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Muppets69
Muppets69 Member Posts: 57 Connected
Sorry haven't been on much mental health is so bad and now I've been told my mum has terminal cancer and I'm not copping to well I put on a brave face when I'm with her it's killing me inside 

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  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 2,126 Pioneering
    Hi @Muppets69 I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time at the moment. Have you spoken to your GP to see if he can help you ? Take care.
  • Muppets69
    Muppets69 Member Posts: 57 Connected
    edited December 2021
    Hello no I haven't thing is its not about me if that makes sense I'm trying so hard to hold it together I'm numb inside I don't want next year to come if that makes sense 
  • Muppets69
    Muppets69 Member Posts: 57 Connected
    Hello teddybear 12 I wouldn't know wat to say I'm breaking down constant not infront of her thou 
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Community Co-Production Group Posts: 2,126 Pioneering
    edited December 2021
    Hi, @Muppets69  It is about you both. You are trying to support your mum and stay strong for her while coming to terms with her diagnosis yourself. It can be very hard. If you need someone to talk to you can call The Samaritans on 116 123 any time day or night free from any phone. You do not need to be suicidal to get in touch with them. They listen, do not judge or tell you what to do. You can also email  [email protected] . Try and make the time you spend with her as special as you can just little things, like a baby blanket that is soft for her to touch or if her skin is dry some body lotion probably baby lotion would be best as not perfumed. Try to take each day as a new day and do not look to far into the future. Take care.
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 13,344 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi it 8s important that in order to support your mum that you get the help you need to do that 

    Mcmillan are there for the family as well as the patient and can offer you support 
  • Muppets69
    Muppets69 Member Posts: 57 Connected
    Thank you both for your replies I've dealt with MacMillan in the past I lost my dad to cancer I had it and now facing losing my mum to it I'm so scared to lose my mum I m putting a front on but it's killing me inside 
  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 8,363

    Scope community team

    Hi @Muppets69, this much be such a difficult time for you, especially after losing your dad too.
     
    I know you say it isn't about you, but you're important and how you're feeling is important as well.
    As a parent myself, I know that I would want my children to be getting support if they were dealing with losing either me or their mother. 

    Macmillan say this about looking after yourself and talking about your feelings: 

    "Being honest about your feelings can help you feel less stressed and more in control. You may think you should ignore your own feelings and only think about the needs of the person you are caring for. But you both need support to help you cope.

    Try to get the support and information you need early on to help you develop ways of coping. Talk to family members, friends or one of the health or social care professionals involved in the person’s care. If your feelings are getting overwhelming or you feel depressed, it is important to get professional help.

    We have more information about your feelings when someone close to you has cancer.

    Macmillan is also here to support you. If you would like to talk, you can:

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