Mental health

I think any good friend that knows you well will understand.That being said sometimes we take full responsibility for a situation because we doubt ourselves because we have insecurities.It sometimes help to write things down to yourself of what you would hope for in order for resolution and what steps you think could make this a positive outcome.

Not being perfect doesn't mean you're weak.

As an autistic and admittedly a bloody hard one to put up with I've seen many friends come and go, some will stay though and it makes it worth it.

you're not weak or pathetic.

I can't cope with any routine change and I mean any that's pathetic!

and although I try not use them as excuses the shocking things I've seen an endured in my life are why I'm like I am,such as not ever wanting to go out and not getting on well with most men in person and ignoring all my neighbours etc

No it really wouldn't, because we don't need one, everyone here adores you, you may not realise it but you're one of the most popular members here and believe me everyone notices the hole of your absence.

Also the question is what is a better person?.I think a person who needs to better ( in my opinion).Is someone who has done wrong to someone else and needs to reflect on their thoughts,words and perhaps actions and adapt accordingly.I think if a person doubts themselves it doesn't make them a bad person.They do not need to be "a better person "