Hello! I have a close friend who has a daughter with PDA

CarolineKennedy

Dear all
I have a close friend who has a daughter with PDA although she has always said it was autism or aspergers.  Having read more about PDA on your site and on the web I can understand more about how it affects both her, her husband and their daughters lives.  She constantly eats ice and is free and inappropriate with the opposite sex.  Although she lives alone she constantly calls her mother and father many many times a day.  She went into foster care at around 17 years old but has proved a very complex case for the social workers who have tried to look after her.  The system doesn't seem able to help her.  She can go to the corner shop but will not do online shopping and so constantly calls on her parents to take her to the shops even in the middle of the night.  She has to do what she wants to do immediately and cannot wait,  she cannot control money and can't save.  When she gets her benefits she just spends everything that she has within the first day.

Ross_Alumni

Afternoon @CarolineKennedy and welcome to the online community  

It's nice to see you join us, thank you for posting your first discussion and for sharing your concerns about your friend's daughter. Doing your own research to better understand and help those you care about is a lovely thing to do.

How is your friend and her husband? It sounds like a really difficult situation for them to be in, I imagine they just want what is best for their daughter but it's a shame to hear that the support provided so far hasn't been able to work as effectively as hoped.

How old is she now? What support does she currently have in place? In your post you mentioned social carers being involved, I just wondered if they, or any other kind of care, are still involved or not? Apologies for the questions, and I appreciate you may not know given that she isn't your daughter, but I just wanted to get a clearer understanding of the situation.