Friendship's

rammy
rammy Online Community Member Posts: 3 Listener
edited May 20 in Everyday life

How do other disabled people find non disabled people when it comes to friendship etc. do they have similar experiences of unanswered phone calls, and promises that's never materialize?

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  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 5,711 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    I think some people understand and some find it difficult. I've had a few friendships fade away as I haven't been able to keep up with them or they haven't slowed down for me, but the ones that stay feel like the best ones anyway.

    It's always disappointing when people don't make an effort for you though. It can definitely really hurt when people cancel on you or don't answer your calls, especially if you're pretty isolated otherwise. Hope you're doing okay!

  • luvpink
    luvpink Online Community Member Posts: 2,075 Championing

    Most of my friends are not disabled.

    I just put myself out there and went to local social clubs where I met the locals.

    We live in a 'holiday' town and we get overrun with tourists but we are a good local community and we have our own social events and members only clubs.

  • Nikk
    Nikk Online Community Member Posts: 36 Connected

    I don't really have many friends since I became ill. I found that those that don't understand,have slowly distanced themselves. So in that respect I found I have to take care of number one. Myself 😀

  • Ranald
    Ranald Online Community Member Posts: 1,089 Championing
    edited May 20
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1029667#Comment_1029667

    I don't have any friends. The few I had will occasionally text saying they are in another country, or at some pop concert etc. I don't suppose they even stop to think that I never go anywhere or do anything.

    I even stopped going to the football, due to access issues.

  • Nikk
    Nikk Online Community Member Posts: 36 Connected

    They perhaps in thier own way trying to give you the occasional update as to what's going on in the outside world to to keep you in the loop, I wouldn't read too much into it. Just look after you chick you are the important one x

  • Ranald
    Ranald Online Community Member Posts: 1,089 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1029673#Comment_1029673

    Who knows really. People working full time enjoying their money and free time. Me turning up on my mobility scooter, dressed in supermarket trackies and extra wide velcro shoes; It might not be their idea of fun! I haven't seen them in years anyway, even though only 10 miles away.

    I very seldom dwell on it tbh.

  • Nikk
    Nikk Online Community Member Posts: 36 Connected

    It's a good thing not to dwell on it I myself have a mobility scooter but cannot use it now since a life altering operation last year so I'm bedbound now. My circle of friends diminished over 15 years ago. But we plod on get on with it , and thankful I'm alive. X

  • Ranald
    Ranald Online Community Member Posts: 1,089 Championing
    edited May 20
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1029676#Comment_1029676

    KBO!

  • egister
    egister Posts: 995 Pioneering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1029667#Comment_1029667

    With age, even completely healthy people have fewer and fewer friends. This is completely natural. They continue to communicate with those who are useful in one way or another, sometimes in a very unexpected way).

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