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lottie2007
lottie2007 Member Posts: 44 Connected
hello From Hampshire 

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  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 2,043 Pioneering
    Hi @lottie2007 How are you? Is it freezing where you live, it is in Manchester. Enjoy your evening. If you have any questions please ask. Take care.
  • lottie2007
    lottie2007 Member Posts: 44 Connected
    Hi yes it’s very cold in Hampshire but no snow 
    going through bad patch at moment not looking forward to Xmas 
    have a good evening 
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 2,043 Pioneering
    Hi @lottie2007 I am sorry to hear you are going through a bad patch at the moment and not looking forward to Christmas. Do you have any family or friends that could help you ? If you would like to share any more details this is a friendly and supportive forum. Take care.  
  • lottie2007
    lottie2007 Member Posts: 44 Connected
    I lost my husband on the 20th sept very suddenly we were married for 43 yrs he hadn’t been ill at all but had a massive heart attack 
    I have a amazing family but find it hard to talk to them as trying to stay strong for them sorry to blurt this out 
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 2,043 Pioneering
    Hi @lottie2007 I am so sorry for your loss. You are grieving at the moment and Christmas is the last thing you want to be thinking about. Sometimes it is easier to talk to people you do not know than family. Please remember yourself you cannot be strong all the time. Take care.
  • lottie2007
    lottie2007 Member Posts: 44 Connected
    Thank you for listening 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 13,272 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome to the community 

    I'm sorry for your loss it must be so hard to deal with 

    The same happened to my dad and my mum was like a lost soul 

    We are always around for a chat you can rant vent do what you want on here 

    Take care you don't have to be strong all the time it's OK not to be ok 
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 7,005

    Scope community team

    Welcome to the community @lottie2007 :) 

    There's no need to apologise, you're welcome to share anything you'd like here in your own way. 

    I also wanted to say that I'm terribly sorry for your loss. That must have been such a shock. I can imagine that you'd be having some difficult feelings around Christmas, too. 

    Although I understand that you want to stay strong for your family, I'd encourage you to lean on them if you need. It can sometimes be helpful to spin the situation around the other way, and think about whether you'd want your family members to speak to you if they were experiencing grief.

    That being said, as teddybear12 has said, it can sometimes be easier to speak to people you don't know. Have you sought out any support to help you process your grief at all? Cruse bereavement support could be a good place to start, whenever you feel ready.

    As Janer1967 has said, you're also more than welcome to chat and vent here on the community too. We have lots of different types of discussions here, and everyone's welcome to post and comment. You may be particularly interested in our coffee lounge for casual conversation and games, or our mental health and wellbeing category.
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