Sex, and being disabled

ellieflower3

my partner who respects I have a injury stopping me from doing most things helps me through our relationship, I feel useless sometimes when he says he wants sex and i can't give him that so i feel a useless person and my fault for a suicide attempt.
I find stretching helps me please him but for some reason It doesn't give me pleasure but it does him. 
I sometimes allow things to carry on but afraid Ill injure myself or make my condition worse or do damage. Am I bad girlfriend? that i don't give him sex
he says it's okay but i feel im letting him down due to my friends relationships are more active sexually making me think im a useless girlfriend by not giving him sex. any advice?  thanks

Tori_Scope

You're not at all letting anyone down @ellieflower3. You don't owe sex to anyone.

I'm glad that your boyfriend doesn't make you feel like you're letting him down. You shouldn't have to worry about injury when having sex with your partner- have you had an open conversation with him about what you could do with each other that would be pleasurable for both of you? It can sometimes be difficult to bring these things up, but it's really important that you do. 

It's also worth remembering that different couples have varying sex lives for lots of different reasons. You should therefore try and avoid comparing yourself to your friends and their relationships. What matters is finding something that works for both you and your partner  

I feel useless sometimes when he says he wants sex and i can't give him that so i feel a useless person and my fault for a suicide attempt.

Do you mean that you sometimes feel as though it was your fault you attempted suicide, and that this is now having an effect on your sex life? Do you mind me asking whether you currently feel suicidal? 

ellieflower3

Tori_Scope said:

You're not at all letting anyone down @ellieflower3. You don't owe sex to anyone.

I'm glad that your boyfriend doesn't make you feel like you're letting him down. You shouldn't have to worry about injury when having sex with your partner- have you had an open conversation with him about what you could do with each other that would be pleasurable for both of you? It can sometimes be difficult to bring these things up, but it's really important that you do. 

It's also worth remembering that different couples have varying sex lives for lots of different reasons. You should therefore try and avoid comparing yourself to your friends and their relationships. What matters is finding something that works for both you and your partner  

I feel useless sometimes when he says he wants sex and i can't give him that so i feel a useless person and my fault for a suicide attempt.

Do you mean that you sometimes feel as though it was your fault you attempted suicide, and that this is now having an effect on your sex life? Do you mind me asking whether you currently feel suicidal? 

im not bbut ty

ellieflower3

Tori_Scope said:

You're not at all letting anyone down @ellieflower3. You don't owe sex to anyone.

I'm glad that your boyfriend doesn't make you feel like you're letting him down. You shouldn't have to worry about injury when having sex with your partner- have you had an open conversation with him about what you could do with each other that would be pleasurable for both of you? It can sometimes be difficult to bring these things up, but it's really important that you do. 

It's also worth remembering that different couples have varying sex lives for lots of different reasons. You should therefore try and avoid comparing yourself to your friends and their relationships. What matters is finding something that works for both you and your partner  

I feel useless sometimes when he says he wants sex and i can't give him that so i feel a useless person and my fault for a suicide attempt.

Do you mean that you sometimes feel as though it was your fault you attempted suicide, and that this is now having an effect on your sex life? Do you mind me asking whether you currently feel suicidal? 

u ok

paulmitch26

dont evan worry about it, i dont know you and dont want to sound like a pervo but maybe just maybe find other ways to pleasure him.. as a man seriously throw him onto the bed and give him the best **** of his life!! 
sex dosnt matter but i hope you and your partner sort this out and good luck  

ellieflower3

paulmitch26 said:

dont evan worry about it, i dont know you and dont want to sound like a pervo but maybe just maybe find other ways to pleasure him.. as a man seriously throw him onto the bed and give him the best **** of his life!! 
sex dosnt matter but i hope you and your partner sort this out and good luck  

hello, thank you! no, your not a perv never call yourself that! I totally understand thank you

steve39

ellieflower3 said:

my partner who respects I have a injury stopping me from doing most things helps me through our relationship, I feel useless sometimes when he says he wants sex and i can't give him that so i feel a useless person and my fault for a suicide attempt.
I find stretching helps me please him but for some reason It doesn't give me pleasure but it does him. 
I sometimes allow things to carry on but afraid Ill injure myself or make my condition worse or do damage. Am I bad girlfriend? that i don't give him sex
he says it's okay but i feel im letting him down due to my friends relationships are more active sexually making me think im a useless girlfriend by not giving him sex. any advice?  thanks

sorry how do you know that your friends are more active ? have you watched then ? you don't say  what made you try suicide or hurt you because what I'm trying to say is that it don't matter what other people say they are doing, while your worrying about things nothing is going to feel right for you , when your ready it wont matter until then. don't worry just go ahead as you are and enjoy yourself