Overweight people

Yes, I think fat people, loud people and stinky people should all be forced by law to book more space. And people who move a lot in their seats. And people who have their phone on speaker. Why not add another law to the short list of laws in the world?

Also, I'm sorry you had to suffer. I really am.

Thank you, Holly.

And people who have eating disorders.

Sat in a powerchair doesn't aid slimming, I can attest to that.

I have heard people make snide remarks about getting a scooter or chair ' just for being fat', when the using of said mobility aids has caused the weight gain.

When I was still going out, I found this really difficult, but rather than overweight people it was the plain inconsiderate people that bothered me.

The 'man spreaders', and the ones who would spread out across a whole table or place their bags on your feet, or lean, or hold onto you in crowded trains. All sorts of people encroach on others' spaces, some can't help it (lets face it airplan and train seats are far too small!) and others, the ones that really bother me, are just plain rude

To add another perspective; my mum was severely obese and she hated going out because she hated taking up space. She was very concious of being (what she considered) an 'inconvenience' and it meant she went out less and less, which only contributed to her weight.

The last flight she ever went on she actually purchased two plane tickets, not for her comfort but as she was conscious of the judgement and didn't want to upset anyone. The worst part was the airline had oversold the flight so she ended up with someone next to her, in a seat she had also paid for, complaining the whole time that she was taking up 'their' space. She had such a low sense of self-entitlement that she didn't say a word, to the airline or the other passenger - who spent the whole flight huffing and shoving her side.

On the one hand it seems fair to make someone overweight pay for two seats if they'll end up taking up 1 and a half to two seats as it means there's less room for other people, but on the other hand this would be quite embarrassing for the overweight person and could fill them with shame.

It's a dilemma that I think is worth discussing.

I'm sorry to offend anyone, but it was intentional in addressing the OP. I thought that was very obvious. I spoke in hyperbole, using the same offensive logic as the OP to make the point that we are all in eachother's space in many ways, as in the examples I gave. With lived experience, I am acutely aware of how brutal people have been, are and will be with other people - including me. Shamelessly, brutally, offensively, blatantly and typically INACCURATELY judgemental. Not everyone. But there are days it feels like everyone.

So I hope you can see my point now, and if not, well, go to the lineup with all the people who find fault with me. It's a really, really long line. I'm so sick and tired of spending my whole life explaining myself and defending myself. Despite all the time and energy, I've gotten nowhere. It's a useless, worthless, pointless waste of a life. And exhausting, totally exhausting.

End of rant.

If I got the message wrong, then I apologise. Never gave it a thought you were wording like that…🤐

It's no problem, I should think before I leap in to the keyboard. Maybe it's time to retire from here for a bit.