Feeling blessed

poppy123456

Good friends are very difficult to find. When you find them you have to hold onto them tight because you may not find another. For the past couple of years i've been honoured to have @chiarieds as my friend. When i left the community we kept in contact through email and she was the reason i returned.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago we exchanged phone numbers, just for emergencies. She knows the area i live very well and i mentioned that it would be lovely if we could maybe meet sometime in the future. Little did i think she would agree to this. It can be a scary thing meeting someone you've never met before and you do have to be careful. We could be anyone, not that i'm some scary person lol. At least i don't think i am

I spoke to @chiarieds for the first time today via phone call and oh my goodness, what a lovely sweet person she is! 2.5 hours talking on the phone and i could have talked all night.

Im extremely honoured to call you my dear friend. I very much look forward to meeting you and your son in person in 2 weeks time! As promised, coffee and lunch is on me!

leeCal

Sounds good, blessed indeed. 🙂

janer1967

That's sweet 

chiarieds

As @poppy123456 knows, the feeling is entirely mutual, & I feel privileged to have gotten to know her, & that she considers me a friend.

I can assure that she didn't sound scary in the least, but I'll have my son & his wife there for any needed back up! Perhaps she was concerned about me, as I did keep nagging her until she came back to the community....

We had such a lovely chat, & I'm still smiling. Thank you for always being such a kind, supportive, dear friend. Can't wait to meet, oh, & I jumped at the chance to do so.

GSDjane

I hi sadly have learnt since op. People want me and I willingly helped. Now got no one caring kind close, lost my BF 12yr old German shepherd put to sleep 14.12.21… always by my side.  So so miss him hugs love he gave me 😢😢

Lisatho11987777

Oh I was told that wasn't allowed when I was friends outside of scope with a couple of members that I was phoneing and visiting glad the rules have changed its a good way to make friends and meet nice people 

poppy123456

There’s never been any rules here that members can’t exchange phone numbers/email addresses or arrange to meet in person. 

chiarieds

We do know how we look @Teddybear12 - we exchanged photos quite some time ago. I also recently sent photos of my son & his wife, so poppy could see us all. I'm sure we'll have a lovely time, thank you.

I don't think any rules have changed Lisa, just that it's always wise to take precautions if considering meeting anyone you meet on the internet. I have absolutely no qualms in meeting poppy; we've known each other for 2 & a half years, & am really looking forward to meeting her.

Lisatho11987777

I am looking for the thread where I got told off publicly so I thought it was wrong  glad that you and chirads have found friendship its lovely to hear 

poppy123456

woodbine said:

Good friends are hard to find and easy to lose 

I’m sorry you think that and I disagree about the easy to lose part though.

24 years ago I knocked on a door of someone who used to come into a shop as a customer where I worked. We became good friends. She’s my daughters god mother and we are still very good friends and speak regularly. Sadly we no longer live close to each other so don’t often see each other. 

In 2007 when my daughter was in school I got talking to one of the mothers one day as we collected the girls. We became good friends but I moved house in 2017, although we remained friends. A year later she moved closer to me and we are still good friends. We visit each other for coffee sometimes too and often text and ring each other. 

A friendship works both ways. 

chiarieds

Thank you, Lisa.

poppy123456

Yes we exchanged photos. I also sent chiarieds photos of my girls and my grandson. 

Of course you have to be careful when giving your personal details to anyone on the internet but chiarieds and I had been friends for over 2 years when we exchanged phone numbers and yes of course I trusted her and still do. I have no worries at all.
I know we will have a lovely time when we meet. 

Thanks everyone, we will come back and let you know how it went 😊

MarkM88

lisathomas50 said:

I am looking for the thread where I got told off publicly so I thought it was wrong  glad that you and chirads have found friendship its lovely to hear 

Personally I think it depends on the circumstances. 

chiarieds

Well, I keep telling poppy she's stuck with me. @woodbine - if someone considers me a friend, & I feel the same, then despite what they might do that I might disagree with, they're still my friend. You will always be my friend; I don't discard my friends, that's not me, & I'm not the only one that feels the same.

Sandy_123

Congrats both @poppy and @chiarieds
@lisathomas I actually do remember that with ibelieve if I recall, everyone was spouting off at you some saying you can't make contact out side scope. So I took it from that as you can't, guess they were wrong at the time.

MarkM88

Sandy_123 

@lisathomas I actually do remember that with ibelieve if I recall, everyone was spouting off at you some saying you can't make contact out side scope. So I took it from that as you can't, guess they were wrong at the time.

Again, though, it comes down to circumstances. Your asking for trouble if you start handing out personal information to someone you don’t know compared to two individuals who have known each other for over two years. 

There might not be a rule, but there is common sense. 

Sandy_123

I don't get what you mean @mark88 if two people are happy to exchange numbers and both want to how is that different. Ibelieve and Lisa were both happy to do that the time.

MarkM88

@Sandy_123 again, personally, I’d say it’s dangerous, if you don’t know the person very long. 

Sandy_123

Yes with anybody you don't know about, but Lisa and ibelieve did, still got shouted down about it tho. 
Any way moving on.  @chiarieds and @poppy you'll have to let us all know how it went.

poppy123456

I totally understand what Mark is saying here. I wouldn’t give my personal details to someone I’d only just “met” on the internet. You do have to be careful. I had no reason not to trust Chiarieds. 

poppy123456

Thanks Sandy we will definitely let everyone know how it went.