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ashleym1976
ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
edited December 2021 in Start here and say hello!
Hi I been a suffering since 2002 from depression and anxiety immature personality disorder and childhood adolescent disorder which also cut my tendents in right arm punching a glass do

How do I class my self as  

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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 11,606 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @ashleym1976 - & welcome to the community. I'm wondering why you're asking how you class yourself? Was there a certain reason for asking? Is your GP helping you with your anxiety & depression?
  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 5,716

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    Hello @ashleym1976

    Welcome to the community, I'm glad to see you join us and thank you for telling us a bit about your conditions. You mentioned that they've been impacting you since 2002, which is a very long time, have you ever had any support to manage them? It might be worth getting in contact with your GP if it is a concern for you, they would be able to help you  and provide support to help you cope.

    Additionally, do you have any friends or family who are there for you if you need them?

    You can access support through the Mind website, they have plenty of useful information pages such as this one for managing with anxiety and this other one about managing with depression. I'm sorry to hear about the damage you caused to your hand, did you seek help when you had that injury? How long ago was this?

    You'll always be welcome on this community and I hope you enjoy taking part, please feel free to have a browse and get involved with any discussions that take your fancy.
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  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    edited December 2021
    In the year 2000 I had the accident with abusive girlfriend for about 4 years which alot of unwanted arguing from her she her problems she took it out on me which instead of laying my hands on her I smashed the glass door with my fist drinking was involved 2 years went on I found a partner as the x was so jealous 1 year went on I found out she had taken her life which been gone since 2004 
  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    chiarieds said:
    Hi @ashleym1976 - & welcome to the community. I'm wondering why you're asking how you class yourself? Was there a certain reason for asking? Is your GP helping you with your anxiety & depression?
     I was offered help but decide to try it on my own as I am getting older it's getting harder to cope due to chronic pain I could consider my self as I got a disabilities 
  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    edited December 2021
    Hello @ashleym1976

    Welcome to the community, I'm glad to see you join us and thank you for telling us a bit about your conditions. You mentioned that they've been impacting you since 2002, which is a very long time, have you ever had any support to manage them? It might be worth getting in contact with your GP if it is a concern for you, they would be able to help you  and provide support to help you cope.

    Additionally, do you have any friends or family who are there for you if you need them?

    You can access support through the Mind website, they have plenty of useful information pages such as this one for managing with anxiety and this other one about managing with depression. I'm sorry to hear about the damage you caused to your hand, did you seek help when you had that injury? How long ago was this?

    You'll always be welcome on this community and I hope you enjoy taking part, please feel free to have a browse and get involved with any discussions that take your fancy.
    At the time I was unsure what to do I decided to try and  cope on my self I had tablets of the doctor and  I had an abusive stepfather when I was growing up my father left when I was 5 I was happy little chap but since 5 years old on it was not to good I left  home when I was 16 it was a few years I met an a partner which was good at the start but then turned sour as years went on which she been gone since 2004 
  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    Which now I've applied for pip on 3rd of june 2021 got turned down in september lack of evidence which I've sent in in October which I am waiting to year of the mandatory reconsideration which is 10 wks gone and suffering from chronic pain which jobcentre forcing me to go back to work I am finding it hard to cope with the change and right now I am finding things hard I am not up to it to go back to work I  just filled in a uc50 
  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 764

    Scope community team

    Hi @ashleym1976 I'm very sorry to hear about what you've gone through. Thank you for reaching out here. It's concerning to hear about your experience with your girlfriend and step father, could I ask if the abuse was ever reported? 

    You mention you've been trying to cope by yourself, perhaps now is a good time to speak with your GP about how you're finding it hard to cope right now, and your chronic pain. They might be able to help with managing that pain. The NHS has some useful information on getting help as well.

    Remember, if you need it Mind has some useful advice on managing your mental health, including depression and anxiety.

    If you'd like us to offer you any additional support then please do let us know, we're here to support you. Keep us updated with your PIP claim, and if you're unsure of anything don't hesitate to ask a question. 

    Alex

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  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    Hi @ashleym1976 I'm very sorry to hear about what you've gone through. Thank you for reaching out here. It's concerning to hear about your experience with your girlfriend and step father, could I ask if the abuse was ever reported? 

    You mention you've been trying to cope by yourself, perhaps now is a good time to speak with your GP about how you're finding it hard to cope right now, and your chronic pain. They might be able to help with managing that pain. The NHS has some useful information on getting help as well.

    Remember, if you need it Mind has some useful advice on managing your mental health, including depression and anxiety.

    If you'd like us to offer you any additional support then please do let us know, we're here to support you. Keep us updated with your PIP claim, and if you're unsure of anything don't hesitate to ask a question. 

    Alex

    Unfortunately it wasn't reported when I was a child if I did it would cause bigger atmosphere where the x wasn't reported dident Know where to turn I went in on myself when I found my new partner I seen a bit of light but the nightmare like flashbacks of what has happened in the past comes back I know its not her fault but it sends my self steam on hold and it difficult to change finding it hard and working which I got issues with it makes sense as I had to cope mentally with pain iam taking zapain from the doctors as well as gapapentain 300g I take day by day as it comes 
  • ashleym1976
    ashleym1976 Member Posts: 9 Listener
    Thanks for your suggestions of where to go does it mean for me I class myself under mental health issues 
  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 764

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    Hi @ashleym1976 thanks for letting us know what happened that's very helpful. 

    Have you spoken to anyone about the flashbacks you've been having before today? If you're finding it all a bit difficult, you can always self refer for help if you'd prefer. 

    When you say 'class yourself under mental health issues', can you tell me what you mean by that?

    You can be diagnosed with physical health or mental health conditions by a doctor or a specialist, which might help you with access to extra support, so I would encourage getting in touch with them if you are able to. 

    People can choose to identify as disabled, and others might not like to, even if they have conditions which effect their health for more than a year. It's down to each person which they prefer, and there's no right or wrong way to be. 
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