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Virtual buffet as me and bump say bye... for now

Cher_Inactive
Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,414

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Ever one to be self-indulgent ( :D ), I couldn't let my last full day on the community before maternity leave go by without an online soiree with you lovely lot.

Feel free to bring along nibbles, play baby-related songs, tell me your top tips on parenting and what made your parents special to you and perhaps even guess the birth weight of our little mister.  All prayers/wishes/thoughts for a safe delivery are most appreciated too!



PS - This year has gone by in a flash and I've learnt so much from each and every one of you.  You all won't be far from my thoughts as I enter the new world of nappies, sleep deprivation and baby powder and I'll genuinely be wishing you all well  <3  Look after yourself and take care.
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  • MarkM88
    MarkM88 Member Posts: 1,836 Pioneering
    Take care and good luck with it all. 
  • Cressida
    Cressida Member Posts: 921 Pioneering
    @Cher_Scope. My top tip is enjoy every second because before you know your 'baby' will be all grown up :) Rely on your instincts, everyone will have good advice and it can be overwhelming sometimes. Please keep in touch and let us know how things are going.

  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,375 Disability Gamechanger
    Omg canr believe that time has come already 

    You will be missed I wish you all the best for your new chapter and becoming a yummy mummy !!!! 

    My tip is feed on demand not every 2 hours like will be suggested and if you don't get on with feeding yourself don't feel bad it's hard on you and the bottle is fine 

    Enjoy every minute buf don't forget to send us a pic 

    Take care 
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  • vikingqueen
    vikingqueen Member Posts: 548 Pioneering
         You're going to smash it, my tip is the same as Cressida's. Blink and your baby will be ready to spread their wings.
          Just enjoy  <3
  • idontlikeliving
    idontlikeliving Member Posts: 119 Courageous
    What a lovely post to read after all the doom and gloom lol I wish you all the best and hope you don’t stay away for too long. I will guess the babies weight. 7lbs 4oz. Totally random number haha ❤️
  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,621 Disability Gamechanger
    Good luck @Cher_Scope

    It has been really nice to have you on the website, I have enjoyed your posts and hope you come back when you are able to :)
  • Oxonlady
    Oxonlady Member Posts: 452 Pioneering
    Hi @Cher_Scope, I'll miss you but wish you all the very best, I hope it all goes well for you.
    I've no tips to pass on because each baby is individual, with different needs and character. Listen to your instincts more than other people's!
    I look forward to hearing from you when you are ready! 
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 782 Pioneering
    Hi @Cher_Scope Good luck. I have only been on the site just over a month but have enjoyed reading your posts.
  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,414

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    Aww thanks you lot, what blimmin' lovely messages.  Trying not to happy hormonal cry  :D<3

    I'll definitely send on news/pics once he makes an appearance.  Honestly, I can't wait to hold him in my arms, it still feels very surreal and he is absolutely a little miracle baby.  I've heard lots about my mother's gut instinct kicking in so will be holding out for that - why do babies not come with a manual, I ask you?!

    <passes around a tray of mini sausage rolls>  
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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,375 Disability Gamechanger
    Birth weight 6lb 10 

    Puts some mini quiche on the buffet table and changes the record to baby love 
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  • rubin16
    rubin16 Member Posts: 159 Pioneering
    I wish you and the baby all the best, thankyou for being there not just for me, but for helping lots of others too. Looking forward to the baby pics and you returning in the future.
  • Ami_Host
    Ami_Host Community Volunteer Host Posts: 64 Connected
    I can't believe that this has arrived so quickly! It only feels like yesterday that you shared a lovely photo of yourself and hubby after tying the knot, and announcing your little guest!

    If you are anything like how you are on the community, then you'll be a very special mummy to the little man. You're kind, funny, have a heart of gold, and are resilient. You have oozed mummy vibes from the second you joined us and we all think you're one in a million!

