Any advice on dealing with bereavement of a sibling?

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Gordonm
Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
If anyone could help me I'd appreciate it.

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  • leeCal
    leeCal Online Community Member Posts: 7,537 Championing
    I’m sorry to hear of your loss @Gordonm bereavement is a hard thing to deal with. All I can say is that I lost my sister to pneumonia and other complications some ten years ago and it still hurts though not as much as it did at the time, I had all sorts of feelings when it happened including anger at a life taken so relatively young, aged fifty two. But time does heal and I wish that for you too.
    God bless and once again I am truly sorry for your loss,

    (there are organisations who can help with the bereavement process eg;

    https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/bereavement-or-grief-counselling

    https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/coping-with-bereavement/

    https://www.cruse.org.uk/ )

  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    Thanks leeCal
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 63,123 Championing
    @Gordonm Im sorry for your loss, bereavement is never easy. Look at the links already posted they may be able to help and will be trained in this area. If you want to talk about you can message me. 
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    Thank you Sandy 123
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Online Community Member Posts: 21,922 Championing
    Sorry for your loss and hope you get some support from the suggestions from others 

    We all deal with loss in different ways but it is important you reach out and talk if you are struggling to come to terms with the loss 

    Take care 
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    Thank you janer1967
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,468 Championing
    Hi @Gordonm :) I'm very sorry for your loss, and please know that the community is here to support you.

    I'd definitely recommend that you take a look through some of the links that leeCal helpfully posted. 

    What kind of specific advice are you after? How are you coping at the moment? 
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    I havn't seen my brother from the start of covid but I have spoken to him on the phone 
    We were supposed to go out for a coffee when the restriction was relaxed but he had to cancel 
    Next thing he was in hospital and 5 days later he was dead 
    I wasn't even allowed to go to the funeral so it's been difficult to get my head around this
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    Thank you Cressida 
  • cupcake88
    cupcake88 Posts: 1,414 Trailblazing
    I’m really sorry for your loss 
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    Thank you 
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,468 Championing
    Gosh, that must have been such a shock @Gordonm

    Do you have any other family that you could speak to about this? 
  • Gordonm
    Gordonm Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 14 Connected
    No every one in our family is now deceasy
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,468 Championing
    I'm sorry to hear that @Gordonm. Have you been able to contact any of the organisations listed above? 

    I think it's important to remember that the grief might never really 'go away', but rather your life grows around the grief, which makes it feel a little smaller. Here's an illustration to demonstrate that: 

    drawing showing blob of grief not getting smaller but rather a bigger blob of life growing around it