understanding of where you're coming from. If you ever need to talk, there any many people you can talk to here, that can offer support etc. 
Have a good day. 
Tammy 

66Mustang

I have had people be a bit patronising when they discover I have psychological conditions. They talk to me almost like I am a child. I don’t think they do it maliciously - quite the opposite - they are trying to be helpful. Their heart is in the right place.

There is no point in getting offended in my opinion. I get offended by someone having an intent to offend, not by somebody making a mistake.

In the adult world, I have never had anybody be intentionally nasty to me for having a condition. School was a different story but that is over and done with now, thankfully.

deb74

I tend not to tell people about my mental health problems. I don't think people would understand anyway. Most  people have never heard of hydrocephalus nevermind how it affects my life. I have a friend who is autistic and he is the only person who I can talk to about it because he understands. I have been sacked several time because I find it hard to do things! Even the PIP assessor ignored it when she did my assessment. I work for myself now so I haven't get anyone judging me.

Tori_Scope

That must be hard @deb74, but I'm glad that you have a friend you can talk to. Please also remember that the community is always here if you need to chat with people who can understand what you're going through, at least on some level  

deb74

Thanks Tori_Scope.