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  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    Afternoon all.

    Back to blue skies and sunshine here,for today at least.

  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 678 Championing

    Hi everyone

    I haven't been on in ages sorry. It's getting close to the wedding and everything was going well until my hen night.

    A friend told me that my fiancé's son who is 37 and married said to her and her husband (who is best man and Mr Marydoll closest friend) asked them what they thought of thr marriage. He said he was shocked and blindsided and didn't understand why we were getting married.

    They said we have been together 7 years and that I looked after his dad when he was seriously ill snd it seemed a logical step.

    I wish she hadn't said anything. I have been so upset as his son was really positive about getting married to us. I had a couple of days of crippling anxiety.

    My partner is meeting his son for lunch right now just to give him a chance to say anything to him. He isn't going to bring it up.

    It's really hard especially as his son wanted to put him in a nursing home when he was ill in hospital but I brought him home and did everything for 2 years to get him well with no help. I don't know what to feel and just wish I didn't know what his son said.

    Welcome all new members to me. This is a great place with good people.

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 8,647 Online Community Team

    Same here @Teigr! It's been so cold at night though.

    Hi @Marydoll5, lovely to see you ☺️

    Sorry to hear things have been stressful, that sounds really difficult to deal with. It's so clear to us all how much you care for Mr Marydoll. You've been through a lot together so it's understandable that you're feeling mixed up after hearing that. When it comes down to it, the most important thing will be the two of you and the love you have for each other. Fingers crossed things are smoothed out for the big day. Hope you're doing okay 💛

  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 678 Championing

    Thanks @Rosie_Scope . Hope all is good with you and all the admins.

    I underestimated how stressful planning a wedding is and thought as we are older people wouldn't have demands but boy was I wrong 😊

  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 63,231 Championing

    @Marydoll5 sorry I missed your comment, that was a bit mean of your friend to say that, but also of your stepson, I hope you can over come it. It only matters what you and your fiancee feel. No one else.

    Well done you for looking after him also. It's nice to see you posting

  • Zipz
    Zipz Community Member Posts: 4,345 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1018257#Comment_1018257

    She has two hands in full working order. 100% capable of ringing a doorbell.

  • Zipz
    Zipz Community Member Posts: 4,345 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1018468#Comment_1018468

    Hi @Grumpy1314 It sounds as though everything is happening at 9nce to you. Does shutdown feel like this ?

    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/133132/autistic-shutdown-and-burnout#latest

    You must rest. Bless you.

  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 678 Championing

    @Sandy_123 good to be back! He got an angiogram which confirmed the fistula repair in his brain has held.

    The proposal came after this. We are looking forward to the wedding although sometimes I wish we had gone away and come back married.

    Hi @Grumpy1314 and hope your tooth isn't hurting too much. Things seem to happen all at once don't they?

  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 63,231 Championing

    That's good, the wedding will be beautiful @Marydoll5

  • Amberpearl
    Amberpearl Community Member Posts: 4,008 Championing

    Good morning all

    I'm pretty exhausted this morning

    Dull here

  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    Morning all.

    The rain and howling gales are back.

  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    I have problems with a wisdom tooth @Grumpy1314 ,it's growing sideways and pressing on another tooth.

    I hope everything goes okay at the dentist,mine told me I'd have to go into hospital because I'd need to be under general anaesthetic to have the wisdom tooth removed.

    She changed her mind this month though and she's now said that she can remove the tooth it's pressing on if I'm okay with that.

  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    That's an odd thing for your partner's son to say @Marydoll5 ,although I'm sure there'd be similar comments if Mr Teigr and my scruffy little self decided to take the plunge.

    'Oooh,they've been together for two hundred years,why are they bothering'?

    Try not to stress too much,I'm sure it'll all be worth it in the end.🙂

  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 63,231 Championing

    Morning everyone, good Friday

  • Amberpearl
    Amberpearl Community Member Posts: 4,008 Championing

    I'm. Tired

    Cold hete

  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 678 Championing

    Good morning everyone!

    It's rain and wind time here again too. @Teigr it turned out when father and son spoke yesterday he didn't expect his dad to marry again and that surprised him.

    Also he asked his dad about the house. He was told it was still his inheritance and that I had no interest in it other than if his dad died first it was my home till I died…..money causes more problems than it solves!

  • Elvisdog
    Elvisdog Community Member Posts: 193 Empowering

    MMorning Everyone i hope you are all in good health.

    Sorry to hear about some of you having tooth problems. I had two of my wisdom teeth removed in my teems. I caught the bus back to work, I couldn't speak to the driver, I was sore and dribbling all the way to work, I was soon well enough to talk again. They seem less likely to remove wisdom teeth now days, unless they haven't the room to grow. Hope the dentist goes well @Grumpy1314

    @Marydoll5 I'm sorry to hear about your fiancé's son comments. It maybe that he knows his father's care will be upto you once you marry. Being that you have spent several years looking after and getting him back to health, his son must have trusted you with his father's care, he may just feel it's more formal after your wedding.

    I don't think he said these comments to hurt you or your fiancee, probably more about him.

    Enjoy your wedding you are obviously meant to be together. Any concerns of his son, will more than likely pass soon after the wedding. He has trusted that you have both been happy all the years you have spent together. I think alot of people have nervous feelings before a wedding, but come the big day, im sure everyone will be happy for you both. Have a lovely day, blessings to you both.

  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    Too right @Marydoll5 ,I'm glad my parents had nothing.

  • Teigr
    Teigr Community Member Posts: 5,080 Championing

    I don't want to hear anything about hosepipe bans until 2028.

  • Marydoll5
    Marydoll5 Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 678 Championing

    @Teigr thanks for making me laugh I needed that!

    @Elvisdog thank you too.

    It's sad that at 37 his son never bothers with him and is so money oriented. He got a huge deposit for his house getting married from his dad and even the money for his wife's engagement ring.

    I was appalled when he wanted to put his dad in a nursing home when he was ill in hospital. I really don't care about money and possessions. I just think that time is the most precious thing you can give anyone.

    I want the anxiety and uneasiness to go as it has wrecked my mood. I don't want to spiral into another deep depression. The weather isn't helping 😕

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