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Helenc44
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Hi, my name is Helen and I'm 44 from Newcastle Upon Tyne; I have Cerebral Palsy. Been a widow of nearly two years now, I'm just finding my feet or wheels in my case to life again and looking to make new friends, I'm a very out going person and like a good laugh.
If you want to know more please ask questions, look forward to meeting new friends
If you want to know more please ask questions, look forward to meeting new friends
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Welcome to the community Helen.
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Thanks Mark
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Hi @Helenc44, welcome to the community!
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Hello @Helenc44 Pleased to meet you welcome.
Glad you joined. Hope you make lots of new friends.
We are a friendly community.
Who care and share
Just let you know I am from the North East myself.
Love Newcastle love the Bigg Market, when I was a lot younger. Also the quayside love all of that.
In fact all the city has to offer. Been many times still the best night out ever.
Sorry if any body wants to contradict me do not mind.
Just it is, so there.
Please ask have you seen our posts and threads on cerebral palsy.
Worth a canny look as they say. In Geordie Land.
Have a look at our other discussions , lots of chat and information and advice.
Want a laugh have you played the word games. In Coffee lounge. Just a lot of fun a minute .
Take care
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Hello Helen @Helenc44 and a very warm welcome to you. Very glad to have you with us.
So what makes you smile, Helen? Or better still, laugh out loud?
Looking forward to getting to know you,
Warmest best wishes,
Richard
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hi @JennysDad thank u 4 the welcome . i'm not sure wat makes me laugh or smile anymore sadly. i am normally a very out going loud person but seem 2 have lost myself lately. look 4ward 2 getting 2 know u 2
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Hello Helen @Helenc44 and I'm sorry you're feeling a bit low. Any idea why you feel you have 'lost' yourself recently? Not that the world is a very fun place at the moment, I know, but if there is any way in which any of us, myself included, can help you find yourself again, don't hesitate to tell us.
Very sorry to hear that your husband passed away. I know that two years is a short time in grieving and hope you're getting by okay.
In your ID photo there appears to be a picture of an elephant on the wall. (Does that make it easier for you to 'address the elephant in the room' I wonder). More seriously, does it indicate a fondness for elephants, and perhaps for animals in general?
Here and listening,
Warmest best wishes to you,
Richard
@JennysDad
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@JennysDad I think i'm just finding dealing with full-time care and life without the hubby a bit too much atm, i'm so used 2 looking n thinking about the hubby i av 4got how 2 look after me on my own; thought things wud get easier now we coming 2 the 2nd yr of him dying but just seems 2 be getting harder dont no if its 2 do with my new found freedom n having full-time care all time but i just feel like i dont no who i am anymore as i always seem 2 be pleasing every1 else n not myself as i dont no how 2. plus i av a new carer n i just dont seem 2 be-able 2 take 2 her think its the age gap. im normally a happy go lucky person but 4 sum reason im in a dark place again; i will cum out of it sooner or later.
Yes i luv my animals, i have a cat but i do luv elephants
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It is a pleasure to read your words, Helen @Helenc44, though one cannot read some of them without a sense of sadness.
Unless they change their minds, Scope will be publishing a piece of mine about death and bereavement in the next few days. I lost my daughter, Jenny, over a quarter of a century ago. Losing a partner is going to be different, but there's enough of the same to help me understand at least a little of it.
Yes, you've lost your role in life, your reason - at times no doubt - your reason for living. And if your partner had any kind of disability (?) you've lost more besides. When we become 'carers' in any sense, caring becomes our world, so that even the end of care deprives us of something and compels us to try to find a new niche in the world. It's not easy. I was lucky, I think, in being rather forced into mine when my then wife walked out, leaving me to care for our surviving son. But nothing makes it easy. And there is no time limit to grief either. i can talk easily and freely about my daughter but it took me years to get there and, even now, it can sometimes catch me unawares.
Don't be shy of sharing your thoughts.
I too love elephants. My first stop whenever I get to a zoo that still has them. ZSL is my local one and they don't have them, which is rather a shame. I have an awful lot of zoo photos somewhere, but these days I spend most of my free time - when I'm not on here - feeding birds and squirrels in my local parks. Very, very fond of squirrels. Have two chintz cats, too, though they're getting rather old now.
Anything I can do to help, just say the word. Lovely to chat to you.
Warmest best wishes,
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Thank u Richard I also lost my dad the year be4 my hubby so finding it hard 2 know where i belong as they were both my only life 4 the last few yrs of their lives. anyway i guess i need 2 find peace within myself n let them rip as i no they wudnt want me 2 sad m they wud want 2 be happy n get on with my life, make new friends 1 of the reasons i joined this page. chat soon xx
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Hello Helen, @Helenc44.
That is an awful lot of loss in a very short time, and a huge change to begin to absorb.
Would it help to talk about your dad and husband? I'm perfectly willing to listen
Yours
Richard -
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