    I think I can say on behalf of everyone, that yes we are sad that you'll be leaving us for a while, we are absolutely over the moon for you to begin this new chapter! We all love you and wish you the very best :heart:
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser Posts: 352 Pioneering
    Hi @Cher_Scope

    I wish you the best of luck with the birth and the time ahead with your bump. I hope you enjoy both. Have you have got any ideas of names for your bump yet? You must share their name and photos with us. My parents have always been special to me because they have always made time for me and tried their best in all ways. On that note, make sure you look after yourself and maximise your time with your bump. I will look forward to seeing you when you return and you will be missed in the meantime   <3
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  • Cress
    Cress Member Posts: 968 Pioneering
    Very best wishes to you and Mr Cher.  <3
    I remember the first time holding my babies I had this really strong feeling that I'd known their little souls all my life, like they'd always been with me somehow.
    You will be knackered, it will be worth it!

    I also remember spending ages in the better toy shops deciding on which was the best shape sorter, or cot mobile and and which seemed the absolute safest re materials used.

    Fast forward five years and I was buying them pointy sticks with probably toxic materials and choking hazards from a man in the street to quiet the tantrum.  :D

    You're going to be a great mum, you've got this!  :)
  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,414

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    Eeesh you guys  :'( << happy tears

    Your words are much appreciated as a geriatric (gotta love that term) first-time mum to be!  I think the sleep deprivation is the thing I'm most dreading, but I'll be able to have coffee again so my machine best get ready for a good hiding  :D  

    @Cress I'm at the research stage now(!), last night I was reading reviews on baby bouncers and which were best for sensory development.. definitely give it a few years and I'm sure I'll be like you, ha.

    We do have a name in mind but I'll keep that hush until the big reveal  :D  Also, I'm loving the weight guesses, if it helps he's urrr definitely not on the small side so it seems.

    Does anyone have any pleasant labour stories to share?  :D 


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  • leeCal
    leeCal Member Posts: 4,257 Disability Gamechanger
    Best wishes Cher I hope all goes really well. I’d guess 8 pounds 6ozs.

    as others have said , make the most of every minute 🙂
  • vikingqueen
    vikingqueen Member Posts: 548 Pioneering
          I had my 1st son at the end of September on a beautiful Sunday morning, I'd been in labour for hours and not realised!! I arrived at the hospital at 3-30am. It was very serene and quiet. My son arrived at 6am, the nurse had opened the window and we could hear the dawn chorus, it was a very easy and quite magical birth even my son decided not to cry but squeaked his 1st breath. 
      Just go with the flow Cher, any discomfort will be forgotten in an instant once your baby is placed in your arms.
  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 5,005

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    We're going to miss you Chezza, wishing you all the best! :) 
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  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,659 Disability Gamechanger
    I don't know anything about baby weights, or indeed pound conversions...so I'll guess around 5kg?  :#

    Thanks for your help & time on here Cher.  Good luck & all the best!   :)
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,375 Disability Gamechanger
    Omg @OverlyAnxious that would be one massive baby 11lb it is possible but for cher sake I hope your guess is wrong 
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  • Cress
    Cress Member Posts: 968 Pioneering
    edited September 16
    One more thing...if you've seen three men and a baby, the reaction of all of them when first changing a nappy was definitely realistic and not over acting    :s
    And don't worry too much about the sleep deprivation, you'll surprise yourself on how little you can get by on...but don't refuse any offers to take over!
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 12,375 Disability Gamechanger
    Beware of getting hit with pee lol 

    When changing a boy especially.  When fresh air gets to them this causes them to wee

    Open the nappy first let air get to them then cover back up with nappy before you actually take it off to change 
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  • Cress
    Cress Member Posts: 968 Pioneering
    @janer1967 :D
    Yep, I'd forgotten that bit!
    Every flippin time...lol
    Also similar thing happening to your boobs should you be breast feeding...any baby crying anywhere would set you off as it were!  :#
    Happy days...lol
  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,414

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     :D  I can't wait (!) and y'ouch 11 pounds <crosses legs>  :D  

