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Would you like to go to a spa?

Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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It's National Spa Week this week. This is usually a time for those in the spa and beauty industries to run special offers and encourage people to visit their facilities. However, of course, this year is a little different as spas and other non-essential businesses have been forced to close for the time being.

2020 has been a stressful year for most of us in a number of different ways. It's therefore more important than ever that we all take some time to do the things that help us to relax and unwind.

For some, this may be doing spa-like treatments at home such as:
  • Getting a massage from a loved one or electric massager
  • Putting on a face mask - the cucumber kind, not the Covid kind!
  • Doing your nails
  • Taking a relaxing bath
womans back being massaged with oil

But others (like me!) aren't necessarily too keen on these kinds of activities. I do use my housemate's electric back massager on occasion, but pampering isn't really my thing. I tend to find other activities more relaxing, such as:
  • Having a hot shower
  • Watching TV in my pyjamas
  • Doing sudoku
  • Listening to music
I also find that exercising and cleaning both make me feel a lot more relaxed, even though I don't always enjoy doing them at the time :D 

Will you be going to the spa when they reopen? What do you do to relax? Do you have any top tips for things we can all do at home to unwind? 
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  • RAwarriorRAwarrior Member Posts: 430 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope,

    I agree with a lot of the things that you have said. Going to a spa has never appealed to me. I would also feel very self conscious about going to a spa.

    I also find doing cleaning and tidying up relaxing. 

    I have been watching Tidying Up with Marie Kondo on Netflix so whilst I am limited to how much I can do due to my disability, I have managed to pick up some really good tips about how to tidy up😁 I should say in case you have watched the programme that I am not untidy and the examples in the programme are quite extreme. 

    An interesting part of the episodes was the emotional side of people deciding on what to keep as each episode is very different. I hadn’t come across Marie Kondo before watching the programme but I have since watched quite a few of her videos on YouTube. 

    I am not a psychologist however, an interesting part of her methods is that by tidying up it could help to improve one’s wellbeing. I have certainly found that once I have finished tidying up a room it does make me feel better. I have never been really good at folding things but I have found that by using her methods it has been therapeutic and has created more space. 

    I also find reading a book or watching an archaeology programme relaxing. I have a back, neck and shoulder massager which helps along with a heat pad which is like a cape.

    I also find gardening relaxing.
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    I've watched a bit of Tidying Up with Marie Kondo too @RAwarrior. I definitely agree with you that tidying can improve wellbeing. I find getting started the hardest bit, so I tend to put it off and it always makes me feel worse. 

    I can also get attached to silly things that I should get rid of, but I'm working on it! I'm definitely not as bad as I used to be. 

    Reading is another good one, and your heated shoulder massager sounds amazing! Does it help with pain relief? 

    I don't have a garden, but I know that my Dad finds gardening helps him to unwind too. What's your favourite thing about your garden? 
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  • RAwarriorRAwarrior Member Posts: 430 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope,

    I found that after watching Marie Kondo tidying up t-shirts was therapeutic😁

    I agree with you about actually getting started as it can be quite difficult. I also have to do it when I am not really fatigued. I can have bursts of energy when I can get a lot done. However, once I get started it makes me feel better. I tidied up my books recently and it looks so much better😁 

    The back massager is a Shiatsu massager and it actually hurt when I first started using it because it feels like someone is massaging your back so I would check to see if it is suitable because it might not be suitable for everyone. It does help me as I get occasional back pain which I think is caused by my bad posture.

    The heat pad is like a cape which just heats up and has different settings. 

    I bought both from Amazon so you can have a look on there if you like😁

    I also use a cold pack when my knee is really bad. It is one of those packs with blue liquid which you put in the freezer and it goes into a sleeve to protect the skin from getting burned. I then use a knee support to hold it in place. I bought it in Boots.

    I have bought some mindfulness books about using nature  to improve wellbeing and mindfulness through gardening.

    I also have some books about Forest Therapy to help with my wellbeing. 

    As you can see I like reading and the book I am reading about Forest Therapy is very interesting.

    As you know I enjoy being outside so even going to the park really helps.

    I think the best thing about my garden is seeing it once I have finished planting something or growing something from seeds which can be quite difficult. I created a herb garden during the first lockdown and I was really pleased with the results😁
    Gardening is very difficult for me but I really enjoy it.
  • RAwarriorRAwarrior Member Posts: 430 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope,

    I also find visiting my little squirrel friends relaxing and I would rather see them than go to a spa🐿😁

    I have posted some more photos🐿

    One of the books I have been reading is called Into Nature and it contains different mindfulness projects related to nature🍁
  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,705 Disability Gamechanger
    I wouldn’t mind going to a spa now I’m older, I quite like the idea.

