Seeking a female aged mid to late 40s for friendship etc
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I only ever get elderly and or reclusive neighbours here, I see nobody else!
I am one of only three left alive, since the street came into being in 2015. ⌛️
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I'm not even keen on this edited title - it begs the question, a female what?
SheffieldMan, at 50, what you are looking for is a woman.
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The title is fine, a woman is a female after all.
How are you getting on with the links I sent SheffieldMan1976? Did anything interest you?
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I had a look, but most of them, you have to pay to contact anyone and it's not cheap but thanks for trying.
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I just dont understand the need to comment and correct someone i see no issue with the word female am i missing something i have to read posts over and over to make sense and see no offence here what so ever
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No offence was intended on my part, it's just my way of typing/speaking, I already asked the Mods to change the title once last week.
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Sheffie, good morning to you!
I actually preferred the original title because I understood you were being humorous. You do have a GSOH which is a very attractive quality when looking for a mate, as you are.
You are also willing to listen and learn from others without taking umbrage every 5 minutes. I have hope for you 😉
My challenge is really for Scope to review this title again for the reason outlined in my first post..
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I have hope for you lol theres alot of umbrage on here including yourself when i was working had a boss who would slip in umderline digs so unattractive quality
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My challenge is really for Scope to review this title again for the reason outlined in my first post..
Thank you, Scope!
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Hi all. Appreciate that we all interpret wording differently, but I can’t see any issue with this title. Best wishes, Holly.
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Nice.
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I acknowledge why Scope may not change it but when women are telling SheffieldMan that they don't like the term, I don't think it is for a man to say it is fine.
Sheffield is trying to meet WOMEN and many of us have explained why being referred to as this title does doesn't make us feel good. If he wants to meet women, he needs to listen to women.
As I explained before, "'human female' is a typical term used by incels to refer to women. Instant red flag."
Three of us have voiced this concern now and while I really don't think you meant it badly @Ross1975, I don't think it's your place to say it's fine when we're trying to explain why to us it isn't.
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For anyone actually interested:
The issue isn’t the word itself. it’s how it’s used and the context around it.
“Female” is technically correct in a biological sense. You’ll see it used in science, medicine, or formal classifications (e.g., “female patients,” “female athletes”). But in everyday conversation, to many of us, calling women “females” comes across as impersonal and disrespectful.
Compare:
- “Women are…” (human, social identity)
- “Females are…” (sounds more like describing a species)
It’s dehumanising and reduces someone to their biology rather than recognising them as a person.
It’s used widely by incels and by similar groups, it’s one step away from ‘foid’.
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"I just dont understand the need to comment and correct someone" … you say while commenting to correct someone.
You may not see any issue with the language but three of us have all already explained why we don't like it, it is okay for us to have different opinions and to share them. Just because you see no offence doesn't mean someone else can't be offended (by the way I'm not offended by it and don't think anyone has said they are, but it is a red flag and something that stands out which is why we've - very politely - explained it).
If Sheffield wants to meet women I'm sure he's happy to have feedback from women on things that may help, and language use is one of them.
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It's a minefield. I get the points made on both view sides but on forms etc it's still Male/Female/ Prefer Not to Say ?
I was in an awkward situation the other week. 2 young women holding hands -
The lift door opens and I say … After you ladies. Polite and manners. Or so I thought.
They let me know I shouldn't have labelled them as I didn't know their pronouns, and let me know in a very impolite way
After a lot of back and toing (with people watching) turns out they were lesbian, identified as female (their words) but they still found the term ladies offensive - even more so because a stranger called them it.
So, is ladies an offensive term these days ?
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I agree ofcourse we are entitled for our own views
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@SheffieldMan1976, I hope you know that none of this is directed at you, I know you meant zero offence with your wording but I hope you are open to feedback on how it can be off putting for some of us women.
I’m a woman (although a couple of years too old for your age bracket!), but I believe there is someone out there for everyone.
I hope you use some of the amazing advice shared and that you find someone that gets you
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I think everyone has different things they find offensive. There was a discussion on terms of endearment like “love” and the responses were interesting.
Female isn’t a bad word. With this discussion though, I think the point being made is that if the equivalent word would be “men” then it should be “women” not females.
It’s like me saying “women and males” or “males and women”.
There’s a difference between me saying:
“Men are…”
and
“Males are…”
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The way you've explained that makes sense, subtle differences but yeah, I can see the rationale behind your reasoning 😉
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Thank you @WelshBlue, and I am sorry you had that experience recently. It sounds like you were trying to be polite and I don’t understand their reaction at all, it sounds very unnecessary, especially them making a spectacle.
It’s no wonder people hold back from helping others. I hope you won’t let it put you off.0
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