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Losing a loved one

debbie1967 Member Posts: 7 Connected
I lost a brother 4 years ago he was just 59
then I lost a sister 10 months ago she was just 55
im finding it so hard losing them and I was so close to my sister I just don’t know how to accept she’s gone 


  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Member Posts: 4,173 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @debbie1967 sorry for your losses, have you thought of grievance counselling? It might help. 
    I know its hard to loose someone, I try focus on the good memories.
  • debbie1967
    debbie1967 Member Posts: 7 Connected
    Yes I’ve thought about it but not sure what one is good 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,882 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi and welcome to the community Sorry to hear of your grief you can talk to your gp.and discuss possible referrals 

    I don't know any counselling to recommend but other members will be able to help I'm sure 
  • Biblioklept
    Biblioklept Member Posts: 1,549 Pioneering
    I have been lucky to so far not lose anyone so important to me,  you are very strong coping with two losses so close together <3
    Definitely look for counsellors maybe your GP could help??
  • Teddybear12
    Teddybear12 Member Posts: 6,723 Disability Gamechanger
    edited June 21
    Hi @debbie1969 It is always difficult when you loose a loved one and takes time to adjust. It is not something you get over but learn to live with. When I lost my daughter in my area we have Healthy Minds which you can refer yourself. I got six counselling sessions then had a break of eight weeks then another six weeks. It was run by the NHS. Your GP might be able to tell you what happens in your area. Take care.
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 8,735 Scope online community team
    Welcome to the community @debbie1967 :) Thank you for sharing that with us, as I can imagine talking about it might bring up some difficult feelings.

    It's good to hear that you've considered accessing some counselling to help you work through your grief. It'd be worth speaking to your GP about what's happened, and how it's affected you. You could also contact Cruse, who offer a range of services. 

    We're here to support you, so please do share more about how you've been feeling if you feel comfortable doing so. 

    You'd also be welcome to share any happy memories you have of your brother and sister, but there's no pressure to of course.
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  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 2,918 Scope online community team
    Hello and welcome @debbie1967 and thank you for reaching out on the community and sharing how you're feeling. 

    I'd like to echo everyone and say the community is here to support you and to listen. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, so if you feel you need help then don't hesitate to ask.

    Let us know how you're doing from time to time if you're able to, and I hope looking into counselling, speaking to your GP, and visiting Cruse can help too :) 

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