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Jordsdale1993

Hi everyone I'm Jordan 

janer1967

Hi and welcome to the community Feel free to join in or ask any questions 

Jordsdale1993

Oh thank you @Teddybear12 I'm just physically, mentally and emotionally struggling with Christmas this year. Its only next week and I've got nothing all I feel like I wantto to do is cry 😢 

Jordsdale1993

Noone is able to help me 

SueHeath

Morning @Jordsdale1993 welcome to our great group.
I will echo Teddy there are a lot of people who would rather have Christmas cancelled this year.
Do you live on your own ? 

L_Volunteer

You have mentioned that no one is able to help you @Jordsdale1993. That sounds really difficult.

I am just wondering if you would like to tell us what "help" looks like for you at the moment. We are all here to listen to you, even if we can't do anything else to help. 

Similarly, would you like to talk to us about what makes Christmas especially difficult for you this year and what you mean by you have nothing? 

Take care for now and we will look forward to, hopefully, hearing from you again soon. You don't have to face this, or anything else, alone if you don't want to 

Jordsdale1993

I legitimately have nothing I can give as gifts for my family cant afford to get any Christmas Dinner. Its been hard recently as I lost my mum to brain cancer and it hasn't been extremely the best for me. I physically mentally and emotionally can't cope. No one will help me whether it's transfer money to me so I can get these things to make it a happy Christmas 

Alex_Alumni

I'm so sorry to hear about this @Jordsdale1993 that sounds really tough what with the loss of your mum recently.

One organisation which might help is Cruse bereavement support who are trained to help and support people who are struggling with grief. There's also Macmillan Cancer Support too.

Have you spoken to your family about how all this is impacting on you? Can you tell me, are you hosting or visiting family for Christmas? 

I wonder if your local community centre or foodbank might be able to help? 

I know there's an awful lot of pressure on people to do or have certain things at Christmas, but that's not what people should feel forced to do.

If you'd like to talk things over with one of our advisers, you can call or email the Scope Helpline. If you'd just like someone to listen, Samaritans can help, call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org for support.

Let us know if we can do anything further to help.

Jordsdale1993

It's difficult asking family as we barely talk since the passing of my mum. I've tried foodbanks but no good news yet...  I've got nothing maybe it's best to give up on the spot right now 

SueHeath

Morning @Jordsdale1993 no body should just give up darling, hopefully something good is around the corner for you.
Do you live on your own ?? 

Tori_Scope

Welcome to the community from me too @Jordsdale1993  

I agree with the others that there can be way too much pressure on Christmas, including pressure to spend lots of money or exert lots of energy. I find it best to be honest, and set expectations on what people can expect from me. If you can't afford gifts this year, as many can't, perhaps a homemade card or letter for each family member could be an option?

maybe it's best to give up on the spot right now 

I'm concerned to hear that you've been feeling this way. Would you be able to tell us a little more about what you mean by this?