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Christmas present equality

66Mustang Community member Posts: 14,960 Disability Gamechanger
I often have this issue when buying Christmas presents, that I will have spent more on one person so have to make it up for everyone else. Then inevitably someone else will come out on top so I have to buy even more presents for the others. 

With the obvious proviso that you will probably tend to spend more money on those closer to you. Do you try to spend the same amount of money on people who are of equal standing with you (e.g. if you have more than 1 children, siblings, parents etc.)?

I know it is not about money (just getting that out the way before someone brings it up) but I like to try to make it equal.

What about you? Are you happy spending £5 on one child and £100 on your other child? Or do you try to make it equal?


  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
    I try and make it equal not to the last penny but close to few pounds 

    I do this from personal experience as seen the upset it can cause if someone gets lot less than others as you say its not about money but it makes the recipient think they are less cared about 
  • Hannah_Alumni
    Hannah_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,912 Disability Gamechanger
    I try to make it as equal as possible, but I do have a few birthdays around Christmas so sometimes one will get less as they've asked to have something a little bigger on their birthday. 
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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 55,587 Disability Gamechanger
    Have to agree with making it equal, like my grand children, I've  done it so no one feels they've got less. That wouldn't really be fair. 
  • woodbine
    woodbine Community member Posts: 12,099 Disability Gamechanger
    As far as the grandkids go they get exactly the same in cash (way too much but SM spoils them) the kids (in their 30's now) get cash, we buy a couple of friends token gifts, and I spoil sm, but I absolutely refuse to allow anyone to buy me anything (same for my birthday) I haven't had an xmas present for about 30 years now.

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  • life
    life Community member Posts: 527 Pioneering
    I'm all for not giving gifts and not receiving them. Equal. If I was to give gifts it would be money and all the same amount. 
  • poppy123456
    poppy123456 Community member Posts: 56,998 Disability Gamechanger
    I give money to my eldest 2, with a few presents to open for my eldest daughter and her partner. My youngest has presents instead of money because she just would appreciate money. They all get equal amounts.
    I do tend to spoil my grandson but i'm allowed to do that. My grand daughter will only be 5 months this year so not as much for her but she hasn't been forgotten!
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  • Binky1234
    Binky1234 Community member Posts: 438 Pioneering
    My kids and daughter in law get the same amount of money.  Son's boyfriend will get £30.00 as he has only being going with him for a few months, daughter in law is basically like a daughter been in family since she was 14 and since I have only had boys and since my youngest boy is gay I will only have the one daughter in law. 

     I intend on spoiling my daughter in law as us girls need to stick together ❤ at least I can't be accused of having favourites, my poor MIL has 3 DIL and I see the work she does to make sure we're all the same and if she does have a favourite she has never let it show.

    Grandson I admit I have went overboard this year not even going to add it up. That's the trouble with online shopping.

    Hubby will get his usual Glayva, Brocksman gin, slippers and long johns.

    Hubby will get me my usual perfume, sparkling wine, chocolates and new pyjamas. Of course I will guide him in his choices lol

    Fur baby will have his pressies under the tree also.
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  • ShirleyW
    ShirleyW Community member Posts: 355 Pioneering
    I try to buy presents/give money of equal value to within a couple of pounds if possible but I don't stress about it.  Except for my grandson, he gets more until he's 18 and then he'll get the same as the other adults. 

    OH and myself get a set amount of cash to buy something we want.
  • creamcrackered
    creamcrackered Scope Member Posts: 38 Courageous
    For me I don't have many to buy for as I stopped giving to friends a long time ago as it all got too expensive. I try to spend £30-50 for family members but it depends what I find. Sometimes I spend more or less because I just know the person will love that particular something I've found.
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,508 Disability Gamechanger
    I do try to spend about the same amount on each family member, but we don't tend to do anything too expensive these days :) 

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