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Relationship getting more serious ?

redOwl
redOwl Member Posts: 13 Listener
While back posted about relationship having trouble understanding at time felt was a lot problems thought things where getting better .Now getting more serious but some things not sure  what to think .

When first visited her she had social worker visiting her she had her child taken into care few months ago and social worker visiting her at time she told me hide out sight when  social worker  visiting her .

At time we in relationship when asked her  trying find out what going on if child living with her or if she stay in care she usual say that felt be best her child stayed in care she couldnt cope with her back home .

She never really tell me what what going on with social worker but when  ever her ex bf phoned up she seem to tell him about what going on.

Same time she having social worker visit her she visiting lawyer  about her child as well just saying that giving her assessments about something but not really saying what just that stressing her a lot .

She never really tell me  just that talked about if wanted interview me i need support i have problems being interviewed on my own understand what asking me that she said that wouldnt happen wouldnt need see me .

Few weeks ago she asked me go down  when seeing lawyer just thinking that be waiting while she with her lawyer argument over it because wearing  t shirt her saying that she going introduce me as friend then say that i was her bf  .

Recently she said had last these assessments with her lawyer that they where now over .When her ex moved out he moved into some kind housing where said that some  kind abuse.

Gf invited him over even do she said he never be invited to house to sign some papers and now wants argue with him over what he said about her being abusive she talking about trying get him to emit lying about it.

Not sure feel like maybe something still going on  when her ex called her she told him about about medical appointment she didnt even tell me about until much later.



 

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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Member Posts: 2,192 Pioneering
    Hi @redOwl it All does sound very complicated. The only  advise I can give is to talk your concerns with your girlfriend. Tell her how you feel about the issues that you don't like and see if you can work through them.  If you don't then she won't know how you feel.
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 6,620

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    Hi @red0wl :) It's good to hear from you. Have you been able to speak to your family about this yet? It seems as though you're still quite unsure about some elements of your relationship with your girlfriend, and that there are some things worrying you in terms of how she's been acting. 
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  • Libby_Scope
    Libby_Scope Posts: 158 Courageous
    Hey @redOwl :) 

    I hope you're doing okay and you've managed to gain some support relating to your girlfriend. The situation does seem complicated and it's great that you've reached out to ask for advice and opinions.

    As @Tori_Scope mentioned, it might be worthwhile speaking to individuals that you're close to, as they will know you on a personal level and what is best for you. You are clearly a little unsure about the situation and it's important to trust your instinct and how you're feeling about the situation. Make sure to put your needs first and look after yourself :)

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  • redOwl
    redOwl Member Posts: 13 Listener
    Bit late response recently met her social worker she been trying to see  her daughter who was in care.Kind of interview questionnaire thing with her daughter social worker about me felt bit had to understand .

    When first started chatting with gf  she said wanted relationship with  me told her very dependent on my family in ways have hard time with day to day things and that maybe  to much for her  that she said  be supporting each other .

    Social worker telling me that  gf need lot support been trying best i can help her and because condition house very run down that safe for her daughter  to return and look after her .

    Tried talk gf about this she  say doesn't   know what they on about  when  asked her what social worker meant .

    Have tried talk to family about this before but seem to make fun of it and dont listen.



     

     
  • Libby_Scope
    Libby_Scope Posts: 158 Courageous
    edited 9:37AM
    redOwl said:
    Bit late response recently met her social worker she been trying to see  her daughter who was in care.Kind of interview questionnaire thing with her daughter social worker about me felt bit had to understand .

    When first started chatting with gf  she said wanted relationship with  me told her very dependent on my family in ways have hard time with day to day things and that maybe  to much for her  that she said  be supporting each other .

    Social worker telling me that  gf need lot support been trying best i can help her and because condition house very run down that safe for her daughter  to return and look after her .

    Tried talk gf about this she  say doesn't   know what they on about  when  asked her what social worker meant .

    Have tried talk to family about this before but seem to make fun of it and dont listen.



     

     
    Thank you for getting back in touch @redOwl and for the update :) 

    It's great that you've been able to speak to the social worker directly and gain more information about your girlfriends situation and how to best support her. It seems that your girlfriend might not understand the situation fully too, so it might be worthwhile you both sitting down with the social care worker to ask any questions or express any concerns that you might have. When you say that the 'house very run down' what do you mean by this?

    Please remember, to also look after yourself and put yourself first. We need to look after ourselves, to be able to look after our loved ones :). Do you feel as though your committing enough time to yourself at the moment? 

    I'm sorry to hear that you're family isn't being as understanding as you'd like. Please remember that we are always here on the community to support you and help where we can. 

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