UC Claim hell for Disabled partner

I am a full time carer for my partner, my partner has CP and gets the higher rate of PIP. We recently had to make a new claim for UC. The process has been very stressful for us both. It began with a telephone interview to explain the procedure, we then had to fill in a joint claim online. Then came a face to face interview with a fit note provided and proof of High rate PIP. She was then asked a lot of personal questions about her disability in which we both explained how it effected her day to day, how I do everything for her, wash, clothe, cook, take her to the toilet etc, everything. A few weeks went by before our appointment by telephone with her 'Work Coach.' We then had to explain all about her disability again, with her being asked questions that contradicted what we had just explained about her disability. The interview went on for 35 minutes in which we felt our answers were not really being listened to as the person on the phone was just realling off a cheat sheet to type in standard answers on a screen that don't take into account and individuals disability. Afterwards we were told a document would be sent out and has to be filled in (A work capability assessment) that has to be returned asap. She has another appointment booked for December where she will be asked questions on what she has done to improve her chances of finding work! Are these people just not listening, does the doctors note and higher rate of PIP plus our already twice over description of her disability count for nothing? Why this constant harassing, and repetitive nature over and over? In the meantime she is required to log in every day and look at jobs which for example are things like Construction worker, Swimming trainer etc ( Are they taking the mick? ) All of this is effecting her mental health with the stress and causing her painful muscle spasms through worry. Her phone keeps pinging all through the day…sign into your uc account there is a message over and over, which is just another useless job advertisement. SHE CANNOT WORK! I am her full time carer….do I have to chisel it in stone and drop it on their heads!! The system is devoid of empathy for the disabled community and a ridiculous long winded red tape nonsense.

We have also been told, when she returns this large document WCA it maybe months before a decision is made. In the meantime she has to go on explaining why she can't apply for jobs and justify her disability. It makes both of us feel unwell and treated unfairly with all the stress. I really hate this government and how they continually target the disabled. 😔