    Years ago I’d find it relaxing to take the dog for a walk and perhaps play catch with it. Certainly takes your mind off things when you watch what fun the dog is having with such a simple game. And of course stroking an animal is known to reduce blood pressure and stress levels...not a predator though! 🙂
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    You'll have to book yourself for a post-lockdown spa session @leeCal

    I wish I had a furry friend :( Do you have a pet at the moment? 
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  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,705 Disability Gamechanger
    edited November 2020
    No @Tori_Scope we don’t have any pets at the moment. Some years ago I had an Alsatian and a cross breed sheepdog and we had great fun playing around. I must admit I didn’t always want to go walkies but it was good for them and me. In fact they pulled so hard between them that often I’d take them out one at a time. 

    Im not sure that we’ll ever have another dog, I think the chances are we won’t which I find quite sad really. ☹️

    If you dont don’t have much space some people say a pet rat is excellent fun and company, very clever little things?
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    That is sad but, as you say, you could always try another pet @leeCal? Cats are reasonably low maintenance. We had a rabbit growing up and he was great too, and stayed outside most of the time.

    My friend used to have rats and they were really clever and friendly! I'm limited with space, but my landlord also doesn't allow pets unfortunately. I'd love to get some pets one day though. 
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  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    Mm organised books and CDs are so satisfying @rawarrior. I think the electric massager my housemate has is similar to that. It definitely hurts at first when it's getting the knots out!

    The books sound great. There are apps for mindfulness too. 

    We all know you love your squirrels :D Linking that with the mindfulness is a really good idea.
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  • RAwarriorRAwarrior Member Posts: 430 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope,

    The massager definitely hurts at first because it does feel like someone is getting the knots out.

     The book is really good and also includes quotes to encourage us. Two examples are:

    ”The sky says stay open to what arises. Tomorrow always brings a new day.”

    ”The tree says bend with the wind. Learn to let go. Trust your strength.”

    I can certainly relate to both of those quotes because they are both things which I have to work on.
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    Great quotes, thanks for sharing @RAwarrior :) 
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  • RAwarriorRAwarrior Member Posts: 430 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope,

    You’re welcome😁

    There are so many  other quotes which I think relate to me including:

    ”The ocean says storms always pass. Don’t fight the current”

    A really good one which I interpret is for me to stay away from people who try to harm me and to do things which actually help me is:

    ”The flower says bloom where you are planted. Reach for what nourishes you.”

    I might be wrong in my interpretation, however, I read it as focusing on things which make me happy for example spending time outside with the squirrels. 

    The first two quotes will hopefully inspire me to look forward and to believe that I have the strength to do so. I have to pick myself up and put myself back together again because of all the problems I have been having. 

    After being bullied at work I lost my confidence and felt weak. However, whilst it will take time to get my mental strength back, I can use the exercises in the book to find other ways of improving my mental health. As you know I really enjoy spending time outside so I need to use that for my benefit because many other things haven’t worked so at least it should be a more enjoyable way of improving my wellbeing.😁
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    Yeah it's important to interpret these things however you want @RAwarrior. I think that's a good interpretation and it sounds like you've learnt some really important lessons already :) 
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  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,201 Disability Gamechanger
    I have been to a spa several times and had treatments too like massage, facials , manicures and pedicures 

    I dont like saunas or steam rooms. I once had a gift of a spa day followed by afternoon tea which was lovely . A day lazing round the pool and jacuzzi, with a facial and then afternoon tea 

    I have a nice hot bubble bath to relax with music playing and a little glass of the old vino  
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    A day lazing round the pool and jacuzzi, with a facial and then afternoon tea 

    Now that sounds like a relaxing day @janer1967! I've been in a sauna once because my Dad had a voucher and I didn't mind it although it was a bit, if you'll excuse the obviousness of this statement, too hot. 

    I'm not a bath lover, but I'm with you on the other two! Thanks for sharing.

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  • WestHam06WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    edited November 2020
    Hi @Tori_Scope
                               How are you? I've been fortunate enough to go for a spa weekend which was lovely, however I wouldn't neccessarily choose it as something which relaxes me. I would say listening to music is the the thing that relaxes me the most but other things include playing on the playstation and as you have said exercising. Please may I ask, what exercise do you enjoy the most? Thank you
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    edited November 2020
    I'm fine thanks @WestHam06, how about you? 

    What games do you like to play on the Playstation? I've been debating buying a second hand XBox to keep me occupied over the coming months, as I used to enjoy playing when I was younger.

