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Can we normalize still living with family when we are adults

Tammyjane33 Community member Posts: 765 Pioneering
Is there still a stigma about living with parents /family when you are an adult? I don't see anything wrong with this because everyones circumstances are different. 


  • Binky1234
    Binky1234 Community member Posts: 405 Pioneering
    Don't see anything wrong with it tbh.

    My eldest son moved out when he was 28 as he was at Uni plus saving for a house.

    Every family is different and its basically what works for you.
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  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 44,019 Disability Gamechanger
    My son is still at home in his early 20s I don't think anything wrong with it
  • leeCal
    leeCal Community member Posts: 7,550 Disability Gamechanger
    I had a grown up child living at home until he was thirty three, I called time on it as it was interfering with my normal life. He now lives independently, not very well but at least he’s his own boss in the world and can make his own rules to live by. Loneliness is probably his biggest problem, that along with finding affordable flats from time to time. 

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  • janer1967
    janer1967 Community member Posts: 21,964 Disability Gamechanger
    Unfortunately it is becoming more popular with it being so expensive to start out 

    When it was more affordable kids moved out and lived on their own now they tend to stay with parents until they are ready to settle down with a partner 

    There is also shortage of affordable housing and single and young adults are not a priority for social housing 

  • Luchia
    Luchia Community member Posts: 235 Pioneering
    I moved into my own home when I was 18 and recently moved into a lovely bungalow a few weeks ago(now 35) I wanted my own space so that worked for me when I was 18 but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people still living at home for longer if the situation is needed or works for them 
  • rubin16
    rubin16 Community member Posts: 290 Pioneering
    I only just moved out last year when I was 30 after finally being given my own flat to live in, I think its more normal to be at home with parents for longer these days as its impossible to get your own place to live unless you can work and rent privatley. It took me 12 years to find my own place after I originally went on the council list at 18, but becuase I'm single and male I wasn't a priority. I am so lucky now though as I live in supported accomodation (my own flat) and have a support worker who visits twice a week and takes me shopping or any other appointments.

    I am now only just learning how to be independant, as I would rely on everything from family. The hardest thing I am learning is how to budget and manage money as I pay for everything now its a challenge but I am getting there.
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    I still live with my family!  <3
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  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 9,804 Disability Gamechanger
    I still live with family 
  • Beaver79
    Beaver79 Community member, Community Co-Production Group, Scope Member Posts: 15,835 Disability Gamechanger
    I think it is whatever suits each person. Also with Cost of Living being so expensive probably need to.
  • Grinchy
    Grinchy Community member Posts: 1,764 Disability Gamechanger
    I dont see a problem with it, our son is in his early twenties, he is living in a caravan park while he works there, but will be back in november to live with us, we enjoy having him here
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Community member Posts: 6,025 Disability Gamechanger

    I was married young after my marriage broke down after 26 years, I had to go back to my mums until I got my own place again.
    I think it’s down to each person and what suits them.
    Also money probably has a big part in  people having to stay with parents or family.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 44,019 Disability Gamechanger
    Alot of families live together through culture  I personally think its good.  1 set of bills, support also. My son lives with me and he's an adult. 
  • Hannah_Scope
    Hannah_Scope Posts: 7,316 Disability Gamechanger
    I'm at home with the parents, it is expensive to start out and I was very unwell during my 20's and needed that additional support.
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