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Hi, my name is davefromleeds!

davefromleeds Member Posts: 2 Listener
hi i have been living with Me/cfs for about 15 years and most of my family think i am just being lazy because i am not well enough to leave the house and it is my dads funeral on friday 8th oct 21 and i am not well enough to go so i am trying to get somone to put the funeral on speaker phone so i can at least listen at home


  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 765 Pioneering
    Hi @davefromleeds  I am sorry for your loss.  Hopefully some one will be able to help you regarding the funeral. If you have any questions please ask.
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 10,529 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @davefromleeds - & welcome to the community. Thank you for joining, altho this must be an incredibly sad time for you. I wonder if the funeral directors can help? When our elderly tenant died last November, as her son lived in Australia, they videoed the entire service for him. Funeral directors must have realised that some people have been unable to attend funerals often during the pandemic, so may be able to help you too. Perhaps worth a try, if your family aren't forthcoming. I hope you get something sorted, & take care of yourself too at this difficult time.
  • davefromleeds
    davefromleeds Member Posts: 2 Listener
    Thanks for the comments and my family have spoken to the funeral director about live streaming the service but it would cost £200 so my brother or sister will record it and I am just waiting to see who will put there phone on speaker phone so I can listen to the service live 
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 10,529 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry I was unhelpful. Hmmm, get your brother or sister to commit to putting their phone on speaker phone for you; sounds like one of them will do, but make sure, so you can listen to the service.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Member Posts: 1,981 Pioneering
    Hi @davefromleeds sorry for hour loss and glad that you have sorted something out, so that you can still be part of the funeral.
  • Alex1970
    Alex1970 Member Posts: 21 Connected
    Hi @davefromleeds - as @chiarieds mentioned, the funeral directors can organise a live stream. My son works for a company that does this based in Sheffield. I'm not sure how expensive it would be or how much notice they'd need though sorry. 
  • Ross_Scope
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  • bg844
    bg844 Member Posts: 220 Courageous
    Hi @davefromleeds I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through and I’m sorry for your loss. This is a good community who will support you.


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