    I'm not doing a great deal of exercise at the moment :grimace:, but I've been enjoying going for walks on my own and with my housemates. It's a relaxing way of getting out and about, whilst getting a bit of exercise in. 
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  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Posts: 4,190

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    I would recommend a second hand PlayStation instead Tori :D 
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    I would recommend a second hand PlayStation instead Tori :D 
    Xbox is better, and would probably be considerably cheaper :D 
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    edited November 2020
    Oh no @MrAllen1976 @Ross_Scope, what have I started! :D 

    I grew up playing XBox, not Playstation, so that's the main reason why. My housemate is encouraging me to buy a Switch now as well.
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  • WestHam06WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    Hi @Tori_Scope
                                That sounds awesome, please may I ask what games do you like to play on Xbox. I mainly play FIFA on PlayStation, I think we spoke about Gareth Ainsworth on it before :) but I also enjoy Call of Duty. Going for walks sounds fun and is a great form of exercise, and as you say depending it can either be on your own or with others. I hope you enjoy your Xbox if you do decide to buy one :)  
    And not that I take sides, both are good consoles, but I'm with you @Ross_Scope :) Thank you
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    Indeed we did @WestHam06. I used to play FIFA and Virtua Tennis mainly, plus a smattering of others like Bully, LA Noir, and Fable, and other ones I used to play when I was younger, such as a Shrek game we had, and Simpsons Hit and Run. I never got into First Person Shooters really. I'm still mulling the decision over!
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  • WestHam06WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    What a blast from the past, Simpsons Hit and Run, I always used to play that when I was younger. Thank you so much for reminding me :) Please may I ask who was you're favourite character in the Simpsons? Thank you
  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Posts: 4,190

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    edited November 2020
    Simpsons Hit and Run, wow thanks for bringing that up @Tori_Scope, I used to love that game. I long for the day when EA finally remaster it because I'd love to play it again.

    Thanks for siding with me @WestHam06, nice to have you on team PlayStation! But a Switch is a good option too Tori, my partner has one and the flexibility of being able to play it on the TV and handheld is super.

    For anyone who may not know, we do have a video games thread in the coffee lounge, if you ever wanna chat about more game related stuff in the future :) 
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    A really great game @Ross_Scope @WestHam06! It was the first XBox game we ever owned. I'd love to play it again. Hmm, my favourite character on The Simsons... that's too hard! Maybe Principal Skinner? Homer has to be my favourite out of the family though. Who's yours? 

    Yeah it seems like a great option. I'm just hesitant to commit to any one option!
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  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Posts: 4,190

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    Principal Skinner is a good shout, I'm not sure who I'd pick... Dr nick is always funny :) But from the family yeah Homer is my favourite too. 


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    I'll probably get crucified in the comments for this but I fancy Marge! *shudders!*

    As for Simpsons Hit and Run, I had it on the original Xbox, it was basically GTA reskinned as a Simpsons game.


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    :o@MrAllen1976

    Haha yes, in a way. 
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  • poppy123456poppy123456 Member Posts: 22,218 Disability Gamechanger
    A massage and having my nails done are both 2 of my worst nightmares! One of my conditions is fibromyalgia and a massage for me is absolut torture. I remember some years ago i went to Turkey for 2 weeks and decided to have a massage....biggest mistake ever on my part because i was gritting my teeth the whole way through it and spent the next several days in extreme pain.

    Nails... no thanks. I have a phobia of anyone touching my nails and it makes me cringe. Even scratching my daughters back, makes me feel the same way -shivers-

    I prefer a hot bath in my own house, with bubble bath from lush, or a bath bomb.
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  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    I can't bare a trip to the hair dressers. My local carers center has sessions of manicures, pedicures and massage etc that are very popular...but my idea of torture...and the though of having to do so much small talk at each session would send me over the edge! Lol
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Posts: 5,039

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    I can imagine that must have been unpleasant @poppy123456. It's definitely not for everyone. 

    I've actually never had my nails done, but I don't think I'd enjoy it either. I don't think I've ever heard of someone having a nail phobia before though! 
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  • encaserencaser Member Posts: 331 Pioneering
    Nope. Hugs etc. are fine but I grow increasingly irritated if a person keeps pawing at me too long.
    I'd rather give a massage than receive one.
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    The small talk is the worst bit @cress! My Mum (who's really not a hairdresser...) cut my hair growing up, so I didn't know what it was like until I went to university. I always go for a dry cut so I'm in and out as quickly as possible, which is also a lot cheaper :D 
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  • WestHam06WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    Always will be on team PlayStation @Ross_Scope, no transfer fee would make me swap :) Thank you for the mention of the gaming thread, I haven't seen this so shall endeavour to check it out :) 
    Favourite family character ... um probably Maggie. We once had a Book day at school where you dressed up as a character, I went as Maggie and my brother went as Bart, good fun :) Thank you  
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