What is more important in a lasting relationship?

Winehost
Winehost Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
in Relationships

Would you stay with someone who is a great partner in every way—loyal, loving, supportive, and trustworthy—but you're no longer physically attracted to them?

❤️ Yes, because love is deeper than looks.

😬 No, because physical attraction is an important part of a romantic relationship.

🤔 It depends on whether the attraction can be rebuilt.

Be honest: What's your answer and why?

No judging in the comments—just real opinions. 👇

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  • Mr_Shoes_Tied
    Mr_Shoes_Tied Community Member Posts: 142 Empowering

    I think a lasting relationship is beyond looks for sure.

    I'm possibly weird but I find people more attractive the more I like them.

    Like when people talk about 'attractive people', I can see some are stereotypically attractive but their personalities make such a difference and even some of the best looking people in the world wouldn't do it for me if their personalities suck.

    No matter how attractive someone was I couldn't be intimate with someone I didn't like as a person.

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 6,351 Online Community Team

    This is a really interesting question! I tend to agree with what @Mr_Shoes_Tied has said.

    I do think it's important to be attracted to your partner, but that maybe changes from typical initial attraction over time, especially if you've been together for a long time and had children etc. I've seen it turn into a different, perhaps deeper kind of bond/love with my grandparents which is super special.

    I definitely agree with answer 1 - Yes, because love is deeper than looks.

  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Community Member Posts: 1,423 Championing
    edited June 10

    I think physical attraction is important in day one and day 30 years later.

    I was first attracted to my wife when she walked into a pub and saw those big brown eyes.

    Fell in love weeks later because, no cliche meant, she really was more beautiful on the inside than what the world saw from her natural beauty

    So many people told us it wouldn't work out/ last … but we've proved them all wrong. Through thick and thin, but one thing we've still got is that attraction to one another. Even if I'm now a miserable sod and she's so happy it hurts my head

    She did admit when we first started going out, that when I had hair years earlier she didn't fancy me … but loved the shaved head with long lashes. And still does scars, wrinkles and gappy tooth when I don't wear my falsey 🤐

    Life is too short to spend it wasted on someone you've got nothing in common with, or don't fancy anymore … but I guess there isn't always a way out for everyone ?

    I'd go all 3 questions if something is worth saving

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 3,132 Connected

    To quote whoever it was that first said it "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", meaning a lady could possibly have a face like a dog's bum but they have a beautiful personality.

  • egiste2r
    egiste2r Posts: 161 Connected

    Why are you replying to a bot?

  • Mr_Shoes_Tied
    Mr_Shoes_Tied Community Member Posts: 142 Empowering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1131224#Comment_1131224

    Because I take things at face-value and bot or not, it's an interesting question and debate.

    What a great answer @WelshBlue and you and your wife sound really happy.

  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Community Member Posts: 1,423 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1131252#Comment_1131252

    Same as yours mate … same mindset there 😉

    As for happy. Yep we are. Even if I've done my worst to ruin it at times

  • egiste2r
    egiste2r Posts: 161 Connected
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1131252#Comment_1131252

    A dead computer is pretending to be a living person and wants to collect your data, which can then be used against you.

  • rubin16
    rubin16 Scope Member Posts: 1,591 Championing
    edited June 11
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1131306#Comment_1131306

    Then people wonder how they get scammed or hacked xD

  • Mr_Shoes_Tied
    Mr_Shoes_Tied Community Member Posts: 142 Empowering

    How is knowing whether I prefer looks or personality going to help someone hack or scam me?🙄

  • rubin16
    rubin16 Scope Member Posts: 1,591 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1131517#Comment_1131517

    You'd be surprised. One of the most easiest and simple ways to hack or attack someone is "Social Engineer" them. You do this by gathering lots of different information on a person to eventually to the point I know alot about you, once I know all your information I can start breaching your accounts, or even start doing identity fraud on you or target you for selected scams/frauds.

    Some don't even personally attack you they just gather as much information as possible and then sell that data to hackers/scammers on the dark web.

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