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Differing parenting styles and how it makes parenting a child with a disability 10 time harder
My spouse and I differ greatly in our parenting styles which is hugely frustrating. Our eldest child has LD and complex medical needs resulting from severe HIE at birth. I am proactive booking hospital appointments, staying on top of meetings,ehcps,various therapy sessions. My spouse has to be told what to do they will not complete therapy exercises such as SLT or OT unless I tell them 10 times to do so and also what to do even then they sometimes forget. Having a child with complex needs is hard going but having a spouse who does not take an active role is difficult. I will admit I am the type of person to micromanage everything but I have tried biting my tongue taking a step back to see what gets done and nothing gets done. They are able to supervise our child well and are a very loving & kind parent but do little in way of learning for example with SLT our child is non verbal we have been advised to give them choices with food etc to encourage them to request for items using a non verbal means of communication. My spouse will just give them the food they feel they should have which does not encourage our child's independence.
My spouse claims they do not help me out because I like things done a specific way and they do not want to interfere and get me annoyed. I work shifts twice a week at night and have explained to my spouse that I need to give up work as it is hard being primary carer also having a baby too and working night shifts but they keep alluding to the fact that I have a stable job and some income to support us but I am burnt out.
Can anyone relate?
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