    All helpful tips, thank you and @vikingqueen what a gloriously peaceful birth that sounds!  I think mine may be more reminiscent of Cassandra on Only Fools and Horses, but I'll try and channel my inner relaxation, serenity and deep breathing! 
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  • Leigh14
    Leigh14 Member Posts: 344 Pioneering
    Good luck @Cher_Scope. Such wonderful, exciting times ahead for you.
    All the very best xx
  • MissMarple
    MissMarple Member Posts: 107 Courageous
    Wishing you all the best @Cher_Scope. Hope everything goes well for you and the baby.
  • nandbkieren
    nandbkieren Member Posts: 13 Listener
    All the best for you and the little one. And thank you for your kindness. :)
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Member Posts: 906 Pioneering
    Awww Cher can’t believe it’s time already. I wish you and your husband all the best and yous will smash this.😘❤️

    Babys weight  8lb 5 👶 
  • poppy123456
    poppy123456 Member Posts: 23,909 Disability Gamechanger
    Just stopping by to wish you and your husband all the best in your new chapter. It's definitely not easy but it will be worth it for sure! A bundle of pure joy!! Birth weight guess is 8Ib 3. Do come back and share some pictures please. Take care of yourself and "bump" <3
  • woodbine
    woodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,356 Disability Gamechanger
    How time flies, best wishes @Cher_Scope hope all goes well, put your feet up now ! 
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  • Grinchy
    Grinchy Member Posts: 437 Pioneering
    wishing you all the very best, take care of yourself, you will be missed xx
  • Justcheckingin15
    Justcheckingin15 Member Posts: 193 Pioneering
    @Cher_Scope..One of my children was not far off 12lbs....🙂
  • Justcheckingin15
    Justcheckingin15 Member Posts: 193 Pioneering
    Not long joined this forum.. but always enjoyed your posts. One tip I have...Dont compare your little one, with other kids of same age.One will walk faster...speak earlier..cut teeth quickly..Sleep through the night at a young age.They will all  reach their milestones in their own time.Also...look after you..take pics by the shed load...and..sit back and enjoy that special time with your little Miracle...At a guess.. I will say...7lbs 10ozs....Hope to see you back..down the line.🙂
  • lisathomas50
    lisathomas50 Posts: 4,619 Disability Gamechanger
    I have had ten children the sleep thing the secret is to sleep when they do and get them into a routine as soon as possible  if you know your baby has been changed fed and winded don't rush to pick them up as they learn that if they cry they get picked up 

    Give your baby a nice bath jest before their feed at around 7 ish depending what time their  feed is 

    It is harder when you have visitors as people are picking baby up lol

    As long as you are calm and happy and get a routine going you will be fine 

    Good luck and have a lovely time time with your baby 
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 10,613 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Cher - I'm definitely going to miss you; your posts have been thoughtful, helpful, & always showed such lovely empathy. You've meant a lot to us, & many, many members I'm sure, so thank you for all you've done.
    If you're anything like me, if you get the urge to cook a whole chicken, make a jelly, & clean the kitchen floor, you're definitely imminent! Walk around lots (as ever gravity assists), & do try the breathing exercise I'm forever going on about, & you'll be fine.
    Baby's routine is the one that you pick up on, & I do hope you try breastfeeding....it's a very special, close feeling & time for Mum & baby; Dads can always change nappies, & bring you food.....not necessarily in that order.
    I look forward to hearing about your son's safe arrival (8lbs, I'm guessing), & my best wishes to you & your husband.  <3
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Member Posts: 2,017 Pioneering
    Wow good luck @Cher_Scope. I'm going to guess at 8 pound 👶 
  • easy
    easy Member Posts: 144 Pioneering
    All the best cher. I think 6lb 2oz a nice size for a new mum. Heres to happy times.
  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,414

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    Ahh what lovely messages to read and look back on  <3  They are all appreciated and really sum up the heart of this community so a massive thank you from me.

    As I'm booked up for the rest of my last day, I'll bid you a fond farewell ::waves:: Have a lovely weekend and enjoy these last bits of sun peeking through! 
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