What should I do if I’m autistic and have casual sex and guys ignore my texts?

dancerxoxo96
dancerxoxo96 Community Member Posts: 26 Listener
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I am high functioning autistic and they ignore my texts because they are afraid they are going to take advantage of me so I don’t end up having sex and they even go as far as blocking my number. Why do they think like that when it’s not true? I am being serious and not trolling. It’s starting to bother me a lot and I hate being autistic for this reason! I think it’s the way I talk and communicate with guys that they are able to tell  And when I disclose I’m autistic to them they block me for good. I am not kidding. What misconceptions do they have seriously? I’m very high functioning why don’t they understand this

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  • Anhedonia2
    Anhedonia2 Community Member Posts: 20 Contributor

    If they are ignoring your texts, how do you know it's because they are afraid they are going to take advantage of you?

    Unfortunately, and I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but they don't have to sleep with you or want to be with you. They are people too and their opinions are valid, even if you don't agree with them.

    Not everyone wants casual sex or wants to be with someone that does. If they block you, they're not right for you, you can't force it. Find someone who matches your energy and is looking for the same things as you.

  • Stellar
    Stellar Community Member Posts: 475 Pioneering
    edited 10:51AM

    This is due to assumptions on their part, some rooted in ableism (like how autistic people don't want sex, or cant enjoy sex), others rooted in genuine concern about your capacity to consent and understand what's going on (especially given you're in a medical guaradianship as said in other posts).

    you're also coming off as desperate again, which is also another huge turn off.

    functioning labels are also ****, as an aside. they tell you nothing about an individual's actual support needs and it's used to dismiss support.

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