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lewissayner
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How do I make friends that will like me for me without being judged or mocked by the way I work.
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Anyone who mocks other people, for any reason, has little empathy and acts thoughtlessly so would not, in my opinion, make a good friend.
I'd rather be on my own and not have any friends if I couldn't trust them to respect me just as I am.
Having said that, fortunately there are lots of nice people out there, who would not dream of being childish enough to mock someone, for any reason.
You'll find such nice people here at Scope. If you are working maybe there will be someone pleasant at work.
I really hope there is no bullying at your workplace?
How is your day going I was asking @BrettW if there was anything he may know of
On the other discussion you said you had friends disability is hard and people are ignorant to disability and say hurtful things
Isnt there any help or support in your area
The only thing you can do where friends are concerned Lewis is just be yourself. A lot of people make the mistake of behaving how they think people expect them to behave rather than showing their true nature. You will find if you act yourself you will be more relaxed and people will respond to this.
Friendships based like this tend to be more long lasting than the ones where people alter their behaviour just to 'fit in'
Hope that helps buddy
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Hope you're well. I don't think @lisathomas50 was saying anything negative about your post or how you came across, she was more just trying to check if you are okay and has the best intentions
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as Brett says, once you’ve joined its best to be yourself because people will appreciate some of your unique characteristics and ways of thinking etc. Far harder to pretend to be someone you’re not, not that anyone has mentioned doing so.
Work is a a good way to meet people and prevent loneliness as well of course though I never personally found it a way to gain friends, but then I’m male and I think that does actually make a difference in the workplace. I was friendly at work but I left that at work if you see what I mean, preferring to have separate friends to work colleagues.
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As with everything, you may have to try a few potential friends before you come across the right ones. Joining clubs is probably a better idea than work as people are generally at work because they have to be, whereas they'll be in clubs because they want to be.
I understand this is maybe down to your condition but people are only trying to help you
This could be a reason you find it difficult connecting with friends if you put up barriers to people wanting to help and befriend you
I made a couple of friends at a support group - maybe that is an option, as they will have things in common, understand your difficulties, may even share some of your unique traits, although joining a club is also a good idea.
I.e. on a Mini Cooper forum I’m just a person that owns a Mini. I’d never dare share that I’m scared of driving on dual carriageways as I’d get destroyed!! On watch forums I’m just someone who likes watches. Don’t have to and would never disclose there that I’m, say, on benefits as most watch enthusiasts are high earners.
On this site I tend to post everything in honesty - not to say I lie on other forums, I just withhold facts.
As you say depends on what forum your on the conversation is different
And your right you don't have to disclose anything you don't want
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I also think joining an online group is a great idea @lewissayner
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I've also been called a "workshy waste of skin" by Daily Mail reading nutjobs who spend all day posting on Facebook when they should be working themselves! It's not my fault I can't get a job beyond the voluntary sector, I've been trying for over 25 years.