Any advice on dealing with bereavement of a sibling?

Gordonm · February 19

If anyone could help me I'd appreciate it.

leeCal · February 19

I’m sorry to hear of your loss @Gordonm bereavement is a hard thing to deal with. All I can say is that I lost my sister to pneumonia and other complications some ten years ago and it still hurts though not as much as it did at the time, I had all sorts of feelings when it happened including anger at a life taken so relatively young, aged fifty two. But time does heal and I wish that for you too.
God bless and once again I am truly sorry for your loss,

(there are organisations who can help with the bereavement process eg;

https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/bereavement-or-grief-counselling

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/coping-with-bereavement/

https://www.cruse.org.uk/ )

Gordonm · February 19

Thanks leeCal

Sandy_123 · February 19

@Gordonm Im sorry for your loss, bereavement is never easy. Look at the links already posted they may be able to help and will be trained in this area. If you want to talk about you can message me.

Gordonm · February 19

Thank you Sandy 123

janer1967 · February 19

Sorry for your loss and hope you get some support from the suggestions from others

We all deal with loss in different ways but it is important you reach out and talk if you are struggling to come to terms with the loss

Take care

Gordonm · February 19

Thank you janer1967

Tori_Scope · February 19

Hi @Gordonm

I'm very sorry for your loss, and please know that the community is here to support you.

I'd definitely recommend that you take a look through some of the links that leeCal helpfully posted.

What kind of specific advice are you after? How are you coping at the moment?

Gordonm · February 19

I havn't seen my brother from the start of covid but I have spoken to him on the phone
We were supposed to go out for a coffee when the restriction was relaxed but he had to cancel
Next thing he was in hospital and 5 days later he was dead
I wasn't even allowed to go to the funeral so it's been difficult to get my head around this

Cressida · February 20

@Gordonm I'm so sorry for your loss of your brother.

Gordonm · February 20

Thank you Cressida

cupcake88 · February 21

I’m really sorry for your loss

Gordonm · February 21

Thank you

Tori_Scope · February 22

Gosh, that must have been such a shock @Gordonm.

Do you have any other family that you could speak to about this?

Gordonm · February 22

No every one in our family is now deceasy

Tori_Scope · February 23

I'm sorry to hear that @Gordonm. Have you been able to contact any of the organisations listed above?

I think it's important to remember that the grief might never really 'go away', but rather your life grows around the grief, which makes it feel a little smaller. Here's an illustration to demonstrate that:

drawing showing blob of grief not getting smaller but rather a bigger blob of life growing around it

drawing showing blob of grief not getting smaller but rather a bigger blob of life growing around it

Cressida · February 23

@Gordonm if you take a look around the coffee lounge another part of the forum there are always people there just to have a general chat to if you would like to talk about your brother. I really hope you have someone to talk to about him. Do you have any old photographs of you both as chiildren? I love looking through old family photos.

Any advice on dealing with bereavement of a sibling?

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